Carrying a Heavy Burden? You can Still Fly.

A few years ago, I stepped outside of my home and unexpectedly witnessed what you see here – and it stopped me in my tracks.  It seemed impossible, but it was real.

A huge 747 airplane flew by so low, and so slow that it hardly seemed to be moving.  It appeared to hang in mid-air, defying gravity, and on its back was a space shuttle.

Now, I wasn’t living near a space station; I was in the middle of Orem, Utah at the time and never had any reason to expect to see such a sight out my front door. It flew so low that I could see the mountains above it.

I’ve always been baffled by how a Boeing 747 can soar through the air, let alone see it fly after having a heavy space shuttle placed on its back.

There have been times in my life when we have felt heavy financial burdens.  During those times, the dismal numbers made us feel it would be impossible to reach our goal with so much weight on our backs.

My husband and I would set a goal and enthusiastically go for it, but one glance over our shoulder and we’d be instantly discouraged by the burden, lose steam and give up.

What if the 747 pilot did the same thing?  What if he was halfway to his destination, successfully employing all the natural laws to keep the craft soaring, and suddenly glance to its back and think, “Whoa!  That’s too big for me!  I’d better slow down; conserve my fuel, or I might crash!”

The truth is, once the laws of aerodynamics are employed, he needs to remain steady and continue doing all that the laws require until he reaches his destination: keep his speed, tilt the flaps to maintain lift, etc.  Any interruption in his momentum, or pointing his nose down instead of up would likely result in failure.

Once we learned the laws of success and began applying them with consistency and patience, it became a whole lot easier to keep the momentum long enough to finally get where we were trying to go – even with heavy financial burdens on our backs.  Then after we reached our destination, we were finally able to set them down.

Learn the laws, then do something each day toward achieving your goal.  The laws will support small burdens in the same way they support heavy ones.

But either way, whether you’re trying to fly a paper airplane, or a Boeing 747 with a space shuttle on its back (figuratively speaking), you’ve got to move at the speed of flight. It can’t be done without some thrust.

You also need to face the wind and let it lift you, instead of trying to duck under it.  Follow the laws with precision and consistency until you’re at your destination.  No matter how long it takes to get there, each day you will get closer, and at the right moment, you’ll arrive at where you wanted to go.

Remember, don’t focus on the burden, focus on the destination, and live in alignment with the laws!

To learn more about how to do this, Click HERE to join me in a life-changing study of THE book that inspired my award-winning bestseller, The Jackrabbit Factor. Originally published December 4, 2009


Who Pushed the Apple?


As you learn more and more about this “Rare Faith” I talk about, you might be wondering if it’s based in science, or theology. I happen to think it’s got a solid foundation in both, and here’s why. Let me begin with a story:


Two brothers sit beneath a tree after a long journey. One is a quantum physicist, the other a theologian. They are both hungry, and soon the wind blows and the tree sheds an armful of fruit.

The physicist says, “How remarkable it is that my thoughts can cause the wind to blow so that the tree would drop these apples.”

The theologian says, “How wonderful it is that God heard my prayer and blessed us with these apples!”

With confidence, the physicist explains, “But, my dear brother, the apples dropped because of natural law.”

With a knowing smile the theologian replies, “Ah, but the apples dropped at that time because God heard and answered my prayer.”

After bantering back and forth for a time, the two brothers parted ways and were brothers no more, and the Great Unseen Force of the Universe, (with all the names it bears) was sad and preserved the rest of the apples on the tree for creatures bearing softer, purer hearts.


This rare kind of faith that I talk about (sometimes called the Law of Attraction—although a more complete discussion of rare faith includes at least 6 other laws) is an amazing phenomenon, and it has been known to stir up quite a controversy between people who want to know how it works with their belief in God, and those who prefer to explore it’s functions from completely academic or secular sources.

Let me just level the playing field here, so that brothers don’t have to part:

Truth Fits. Period.

If something is true, it will not contradict something else that is true. In the case of the falling apples, both explanations fit the experience, so each man may adhere to his own belief without necessarily negating the other. Nor is either one of them required to adopt the other man’s point of view.

They both have apples and should both be grateful. End of argument.

It reminds me of a story of several blind men who were brought to an elephant, having had no previous experience with one. They each described the elephant, and each had something very different to say. One man after reaching forward and feeling the animal’s side said, “An elephant is like a wall.” Another man holding the elephant’s leg said, “No, this is not like a wall at all, an elephant is like a pillar!” Another blind man who had grasped its tail exclaimed, “No, an elephant is like a rope!” One holding a tusk described it as a spear and the one holding its nose described it as a tree branch.

The men continued in a heated argument, each one absolutely certain that he was right and the others had to be wrong, until a wise man was able to explain that they were all right because the elephant did, in fact, have all of the features described.

Life is like the elephant. There are scientific ways to look at life and there are spiritual ways to look at the same life. We understand life best when we consider ALL possible aspects and see how they can fit together.

I’ve had readers tell me how grateful they are that they have found a place to learn about the law of attraction from a perspective that includes God. Other readers wish I’d do it more, while some wish I’d do it less.

With that in mind, imagine if we were on a field trip to the zoo and the elephant keeper was going to tell us about the elephant. Should we be offended if he neglects to call our attention to the abdomen? Should be be bent out of shape if he talks too much of its head and nose? If he says something about the insides of the elephant, (parts we can’t immediately see or prove) should we reject his whole presentation simply because he included something that required some faith to accept?

No, I think we’d just enjoy the presentation and graciously take the parts that provided answers to our own individual questions, leaving the rest without fuss or fanfare.

You’ll find people who teach the law of attraction in spiritual terms, and you’ll find others who describe it in more scientific terms. Both offer valuable insight that can help all of us improve the quality of our lives.

If religious or spiritual terms offend you, then simply substitute them with terms that fit your frame of reference. Call it Source Energy or Power or the Universe, or whatever keeps you from rejecting good information.

