When Someone Steps on Your Hair

“Leaning into” your problem is less painful than pretending it doesn’t exist.

One afternoon as I was playing with my kids, my sweet little two year-old stepped on my hair.

The instant I felt the pain, I pulled away to get out from under her little feet. It was my instantaneous reaction, albeit not very smart.

Lesson learned:

When someone steps on your hair, lean in, and gingerly remove them from off your hair before pulling away.

I know, I know… it’s not an experience that most of the people in the world will ever have, but it reminded me of a principle worth mentioning.

When you have pain in your life, financial or otherwise, just don’t panic. Panic leads to instinctive reaction, and instinctive reaction oftens result in more pain overall than is necessary.

Subconscious programs kick in when you’re in “fight or flight” (panic/survival) mode.

The key is to lean into the source of your pain, address it without panic or negative emotion, and handle it with a cool head. You’ll be able to solve your problem and avoid unnecessary suffering.

If the problem is that you’re short on money, don’t retreat from your problems, lean in. Go to the person you owe money to, and talk to them about it with a cool head and with the intention of finding a workable solution. Even if there seems to be no possible way to repay a debt, expressing your intentions and regret can leave you feeling more positive than if you pretend the problem isn’t there.

With a positive mindset, you’ll be more likely to eventually think of new solutions you haven’t yet considered.

So, any time you want to instinctively pull away from a problem (hoping it will go away if you just retreat fast enough), remember the lesson I learned from the two year-old who stepped on my hair.

“What if I can never repay my debts? What if I have to file bankruptcy?”

Keep browsing this blog. You’ll learn how to find your hidden resources, and also how to turn failures into successes.

You can also download my free ebook: Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters

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The Zig Zag Principle for Success

Positive Thinking Tip: Pulling back or veering away from the goal is often a sign that you’re on the RIGHT track.

My NEWEST aha experience impacted me just about as much as each of the success principles I’ve been talking about now for the last ten years.

A friend of mine has built more than 12 companies: 1/3 were miserable failures, 1/3 did okay, and 1/3 were multi-million dollar successes – having started from nearly nothing.

Through those experiences, he has fine-tuned a process – identified a PRINCIPLE – that governs the success of businesses and business start ups.

I sat with him a couple weeks ago, having hit a brick wall in my own world and struggling to see what I was supposed to do next.  He knew just what the problem was – I had a blind spot – and he showed it to me.

The lights went on, and I have been awestruck by what I learned that day as I sat across the table from him. I had been feeling burned out, and viewed my desire to pull back from my goals as a sign of failure.  But he is a climber of Mt. Everest and explained that the climbers who charge for the top, taking the shortest route possible are often the ones who are found dead in the morning. He explained that the shortest route to success is NOT a straight line, and acclimation at each stage is critical for business longevity and overall profitability.

That’s when I realized that my gut instinct to pull back was good and right, and I was finally able to VIEW it in a positive light.  The glass which seemed half-empty (“I’m failing”) now seemed half-full (“I’m acclimating”), and the result was a new positive mindset. In my new mindset, I stopped feeling like I was doing something wrong, and once again felt qualified to receive  all I need for my greatest good.

This new point of view has given me permission to stop and take a breath as needed so that I can overcome adversity as it presents itself.

A book worth reading: The Zig Zag Principle

Because of how much the Zig Zag Principle has impacted my business, I want to make it easy for you to get your own copy.

Order his Zig Zag Principle book at:
http://zigzagprinciple.com

To your success!  Leslie

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