Positive thinking tip: Success is not a measure of how many problems we avoid; it’s a measure of how well we respond to the problems we have.
I was visiting my in-laws one evening when I signed in to my Facebook account and saw this post on my newsfeed. It was from my 18-year-old son. He said:
I just walked past my parent’s room and heard my 4 year old sister Sarah crying. My parents are gone so I thought she was in there waiting for Mom to get home. I tried to open the door but it was locked, so when I got into the room with a key and asked what was wrong, I saw that she had tied the ribbon of her dress to their bed. As I was struggling to untie it she said:
“I’na good tyer.”
Then she came and asked me, “Wanna know why I tied myself to the bed?”
I asked, “Why?”
“Because Bethany was being mean to me.”
That was the only explanation she gave me.
I guess the moral of the story is don’t be mean to your little siblings or they might lock themselves in a room and tie themselves to furniture with knots that they can’t undo on their own.
As my sweet little Sarah demonstrated, sometimes it’s our reaction to life’s disappointments and frustrations that becomes the real source of our problems. We only complicate matters when we react without calculated control over our thoughts.
The fact is, life will disappoint us, and frustrations are inevitable. Our power to rise above such problems lies in how we respond to them.
The larger the problems, the greater the opportunity.
I echo my son’s moral – and would like to apply it to the world of adults:
If life is mean to you, don’t lock yourself in a room and tie yourself to furniture with knots that you can’t undo on your own.
However, if you do find yourself “tied up”, pat yourself on the back for being a “good tyer” (be kind to yourself!) …and get help. You don’t have to stay stuck forever!
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