If the lack of spiritual or religious terms makes you nervous, then when you read material from those who use other terms, simply make appropriate substitutions as you go along and continue studying material that helps YOU gather all the useful information about how life works.

If you think about it, it’s simple. We’re all in this together, trying to build a happy life for our families, and we can really learn from one another by building on common ground. In this study of Rare Faith or the Law of Attraction, there is plenty of common ground to build upon.

Personally, I don’t see any contradiction. Together, both explanations have helped me understand life better. I believe God created the Universe and uses natural laws to deliver the goods.

It would be absurd to think that when an apple breaks from a tree, God needs to rush over and push it down. Fortunately, the law of gravity is already in place.

So I thank God for the goods. Others may thank the laws. In my opinion, both God and natural laws played a part, so I have no argument with the scientist.

When we live in harmony with the law of attraction, the “goods” of His creation will naturally find their way to us. By law they will, and we can depend on it. God understands all of the laws perfectly, and provides counsel in holy writings that supports the more secular descriptions of the phenomenon. I also believe he inspires scientists to discover truth about his creation to help us all improve our quality of life. Again, truth fits.

Quantum physics (and the commentaries in layman’s terms) have helped me understand how my thoughts can literally shape my circumstances. Theology has helped me understand who I am and why I’m here on this planet in the first place, and has kept me grounded so that I can use what I’ve learned with wisdom.

A person who has already discovered spiritual, eternal truths would be a fool to discard them upon their discovery of the laws that govern the physical world. And a person who only knows the physical world at its laws would be a fool to disregard the possible spiritual and eternal consequences of their pursuits.

The purpose of my business is to help families prosper through teaching the 7 Laws and how they work, laws that work whether or not a person believes they exist, and whether or not they believe in God.

Gravity pulls an apple to the ground whether or not you believe in the law, and whether or not you believe that a God created it.

When we understand and consciously live in harmony with the laws to build wealth, the prosperity comes just as dependably as the apple falling to the ground when it breaks from the tree.

That the results are dependable does not void the existence of God, nor does giving Him thanks for the resulting prosperity nullify the existence of the laws that delivered it.

For more on the laws that govern prosperity, read Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters. Originally published May 7, 2008


How to Survive the Downs

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Life is like a roller coaster. When things go downhill, throw your hands in the air and smile!

Have you ever met someone whose life seems to be falling apart and they’re happy anyway? Have you ever thought, “Wait a minute, you’re supposed to be miserable and depressed!”

It’s true. There are some who are simply in denial, and who hope that the problems will go away if they just ignore them. However, there are others who feel happy even when things are going down because they know a secret. They understand the 19 Rules of Prosperity.

These people can feel happy during a downturn because they know the ride never goes downhill forever. By law, it always turns upward again at the bottom – just like a roller coaster. They smile now because they’re focused on the longer term; and they’re already thinking about the joy and heights that life will take them to next.

Now, while we’re on this “roller coaster theme,” imagine you’ve saved for years to take your family to an exciting theme park on the other side of the country. You’ve pictured the laughter, the fun, the memories you plan to create: the joy of being together, the food, the free time; it’s all so very wonderful!

Now it’s finally time to take that trip. You enjoy a relaxing plane ride, settle in at the hotel, spend the night, and in the morning you have a full day to take in all of the theme park attractions. After entering the gate, you notice that just inside the entrance there are two roller coaster rides to choose from. The first one is called “Straight-Shot to Success” and goes like this:

“Straight Shot to Success”

You get on, and it pulls the line of cars all the way to the top of a twenty-story tower where ….

… it lets you off so you can climb down the stairs to do it again.

Look at the enthusiasm in this picture, just before unloading to climb down and repeat the experience all over again! (Wouldn’t it make for a pretty boring roller coaster ride? Yes. But isn’t that what we think we want out of life? A steady, predictable, safe and easy climb to success?) The thing is, if that’s what we got out of life, I think we’d feel pretty dissatisfied with the whole experience. Without the lows, the highs mean nothing.

So, let’s take a look at the second roller coaster ride called “Joy in the Journey,” which instead goes something like this:

“Joy in the Journey”

You get on, and it pulls you to the top of a big hill and then turns you loose into a series of ups and downs, loops and turns. Everyone is terrified and laughing, all at the same time.

Even when the people plummet at break-neck speeds straight toward the ground, they have a smile on their face.

Now, is that twisted, or what? Are they in denial?

No. They are genuinely enjoying themselves, because they know that the terror is temporary, that the danger is an illusion, and that it will come to an end. They know that they are in a controlled, safe environment that is simply giving them the appearance of danger. Deep down, they know everything is going to be okay in the long run.

Which rollercoaster ride do you think would have the longest waiting line? “Straight-Shot to Success,” or “Joy in the Journey?”

I choose the latter. Here’s what helps me endure the scary parts:

Believe it or not, like a roller coaster ride, Life itself is a safe environment, even with all its dangers.

Contrary to appearances, it truly is a safe place to be. From God’s vantage point, the things we fear are nothing to Him, including death itself.

Do you realize that the life you live is precisely the life you would have chosen all along? THIS is the life that brings you the greatest joy: the life with all the ups and aggravating downs. So be grateful for your downs, and as you allow your heart to swell with gratitude, you’re putting yourself into the right mindset to receive next the best “ups” that God has to offer.

The ups and downs we experience help us feel.

The change from up to down (or down to up) is precisely what makes it possible for us to recognize the difference from one emotion to the other. Like I said before, without the downs, the ups would be meaningless. The lows help us feel and appreciate the highs.

Bob Proctor says, “Most people tiptoe through life, trying to make it safely to death.” Do you see the irony in that? Instead, we should have courage and press on toward our dreams with full, fearless intention.

Fear not!

