What You Do to Yourself Sometimes Can’t be Undone on Your Own

Positive thinking tip: Success is not a measure of how many problems we avoid; it’s a measure of how well we respond to the problems we have.

Jacob (18)

I was visiting my in-laws one evening when I signed in to my Facebook account and saw this post on my newsfeed. It was from my 18-year-old son. He said:

I just walked past my parent’s room and heard my 4 year old sister Sarah crying. My parents are gone so I thought she was in there waiting for Mom to get home. I tried to open the door but it was locked, so when I got into the room with a key and asked what was wrong, I saw that she had tied the ribbon of her dress to their bed. As I was struggling to untie it she said:

“I’na good tyer.”

Then she came and asked me, “Wanna know why I tied myself to the bed?”

I asked, “Why?”

“Because Bethany was being mean to me.”

That was the only explanation she gave me.

I guess the moral of the story is don’t be mean to your little siblings or they might lock themselves in a room and tie themselves to furniture with knots that they can’t undo on their own.

As my sweet little Sarah demonstrated, sometimes it’s our reaction to life’s disappointments and frustrations that becomes the real source of our problems. We only complicate matters when we react without calculated control over our thoughts.

The fact is, life will disappoint us, and frustrations are inevitable.  Our power to rise above such problems lies in how we respond to them.

The larger the problems, the greater the opportunity.

Bethany (7) and Sarah (4)

I echo my son’s moral – and would like to apply it to the world of adults:

If life is mean to you, don’t lock yourself in a room and tie yourself to furniture with knots that you can’t undo on your own.  

However, if you do find yourself “tied up”, pat yourself on the back for being a “good tyer” (be kind to yourself!) …and get help. You don’t have to stay stuck forever!

To see how I can help, and to learn how to choose your reactive thoughts carefully, visit ProsperTheFamily.com.

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11 thoughts on “What You Do to Yourself Sometimes Can’t be Undone on Your Own

  1. Wow, what an inspiring story! As I was reading it I was thinking about how I have done this in my own life. In fact, it is happening right now. I am looking to the future for something to happen so that I can do something else I want to do. I have “tied myself up” and am holding myself back from going for what I really want. I am now patting myself on the back for being a good employee for 20+ years and at the same time getting help with your wonderful program. Thank you – Thank you!

  2. We call this “cut off your nose to spite your face” at our home and unfortunatly have to remember that nothing is so bad that you can’t make it worse by responding poorly too it. Thanks so much for sharing what a great way to remember not to make things worse by tying ourselves up– 🙂 Love it

  3. That is so funny and so totally applicable! I love what you said, “The fact is, life will disappoint us, and frustrations are inevitable.” That’s life, so deal with the frustrations by believing that out of bad comes good, and learning to be happy no matter the circumstances. Something I am working on and getting better at everyday!

  4. A sweet and empowering message all the way around……I love the big brother part, and how he cared. And of course, the reminder via a 4 year old, that how I react to problems is the “moral of the story”. Thanks for the encouragement and insight.

  5. Hi, thank you for the wisdom shared. An open mind allows the wisdom to settle in me; the truth is the challenge – it’s always there and I have to rise to the occasion at all times. Thank you.

  6. Hello,
    Hope this day finds you happy and healthy. Your definition of success is inspiring and timely as confirmation of recent lessons learned. Much appreciated.
    Thanx Ed

  7. Ahhh, how true! So many times I’ve tied myself to the furniture with a knot I could not untie by myself! But you know something? I have this evidence of God’s love for me…He has always sent me a Big Brother (how Biblical!!!), or someone, who is able to set me free from my own folly! When I was young, I was extremely independent, and I didn’t WANT anybody’s help! But with the love of the ones who have helped me, I have healed from that, too, and am hoping to make equal or greater contributions to my world, much of it from my own experiences! I don’t recommend getting ourselves into troubles for the experiences’ sake, but if we find ourselves in a fix, at least we have the option of learning something from it, and teaching from this experience so others may profit from it, too. That seems to be the “purpose” of keeping journals, and the purpose of prophets who have written scripture: so we may learn from others’ experiences and avoid the same mistakes. At least I hope so.

  8. I love it, and it’s so true! Thanks for sharing, Leslie! I highly recommend Leslie’s products. They are a amazing tool to help you get “unstuck,” especially the FTMF course. It changed my life!

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