Things Undone

Positive Thinking Tip: Clear out the cobwebs of your life. it will be worth it. You’ll travel the rest of your journey much lighter, and you’ll definitely go much farther.

We feel happiest when we are on the grow, and striving for something more. Whether we are striving for better physical health, financial health, emotional health, or healthier relationships – it just feels good to improve.

And although we should certainly practice gratitude for all we already have, if we’re not also reaching for SOMEthing else, we stop growing and start decaying. There is no standing still.

But sometimes we begin our next journey with too much in our backpack.

If there’s ‘junk’ from your past that is affecting your self-confidence, it can feel like carrying a bag full of rocks, which only makes your journey more difficult.

No, I’m not going to define ‘junk’. If you have some, you probably already know what I’m talking about. I’m not talking about times when you’ve been a victim… that’s not the kind of junk I’m talking about. (Although holding grudges can count for some seriously heavy rocks, and emotional trauma can really be debilitating.)

For this post, I’m talking about the kind of junk that you are personally responsible for, and over which you have some immediate control.

If you’ve done something you regret, and have not ‘taken care of it’, then your self-confidence will be affected and your ability to have faith in reaching your goals may be adversely affected, too.

If you are a ‘perfectionist’, stop here and read this instead.

You may or may not be a religious person, but I believe it’s important to get your heart lined up with your Creator before you launch an all-out quest for the abundant life. If there are ‘things undone’ in your life that need repair, your conscience knows it, and it’s liberating to make things right to the best of your ability, first.

By doing so, you become more confident that your purpose for seeking abundance is for a good and worthy reason. As it says in Matthew 6:33: ‘But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things (might I say: everything you need) shall be added unto you.’

With the self-confidence that results, your faith in yourself, and in God who helps you, will be stronger than ever.

I picked this topic today because of a great lesson I heard on Sunday. It posed the question: when we make a mistake, do we try to excuse it and cover it up? Or do we take responsibility, confess it completely where needed, and face the consequences?

To answer that, imagine this:

If you had a pile of dirt, and you wanted to hide it, would covering it up with more dirt take care of it? No. It only makes the pile bigger and more conspicuous. While it appears you’ve successfully covered it up, you’ve only turned it into a bigger pile.

A wonderful speaker by the name of Richard G. Scott said it this way: ‘Do not take comfort in the fact that your transgressions are not known by others. That is like an ostrich with his head buried in the sand. He sees only darkness and feels comfortably hidden. In reality he is ridiculously conspicuous.’

God knows, the ‘Universe’ knows, and YOU know.

A person’s self-esteem and confidence only grows when s/he seeks courage to face the music, make things right as best they can, and restore self-respect.

Life on the other side of it is full of light. It is free, it is liberating, and worth whatever price it takes to finally do the ‘things left undone’. It is even worth risking one’s relationship with another human being to make things right with one’s Creator. In fact, our relationships with those we love may actually be strengthened in the long run when we do our best to put ourselves right with God. After all, being in the right with God is the only thing that really matters anyway. If you’re not religious, you can call it being true to your conscience.

I want you to succeed. I want you to experience abundance in all areas of your life, including financially. I think many of my readers are Christian (not all, but many), so I’m also going to include another passage: ‘And after ye have obtained a hope in Christ ye shall obtain riches, if ye seek them; and ye will seek them for the intent to do good.’ (Jacob 2:19)

Now, this is an unusual topic for my newsletter, I know. I also realize this message isn’t for everybody right now, but it may be for somebody. To embark on a quest with a backpack full of stones can be exhausting and frustrating. Let’s keep our loads as light as we can along the way by identifying each stone we carry, taking it out, putting it down, and leaving it behind.

Now, what if someone finds out you have stones in your backpack? How mortifying that could be!!!

Realize this: everyone has stones in their backpack at one time or another in their life. And in truth, there is more shame in carrying them around in secret than there is to taking them out and putting them down, even if those around you get a glimpse. In fact, doing so just might inspire someone else to have enough courage to do the same.

There are amazing, wonderful, abundant blessings awaiting you. Take care of things undone, so you can move forward and claim all there is to enjoy out of life. If there’s fear associated with considering such a step, understanding the “stickman” illustration can be VERY empowering. To understand fear and how to deal with it, learn about the stickman here.

Originally published November 8, 2002.

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And Along Came a Spider

positive thinking tip: A Hardship is always a blessing in disguise. pay attention to how it “moves” you.

Some time ago my eleven year-old daughter came home from orchestra practice simply devastated. She had been the first to arrive, and as the others filed in, nobody chose to sit by her. She sat at the edge of the room, the only student with an empty chair at her side.

She felt rejected and alone.

So the next day, as I dropped her off, I encouraged her to hold back and let some of the others sit down first, and then make her choice to sit by someone she’d like to get to know better. “Find someone who might be having a bad day, and BE the one to make a friend.”

I encouraged her to have a prayer in her heart, picturing herself with an abundance of friends, and reminded her that choosing to be positive and confident would help others want to be around her.

So she pulled herself together with an intention that things would be different this time. She agreed to pray in her heart and try to think more positively.

But what happened next surprised us both…

When I picked her up from school, she was excited to report that she ended up right between two girls that she was excited to get to know better.

How did it happen? Not the way we thought it would.

Contrary to my advice, she still showed up earlier than most; and out of habit decided to sit in her regular chair on the edge of the room. As a few of the other students filed in, the pattern threatened to repeat itself.

(That’s the power of subconscious thoughts right there…)

However, just then, she noticed a scary spider on her music stand. Creeped out, she took her folder and tried to push it off.

Instead of successfully getting it out of her space, it fell onto her leg. She jumped up and shook her pants, and wasn’t sure where it ended up. Assuming it was still at her chair, she decided that it would be better to move.

It took her out of her comfort zone and into another chair. One of the girls she’d like to know better came in and sat right next to her. Before long, a second girl took the empty chair at her other side.

Admittedly she said she thought the answer to her prayer would show up in the form of an idea, or an added measure of courage to do or say something uncomfortable.

But no, it showed up as a spider.

This micro-experience captures the essence of how God so often deals with us. When we ask for things to be better, he doesn’t just make things better. He creates conditions in our life that make us get out of our comfort zone and put us somewhere else – somewhere, where the blessing we’re asking for can finally be received.

Sometimes we get moved out of our comfort zone and still fail to receive the blessing. This can happen when our thoughts are not inclined to look for the hidden benefit in our adversity.

It would be like my daughter getting out of her regular chair and into another, and being so upset by it that she doesn’t even notice the potential friendships on either side of her. By her response to the hardship, she could have completely denied herself of the blessing that the change contained.

In that case, the girls that flanked her could have picked up on the downer-energy and might have been inclined to just ignore her.

I’m grateful that she was thoughtful enough to give credit to God for sending a spider, because it prepared the way for her to receive the very thing she was hoping for all along.

My dear reader… What’s your spider? What ugly thing has showed up in your life that’s opposite to what you’ve been praying for?

It’s there for a reason.

Let me help you make sense (make cents) out of your setbacks. Are you ready to commit to a better future? I’d like to help you do it. Visit ProsperTheFamily.com for more information on the life-changing 12-week FTMF home study program.

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