As Mark Twain said, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

You have a choice of what to think about. So think on the expected highs that put a smile on your face, instead of worrying about the imagined train wreck at the bottom of the hill that hasn’t even happened yet.

It is only when your heart is at peace that it is truly prepared to receive inspired solutions to your problems.

So, if you’re headed in a downward direction, be at peace. The tracks are bent and will surely guide your roller coaster car up to the top again in time. It’s going to be thrilling! And in fact, according to the Law of Rhythm, you’re already on your way. Originally published Mar 12, 2008


Must there be a struggle at all?

As described in Phase 2 of The Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse, we live in a Universe governed by natural laws, including the Law of Rhythm. We will have ups and downs, even if we’re on a very focused and determined “rabbit hunt.”

The good news is that the discomfort comes in surges. We’re given breaks along the way. We can expect to have relatively better days in between (and on either side of) the tougher days.

It’s like going through labor to bring a child into the world: The labor pains come in surges. However, nature gives the mother breaks so she can have a chance to gather strength.

Does there need to be a struggle at all?

I’m told that some women have learned the art of labor without pain or medication. (I was not one of them.) But I would guess their mental toughness was something that had to be developed, and I don’t know how it could have been developed entirely without the opportunity to practice during some pain.

The good news is that the baby will come, with or without pain. Experienced doctors and midwifes, however, will tell you that the more you fight the pain, the worse it hurts.

The same goes with giving birth to a dream. There is work to be done regardless, but it hurts less if you don’t fight the rhythm.

Progress happens better when you relax, in spite of hardships and apparent setbacks (which are really only “setbacks” as much as labor pains are considered “setbacks.” In reality, each one brings you closer to the goal if you are wise to see it for what it is.)

One thing is for sure, the joy at the end far surpasses whatever is required along the way. So, keep your eye on the prize and remember that NOBODY was ever pregnant forever! Originally published March 9, 2008


What happens when you’re grateful for EVERYTHING

God is a lawful being. There are absolute causes and effects in his law-governed Universe, and as we learn about and abide his laws, we can expect to enjoy the blessings connected to them.

I, the Lord, am bound when ye do what I say; but when ye do not what I say, ye have no promise.” (Doctrine and Covenants 82:10)

It was a profound moment for me when I stopped to realize that there’s a reason, a very specific reason for doing every good thing we’ve been taught to do.

“Be grateful” is not just a band-aid to distract you from pain. It is a law, connected to a blessing.

While you may be wondering if it’s even possible to feel grateful for everything, consider this:

Feeling good about your problems activates certain laws of success for happier outcomes. (And who doesn’t want happier outcomes?)

As I’ve said before, when you change how you feel, the nature of your surroundings begins to shift ever so slightly.

Because people can feel your emotions (even if only subconsciously), they respond to you differently when you change the way you feel. The customer service representative deals with you a little more kindly. The other driver lets you merge. The professor is a little more forgiving about your assignment.

“Let a man cease from his sinful thoughts, and all the world will soften toward him, and be ready to help him. Let him put away his weakly and sickly thoughts, and lo! opportunities will spring up on every hand to aid his strong resolves. Let him encourage good thoughts, and no hard fate shall bind him down to wretchedness and shame.” (James Allen, As a Man Thinketh)

Okay, all that’s fine and dandy—just change your thoughts and feelings and everything will go better. But I’m telling you what, it can be nearly impossible sometimes to even want to feel differently about things. I get it. I’ve been there, maybe even more than I haven’t been there.

But it’s okay. Sometimes we really DO need to give ourselves permission to just feel the full scope of sadness, disappointment or even anger that our situation warrants.

But here’s the trick:

Only go there with the plan to let it be temporary. The Law of Rhythm dictates that there must be ebbs and flows, ups and downs, and even sadness FOLLOWED BY HAPPINESS. But you don’t have to fake the shift, and you don’t have to force it. It WILL COME as a gift; your job is to simply hope for it, and allow it to happen. Don’t fight it when it tries to find you.

(Have you noticed? I think it may be trying to find you now…)

So allow yourself to be sad until you’ve felt it completely, but always maintain a hope and expectation that happiness will again eventually follow.

It happens after a change in perspective. You can help it along by first acknowledging the difficult place you’re in, but then as quickly as you’re able, be grateful for it. Lift your eyes and heart upward with hope—relying on the many promises you’ve been given, that your hope is indeed justified. No matter how ugly it is, be grateful.

Here’s the law:

  • This [is] the day [which] the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. (Psalms 118:24)
  • In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
  • And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. (Colossians 3:17)
  • And let the peace of God rule in your hearts … and be ye thankful. (Colossians 3:15)
  • O give thanks unto the LORD, for [he is] good: for his mercy [endureth] for ever. (Psalms 107:1)
  • Make a joyful noise unto the LORD, all ye lands. Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing…. Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, [and] into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, [and] bless his name. (Psalms 100:1-5)
  •  Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; (Ephesians 5:20)
  • We accept [it] always, and in all places …with all thankfulness. (Acts 24:3)

Here’s the promise:

  • For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life:
  • Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. (Psalm 30:5)
  • Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted
  • Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
  • Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven… (Matthew 5:3-12)
  • All things work together for good to them that love God, (Romans 8:28)

Do you see the Laws of Polarity and Rhythm depicted here? You are PROMISED comfort when you are sad. You are PROMISED resolution when there is difficulty. You are PROMISED a reward when there is injustice. You are promised ALL things will work together for your good if you love God.

How long you stay in pain may depend on how long you think only about the pain.

I’m convinced that God’s servants included so many hopeful verses to get us THINKING hopeful thoughts when we are in our pits of despair. Because, by the Laws of Perpetual Transmutation and Vibration, that is how we begin to move toward the happier half of the equation.

So let’s explore this. How can you feel good about all the bad stuff you’re dealing with?

