When Someone Steps on Your Hair

Positive Thinking tip: “Leaning into” your problem is less painful than pretending it doesn’t exist.

One afternoon as I was playing with my kids, my sweet little two year-old stepped on my hair.

The instant I felt the pain, I pulled away to get out from under her little feet. It was my instantaneous reaction, albeit not very smart.

Lesson learned:

When someone steps on your hair, don’t pull away. Lean in, and gingerly remove them from off your hair before pulling away.

I know, I know… it’s not an experience that most of the people in the world will ever have, but it reminded me of a principle worth mentioning.

When you have pain in your life, financial or otherwise, just don’t panic. Panic can lead to instinctive reaction, and instinctive reaction can often result in more pain overall than is necessary.

Subconscious programs kick in when you’re in “fight or flight” (panicked) mode.

The key is to lean into the source of your pain, address it without panic or negative emotion, and handle it with a cool head. You’ll be able to solve your problem and avoid unnecessary suffering.

If the problem is that you’re short on money, don’t retreat from your problems, lean in. Go to the person you owe money to, and talk to them about it with a cool head and with the intention of finding a workable solution. Even if there seems to be no possible way to repay a debt, expressing your intentions and regret can leave you feeling more positive than if you pretend the problem isn’t there.

With a positive mindset, you’ll be more likely to eventually think of new solutions you haven’t yet considered.

So, any time you want to instinctively pull away from a problem (hoping it will go away if you just retreat quickly enough), remember the lesson I learned from the two year-old who stepped on my hair.

“What if I can never repay my debts? What if I have to file bankruptcy?”

Keep browsing the 47Tips. I’ll show you how to find your hidden resources, and I’ll also show you how to turn unavoidable failures into successes.

The fact is, sometimes you’ve got to “pull the proverbial rabbit out of the hat” and just make things work (find your hidden resources); other times you have to find peace of mind and make the most out of an apparent failure (make sense out of setbacks). This site will help you do both.

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