It begins with choosing to believe in something that can’t be seen. Choosing to believe that something better is already on its way. Choosing to imagine that something more favorable is already in the works.

“…therefore if ye have faith ye hope for things which are not seen…” (Alma 32:21)

The Law of Polarity promises a potential blessing to compensate for every hardship. When you start looking for the promised benefit contained in your adversity, you no longer remain the limiting factor in what the positive outcome can be.

Without the glance to Moses’ staff, without the pause to remember the promises in the Beatitudes, without a shift in focus, the natural laws by which God governs can only be expected to bring more of the same unhappiness. Change begins when WE change.

Hope is the answer. At least it’s the beginning. So if you are suffering, take a moment to remember God’s promises. Rehearse them in your mind. Speak them out loud. Allow yourself to hope that they are true, and begin looking for evidence that they are already in effect with you, right now.

When you choose gratitude and trust in the Lord even (especially) during a hardship, you are promised a better outcome—in fact, the best there is to have.

Part of the requirement is to let go of the outcome. Let go of how you want things to be (even if only for a moment), and be grateful now, just as things are. TRUST that if you do this, the best possible outcome WILL be realized, even if you don’t know what that is, and even if you’re not sure it will be good enough to make the pain or disappointment worth it. You must TRUST that it very much WILL be worth it.

The Law of Polarity also promises that if something is just a little bit bad, then the hidden benefit is only just a little bit good. They are equal and opposite. So if you’re dealing with something catastrophic, the promised potential benefit is equally phenomenal. This is why the most unfortunate person in the room is, in reality, the luckiest of them all, for the potential benefit they will realize if they learn to think lawfully about it.

So look forward with hope to whatever that blessing may be. Expect it. Be grateful for it, even before it is yours.

I’ve learned (although sometimes I forget) that if I experience a terrible blow or disappointment, the sooner I get on my knees and thank God for the awful thing I’m experiencing, the sooner it passes. In those times, my prayers often sound like this:

“Dear Father in Heaven, -sigh- thank you for this challenge. I don’t know how it is good for me, or why I must endure it, but thank you for it. I’m sure there’s a good reason, and I look forward to discovering what it is. Thank you for giving me a bad day (week, month, year…) if for no other reason but that I will know a good one when I have one. Help me through this. Help me find the hidden blessing in it. (Then I pause to really feel what I’m saying, and I try to imagine how he sees me in that moment. I imagine him feeling proud of me for choosing gratitude in spite of the circumstances. Then I close my prayer…) In Jesus’ name, amen.”

When I do this with sincerity, I absolutely feel a shift every time, and I know that the future outcome just changed for the better. I know it. And it has yet to fail me. I’ve been able to look back every time and see why my gratitude was not in vain.

Example: How a bad experience can be good

I think of the story shared by Corrie Ten Boom who suffered many difficulties in the German Concentration Camps. At one time, she and her sister argued about whether they must really express gratitude to God for even the fleas that infested their quarters. They were women of faith, but this was a tough thing to do. As it turned out, many of the other prisoners were regularly troubled by the guards, but Corrie and her sister were left alone—because of those horrible fleas.

As Napoleon Hill so eloquently stated, “Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.” So yes, we can be grateful for even the fleas, and even the hardships we face today. In truth, all things can work out for our good if we expect them to, looking forward to the understanding that will eventually come, and allowing the good to emerge through the tragedy like a gleaming sunrise after the coldest, darkest night. Remember, it’s always darkest just before the dawn.

As M. Catherine Thomas said in her book, Light in the Wilderness, “…if you wish to feel the most penetrating power of the Spirit, try the experiment of giving thanks in the moment of disappointment, of tragedy, of the specter of ruin. When you are able to do it consistently, you will feel as though you have discovered and united with the mystery of life.”

To learn more about the Laws, read Hidden Treasures. (FREE!)

And please, share this article with someone who needs an uplift today. Originally published April 6, 2012.


These Prosperity Laws Aren’t Working!

Here’s a question I received that I think is worth discussing. The reader said:

“Since reading the Jackrabbit Factor and feeling elated, it seems that our finances have gone down the tubes. I have not been able to pay bills on time, money is taking longer than usual to come in, we have bounced checks, etc. I know right now I am dwelling on the negative, but wondered why this is happening just at the time that I feel I have discovered the answer?”

Here’s my reply, somewhat modified:

When you’re aiming for big changes, it’s normal to face equally big setbacks, which test your commitment to achieving the goal. Success does not come as a result of what happens to you, but from thinking right in the face of adversity; and as we know, there will be opposition in all things.

Related: Do the challenges EVER stop?

In other words, the adversity IS the opportunity. Think right, right NOW, and you will unlock the door to greater success than would have been possible without the adversity.

Stop and ponder that one for a moment.

The good news is that the Supply is unlimited. We must remember that all things come from Original Substance and nature is abundant. Prosperity abounds!

So if we experience “lack”, it is not because there is lack; there is only abundance. In this very moment, you have all you need. It is when we think ahead to future needs that we look at our “limited” supply and worry that it won’t last. (‘Future’ meaning 5 minutes from now or 50 years from now, the principle is the same.)

In this moment, we can be grateful.

We have the air we need to breathe, a heart that pumps oxygen to all of our limbs, stores of energy to keep our heart pumping; yes, in this moment we should be calm and grateful that God has supplied us with everything we need here and now.

No matter what anticipated troubles may come tomorrow, in this very moment, God has provided abundantly. To worry is to resist a situation that hasn’t even happened yet. As you may have heard, that which we resist, persists. Consider Mark Twain’s comment, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

When we worry, we cut off our mind to possible solutions.

Prosperity becomes elusive and hidden. We must relax, hope, expect, and look for the solution which, by law, must exist. Every problem has a solution, by the law of polarity.

Challenges are healthy for us, because they require us to stretch our limits and grow. We can pause and be grateful for the challenge, because it turns our thoughts toward our Father in Heaven. Anything that does that is a blessing, for we are promised that as we draw near unto Him, he will draw near unto us.

Let me share a segment from another powerful book that takes a Christian approach to the law of attraction:

“’Man’s extremity is God’s opportunity’ is true, for when man reaches his limit, he hopelessly stops his efforts. When he relaxes from his strain, the Law has a chance to reply to his desires, and things begin to change for him…

“The mind is like a sponge. We squeeze it hard with our anxious thoughts, but not until we can release the pressure and allow the sponge to take its normal shape can it become absorbent and receptive again.” (“Working with the Law”, p 82-83, Raymond Holliwell)

Finally, an understanding of the seven laws is imperative when things don’t appear to be going the way you expected. The whole objective is to “think right” when things go wrong, because if you do, you can be sure that the best possible outcome will be yours, and will soon enough be reflected in reality. Feeling gratitude now, no matter what is going on in your life, is the quickest way to flip the switch and prepare your mind for answers.

For more about what to think when you don’t know what to think, read Hidden Treasures (it’s free).

Prosper on! Originally published Apr 19, 2007


Nix the Scorekeeping

If you’re married and working toward a goal, sometimes living the principles can be especially challenging because deep down you have certain expectations of what your spouse is supposed to be doing.

Heck, it can be hard enough achieving goals with all the lofty expectations of what YOU are supposed to be doing!

At one time I had to come to terms with the fact that I was in another one of those “temporary seasons of imbalance” and decided to just hunker down and get through it. My husband agreed, and was there to support me, filling in gaps wherever he could, rather than getting frustrated that there were gaps to be filled.

What an example. I have often struggled to reciprocate that same kind of support.

He and I run through life at a different pace. I’m a sprinter, while he’s a distance runner. I burn out, while he steadily plugs along. So there have been many, many times when our mutual goal setting efforts have ended in shipwreck.

I’ve pondered this dilemma deeply, because it’s common among many couples. I’ve seen more than one relationship crumble under the weight of such differences. Sometimes I think it’s a wonder that we’ve made it through those times with our marriage still in tact.

Marriage requires adjustments and compromises. It might even require unplanned course-changes, which is why it’s important to establish your priorities early with clarity and resoluteness.

I’ve abandoned goals that threatened to compromise my top priority: my marriage covenant. My husband has abandoned goals if they’ve put a strain on our relationship. I’m not saying that is good, bad, or indifferent; I’m just saying that when your values, priorities, and ideals are in stone, then decisions, sacrifices, and disappointments can eventually be resolved with greater serenity.

(I understand some marriages need to end. But that’s a topic for another day, and probably for someone more qualified to address.)

Marriage also requires patience, and an understanding that we all have ups and downs (Law of Rhythm). Most of the time, I was up while he was down, or I was down while he was up.

That’s life.

So in your marriage, even if you’re both working hard to learn and understand the laws of success, you’ll learn them and apply them at different paces and in different ways.

When you’re in the groove, your spouse may struggle. When you’re spouse is on a roll, you may struggle. How, then, can you succeed as a couple if you can’t seem to get it right at the same time?

Count your blessings if the above description sums up your relationship. The Law of Rhythm states that everything in life is cyclical. We will have up days and we’ll have down days. When you’re on an up, go ahead and get a whole bunch of stuff done! Take advantage.

When you’re down, go with it and let it serve its purpose (as described in Hidden Treasures), with an expectation that your turn for an up day is on its way.

Don’t allow yourself to feel frustrated when the two of you can’t seem to make quantum leaps forward together. It is GOOD that you’re on different tracks, because if you both were to crash at the same time, who’d be there to pick up the pieces?

Allow yourself to feel the joy that comes when you say, “It’s okay, you can have a down day, and I’ll carry the torch until you come around.”

Imagine how that would make your partner feel. You’ve just turned a frustration into a blessing, which is a key skill for building a mindset for success. The goals you strive for will continue to move toward you as you show compassion to your spouse in his or her valley, and refuse to keep score.

Take responsibility. The minute you begin to fume and fuss over what someone else is doing or not doing, you lose power. Instead of passing judgment, be grateful for his/her companionship, and the opportunity you have to grow through the experience.

Find the good. Think on the positive aspects of your spouse. Think and speak about the good things, and the good will grow. Don’t expect everything to be fixed overnight. Some of our challenges have taken ten, even twenty years to resolve. What kept us going was a common belief that we’d eventually figure it all out. Some days I wasn’t so sure, and on other days I’m certain he wasn’t so sure. But there has always been at least one of us believing, or when perhaps if we were ever both in doubt, we didn’t speak of it because failure was not an option.

Move forward with faith, and if you are struggling now because of a conflict with your spouse, count it a blessing (Law of Polarity) and start looking for the seed of equal or greater benefit contained in the adversity.

“Never let a problem to be solved” [or a goal to be achieved] “become more important than a person to be loved.” ~ Thomas S. Monson

Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition. You don’t ‘divi’ up the responsibilities and then critique your partner’s performance on his/her share. It’s a 100/100, or perhaps even a 110/110 proposition.

Do what you can do, even if it means sharing the other person’s load. Even if it means carrying the whole load for a while. Sometimes it may feel like 150/20. Maybe it feels that way most of the time. But if you try hard enough, and are willing to see it, I’ll bet you can remember at least once when it was 10/130. We all take turns, even if sometimes that turn goes on for years.

Whatever the numbers are, how you let yourself feel about carrying more than your “fair” share may well determine your future success. It also may very well determine how quickly things shift.

But if you begrudge the load, you rob yourself of the joy AND potential prosperity (monetary or otherwise) that is waiting for you on the other side of the adversity.

Remember, through natural law, God’s universe responds to the feelings you emit. So for now, try feeling grateful that you are able to help today. What if, for some reason, you couldn’t help, even if you wanted to?

Things could always be worse (Law of Relativity).

So don’t keep score. Inevitably, there will be a day when you are the one who needs to be carried. Serve with joy here and now, sacrifice whatever is necessary in the short term to make it work, and you’ll both reap great benefits soon enough.

Nag not. Be patient. Allow those you love to grow at their own pace. I know, it may delay the prize, but you may discover that the prize without your relationships in tact may not be a prize at all.

And if your spouse isn’t on board in the least with the things you’re learning, you can still prosper; you can still succeed. Have faith in God’s ability to show you how to achieve your dreams without compromising your values, even if you’re the only one who believes in them.

As Wendell Phillips said, “One, on God’s side, is a majority.”

Related: What if My Spouse Doesn’t Think Positive? Originally published March 13, 2007


Using the Vacuum Law to Replace a Car


One of my readers submitted an excellent question. He and his wife had been studying the book Hidden Treasures, and wanted to use the Vacuum Law of Prosperity as described in the final chapter to replace their car. Read their question below, and then see how I answered them. (Names have been changed):


“I re-read Hidden Treasures, finishing it last night with my wife. When we got to the bonus chapter about nature abhorring a vacuum …it asks what is something we own that we don’t like. Well, that would be our car – we still owe close to $6,000.00 on it, but we would love a new suburban. If we paid off the car and gave it away, is that along the lines of this law, or would that be out of line? Also, if we donate the vehicle, we thought it might be best not to give it to a family member, (I don’t want the whole “Oh, look how much money Joe and Susan are showing off” thing.) Anyway, we just wondered what a pro at the laws would recommend? Thanks, Joe and Susan”

My Reply

Creating a vacuum doesn’t always have to mean giving an object away. You can use the “nature abhors a vacuum” principle also by simply giving someone a good deal on it. If you owe money on the car and can sell it to cover your costs, no matter how you get rid of it, you have created the vacuum.

God knows that you need wheels, and making space for a more reliable set would be the overall objective.

When you are first getting started on applying these principles, allow yourself to be comfortable receiving money that is potentially available to you in exchange for resources you already have.

This is not to say that just giving the car away wouldn’t work; it may be a question of how much experience you’ve had with seeing the principles work, and whether or not your psychology is strong enough to keep your head straight while you wait for the results.

Losing curtains or carpet for a while is inconvenient, but it probably would not cause a panic attack. During the testing period, especially where you may be putting the principle to the test for the first time, would giving up $6000 and a car be too much of a hit on your psychology?

No matter what you decide to give away, there is a period of time where your faith is tested. Make sure you are absolutely clear on why you are giving it away, what you are seeking in its place, and trust your gut to do the right thing to get it.

Giving it away outright could be a powerful exercise of your faith, but based on my own experience in the early days, there’s nothing wrong with testing the principles first on things that didn’t hold as much resale value, like furniture or clothing.

Having tested the principles on less significant needs, we have since exercised the principles on at least two cars, where we sold them quickly, giving the buyer a killer deal. The vacuum law still worked, even without giving it away completely free. We still got the better car that we needed.

For example:

I remember a time when one of our cars was a constant thorn in our side. My husband complained about it for a year, until we realized that this was probably a good time to test the principle. Out of fear, we had clung to that car because we didn’t believe we could afford to replace it.

Finally, after studying the principles, we gained the courage to let it go, with no knowledge of what we’d do without it. We made arrangements to sell it CHEAP, just to get rid of it, and it was gone. A scary time!

For a week he had to deal with getting himself to work – 2 1/2 hours each way – while he shopped for a replacement. Talk about inconvenience! I think he hitched rides and then borrowed his brother’s car for a while, but not having his own wheels really got on his nerves, so he found the focus and determination to get the problem solved once and for all.

He had been dissatisfied with his car for a year, but until he burned his bridges, he didn’t need to make something happen. Now, he did, and he was.

After a week, he found the car to match his description on Ebay Motors (believe it or not). He put in his bid and ended up winning the car for $2000 less than TRADE IN value. It was in pristine condition. In fact, the bid ended on a Sunday, and since we had decided long ago that we would avoid business on the Sabbath, we took a leap of faith and let the bid expire. We figured it was either our car or it wasn’t, and that if it wasn’t, there’d be a better one to come along anyway.

The next day, the seller made contact with us and asked if we still wanted it, even though the auction was over. We agreed, hopped on a plane to Georgia to pick it up, and drove it home together. I was able to do a workshop while I was there, so the trip became a write-off, too!

This whole experience forced us to think outside of the box on ALL fronts. How insane is it to buy a car on the internet, sight unseen? With the cost of airfare, babysitter fees, and a couple of hotel costs on the way, we were still ahead by taking advantage of this situation. He got exactly what he asked for, and we had a great time watching it all come together. How fun it can be to allow things to come into your life, and what a bonding experience it was to take that road trip home together!

So, to sum up, Joe and Mary, you don’t have to donate the car to still see the “vacuum” law of prosperity work. Give someone a good deal, and be absolutely specific in knowing what YOU want. You’ll find the way.

As Wallace Wattles taught, “…in so far as your business consists in dealing with other men, …the key-thought of all your efforts must be to convey to their minds the impression of increase… You must so impress others that they will feel that in associating with you they will get increase for themselves.”

WARNING: Do not apply this Vacuum Law without understanding it completely first! To get the whole explanation, read the FREE ebook: Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters. Originally published September 20, 2006.


The THOUGHTS That Count


If we could conduct a scientific experiment with all the variables perfectly controlled where two people with the same upbringing, experiences, DNA, and everything else were thrown the very same challenge, their circumstances from that point on would be different from each other – depending on their thoughts.

Now, I can’t prove it. But I know it’s true. I’ve seen a very real and strong connection between the thoughts I choose and the results I get.

So knowing this, I try to choose empowering thoughts, believing in the long run that it will make a difference.

I choose to believe that the challenge (however ugly it may be) is for my good, and I choose to look for a lesson in it. I choose to believe that something phenomenal can come out of tragedy. As I do this, things always seem to work out better than when I don’t.

While my observations don’t qualify as a scientific experiment under the scientific method, after seeing it work this way for more than 20 years, what I do know is that life seems to go much better when we try to practice faith.

Science has been trying to nail down the effects of our thoughts on the world around us (Quantum Physics); but until they can really dial it in AND get it into the school textbooks on an elementary level, we’re left to experiment with the ideas in our own laboratory of life.

Am I always successful at optimizing my outcomes?

Of course not. And honestly, most of the time I don’t FEEL like choosing better thoughts. But the effects are just as connected when I VIOLATE the “laws of thought” as when I OBEY them.

Learning the laws has simply helped me remember why to choose my thoughts, with absolute certainty that the results for good or for ill will unfailingly follow.

Related: What if it’s impossible to always think right perfectly?

One thing I’ve learned is that if I can imagine it, it’s possible. By LAW. An amazing concept. Not possible because it’s one of those nice clichés that make you feel good, but because there is actually a fundamental law of the Universe that says nothing is ever done without first a thought – AND – that if it can be thought, it can be done. (Not that we always get it figured out in our lifetime.)

Here’s an example:

Two years before releasing my books I didn’t believe I could be a best-selling author. But, somewhat as (not much more than) an experiment, I decided to apply the laws of thought just to see if I COULD.

AFTER choosing my goal (and, admittedly it was TOUGH getting that one on paper, because it was the most outlandish goal I had ever set in my life), I composed my goal statement, which ended up being about eight pages long. (For guidance on composing an effective goal statement, join me in my Mindset Fundamentals™ Ecourse.)

The next thing I did was to read my statement every day before working on the book. I actually put it at the top of my manuscript document, so I read through it before picking up where I had left off each time. I find it interesting that the details of the story came to me AFTER I made the decision to write a best-seller.

(You get what you ask for out of life, so ask largely. We don’t do something remarkable because we already have all we need to do it; the things we need often only come to us AFTER we’ve decided to do something remarkable. It’s just how it works.)

Most aspiring authors write something and then hope it gets picked up by some influential publisher who will promote it and make it a best-seller. It doesn’t always work that way, I’ve learned. For one thing, whether or not you’re picked up by a publisher, it’s typically still 100% your responsibility to make it go. I recommend a person decides to be a best seller even before they begin writing. Don’t you think a person will be more in tune to receive remarkable ideas if they decidedly expect to create something remarkable?

Anyway, after about two months of reading my statement nearly every day, I BEGAN to think that maybe I could. I had no clue how I would, but I began to think it might be possible.

How many people are willing to read something absurd over and over again until it doesn’t seem absurd anymore? This goal-setting/achieving business is such an interesting process.

Then, out of the blue, certain people came into my life who helped me through each step in the process: people who knew exactly what I needed to learn or do next. They came to ME. Serendipitous encounters, as though I had broadcasted my needs with a megaphone, although I did not.

I’m convinced that it was my THOUGHTS that counted.

By my thoughts, I eventually tuned in (like a radio dial) to all the help I needed, because my mind was focused and I finally believed. Like a magnet! Do you realize that all you need will come to YOU as you get your thoughts right, and as you keep moving your feet in the right direction?

Remember, you don’t have to “go the distance”; you only have to meet success half-way. Every time you take a step, it takes a step towards you.

After I finally began to believe my goal statement might actually come true, a Jewish man from New York contacted me after reading my Hidden Treasures ebook. He said that he thought I might have a best-seller there. His contact was particularly unexpected, because my book was originally intended for people of my faith, so In my opinion, it was quite the compliment to receive praise from someone of a different faith. I thanked him, and said, “Actually, it’s the book I’m writing now that I hope to be a best seller,” (because I thought its audience may be wider than the first.)

He informed me that he was currently working with a team of people to help Jack Canfield launch his book Success Principles, and he wondered if I’d be interested in joining their team. I agreed, not having a clue what they would have me do. Through my participation as a volunteer in that campaign, I learned how to launch a best-seller. A few months later, when Jackrabbit Factor was complete, I followed the same simple steps to outrank the new Harry Potter release for about six hours, more than enough time to claim my own title and officially make Jackrabbit Factor a best-selling book.

It happened. On August 30, 2005 “The Jackrabbit Factor” became a best seller. From there it went on to be recognized in multiple literary contests, continues to rank on other best seller lists, and has since been picked up by international publishers and translated into multiple languages.


But was that first little victory exhilarating? Was it a rush?

(Laughter) Actually, NO.

Was I disappointed?

Of course not.

Can you guess why?

I’ll tell you. It’s because I had already lived the thrill repeatedly in my head for more than a year.

It was more like, “Okay, now I can finally check that one off the list – another crazy idea which finally became real, just as predicted.” And then it was time to set another goal.

It was just proof again that the goal setting process, properly followed, works.

Ironically, the process described in the story itself is the same mental process I went through to achieve best-seller status. If you’ll just decide what you want, I can tell you exactly how to get it. Simply read “The Jackrabbit Factor: Why You Can”.

Read (or re-read) The Jackrabbit Factor FREE here Originally published September 5, 2005


Heaven’s Help with Money Matters

Does life ever seem unfair?

Maybe you’ve dealt with more than your fair share of financial struggles. Perhaps you’ve had the feeling that your big break is just around the corner, but that corner never comes. Learn the seven laws that govern the flow of blessings you receive. The laws are like a kite string… and we are the kite. Without the string, we are tossed in the wind, and struggle to soar. But with an understanding of the laws, we can rise to remarkable heights.

As we learn the laws and live by them, we come to realize how much God’s hand is in everything around us. He is a God of order; this is an orderly universe. All that seems so random is not random at all. Learn the laws, live by them, and watch your life take dramatic turns towards greater prosperity.

Have you ever violated a traffic law? How many times? How many times have you been caught? When we talk about law, it is natural to immediately think of the kind of laws with which we are most familiar. In our everyday life, we are more likely to chat with our spouse or a friend about the guy who cut us off to make an illegal lane change, or the new tax bracket that we just qualified for. These are kind of mushy laws, though. I mean, these laws are supposed to be strictly observed, but when they are not, sometimes the violator suffers a civil consequence; sometimes it seems to go unpunished.

So when someone tries to tell you that there are natural laws of success, there is a tendency to think, “I wouldn’t bank on it. Sounds like a ‘get rich quick’ scheme. They are only after my money. There is no such thing as ‘one formula fits all’ to making money.”

Let me explain something… when you think of law, don’t think of man-made laws. They are not absolute enough to compare with the ideas I will be presenting here. When I say “law”, rather think of something like gravity. Gravity is a natural law (a law of nature) that is dependable and constant. You don’t have to believe in it, you don’t have to like it, you don’t even have to understand it. You are still subject to it. Everything is subject to it. When we seem to “defy” it, it is because we are using other laws that are dependable and constant as well. We can use our knowledge of laws to our advantage. Ignorance of the laws leaves us limited in our abilities.

One thing I like to point out at this stage of the game is the following idea. With reference to the fact that you don’t have to believe in a law to be subject to it, picture this: Suppose that you have firm belief in “mind over matter.” You choose not to believe in the law of gravity. You decide that you don’t want to be subject to it any more. So you go to the edge of a cliff, and with all of the positive thinking you can muster, you step off. It is no surprise that, once again, gravity proves true and your “mind over matter” turns into a “mind all~a~smatter.”

“Mind over matter” is a true principle, don’t get me wrong. But it only works when we apply it in harmony to natural laws. Remember that as you read on; because, if you find that you are having a hard time believing any of the laws that I will present, so be it. Just remember that it will save you from a lot of pain if you choose to believe them anyway.I think that traffic laws should rather be called “traffic codes of conduct”. Tax laws should be called “tax rules”. We need them, but they aren’t as dependable as the term “law” would indicate. For sake of this course, it is important that when we say law, we are talking about something absolute, something unbreakable, something that just “is”. You cannot break a law, you can only break yourself against it. If you violate the law, you will most definitely be sorry you did, and unfortunately there is no mercy if you are ignorant. The consequences will come regardless of your understanding of the law.

I think that traffic laws should rather be called “traffic codes of conduct”. Tax laws should be called “tax rules”. We need them, but they aren’t as dependable as the term “law” would indicate. For sake of this course, it is important that when we say law, we are talking about something absolute, something unbreakable, something that just “is”. You cannot break a law, you can only break yourself against it. If you violate the law, you will most definitely be sorry you did, and unfortunately there is no mercy if you are ignorant. The consequences will come regardless of your understanding of the law.

Spiritual laws can be conditional. Sin is when you transgress a spiritual law after you have been given the law and are capable of understanding it. Suppose a 1 year-old snatches a toy from his 3 year-old brother. The spiritual law, had he completely understood it would have instructed him “thou shalt not steal”. If he knew better and did it anyway, that would have been sin. Of course, a 1 year-old is incapable of understanding such a principle, so he is innocent. John 9:41 says, “Jesus said unto them, If ye were blind, ye should have no sin: but now ye say, We see; therefore your sin remaineth.”

Think again about the baby. He doesn’t understand the spiritual law, so he will not suffer the consequences typically attached to violation of that spiritual law. However, the natural law of Cause and Effect is an absolute law. No allowance is made for ignorance. The baby stealing the toy from his brother will discover the effects of this law when his older brother begins screaming and perhaps inflicting pain on the poor child!

Understand that God did not apply the consequence. The consequence was spontaneous and natural. I believe that God would prefer his children suffer no pain, but we live in a natural world that is governed by natural laws. Natural laws are laws that even God will not alter. He does not control the outcome of abiding or violating them. Yet he does understand them perfectly, and tries to teach us through the scriptures and His prophets how to live in harmony with them. The beautiful thing about understanding them is that if we choose to live in harmony with them, we will also be following God’s spiritual laws because they are in harmony with each other. We will find that we can enjoy happiness and peace and abundance now, and eternal joy in the hereafter. What more could God want for His children?

Are we supposed to be poor? What about Matthew 10:25? “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.” I have heard it said that in the days of Jesus, the eye of a needle represented an entryway to a city. It was small enough for a camel to enter, only if the camel crawled through on its knees. Humility, and a willingness to remove all extra baggage.

Whenever riches are obtained in an “unlawful” manner, specifically, in violation of natural laws, the prosperity is temporary. Many get rich on a competitive plane. Picture a pie, divided into 4 parts. If your piece of the pie represents the prosperity or wealth you enjoy, then to get more, someone must get less. But you will see that to obtain wealth on, rather, a creative plane, what you are doing is adding some pie to the outer rim of your piece, increasing the diameter of the pie, and thus creating a bigger pie for everyone. This is in harmony with natural law, and spiritual law.

So ultimate success = happiness and abundance here and now, and a heavenly reward in the hereafter. It is a worthy thing to desire, and you can have it.

“Ask, and it shall be given you,” Matthew 7:7. The problem is, we don’t really believe it, because we don’t know that there are absolute laws that we can depend on. If you lack faith in God, then you can trust the laws and it will strengthen your faith in God. Isn’t that wonderful?! Laws should not be viewed as ‘restrictive’ any more than a kite should see its string as ‘restrictive’.

Get a FREE downloadable copy of the rest of this bestselling book HERE. Originally published on April 29, 2003