When You Feel Confused and Don’t Know What To Do… Pick Your Picnic

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John Sims was traveling with an associate. The associate said, “John, aren’t you going to put on your seatbelt?”

John replied with his raspy tenor voice, “Why, are we going to get into a crash?”

“No, but seatbelts save lives…”

John retorted abruptly in his usual blunt way, “Seatbelts don’t save lives.”

“Of course they do!” His friend explained, “Once, I was driving with my family and something told me to make sure everyone was wearing their seatbelts. So we all belted up, and just as we turned a corner, there was another vehicle coming at us in our lane. Even though it was a head-on collision, we all survived because of those seatbelts!”

John was firm, “No, the seatbelts didn’t save your life, whatever told you to put them on saved your life.”

Probably a decade has passed since I heard John relate that story. Leaving a lasting impression on me, its message has deepened and taken on new meaning. He’s right. It wasn’t the seatbelts that saved their lives. True, they played a part in the actual physics of keeping the bodies secure during impact, but the credit belongs to the voice of warning. The “life-saving” seatbelts were there during the entire trip. But the timeliness of the prompting, and the man’s response to it, changed the would-be tragedy into a miracle.

I am reminded of a game I played in high school. Planning to take some friends to a picnic, my friend and I prepared a tape recorder which described our every move as we traveled from our starting point to the final destination.

When it came time for the event, we told our unsuspecting friends to wait at a payphone until we called them and told them where to find the hidden tape recorder. Our instructions: “Turn it on and follow the directions explicitly!”

At the end of the journey was the picnic fit for a king. But along the way, we followed our friends, incognito. The most hilarious moments came when they tried to mimic what we had done, but in the wrong places. Having accidentally fallen out of step, our friends found that the description of our actions no longer suited their surroundings and, to us, it became absolutely laughable. If they had only known where they were trying to go, they could have improvised and found their own way.

Sometimes we look at others who have reached an admirable destination in their life, and then imitate their same steps in an effort to achieve their results. We listen to their tapes, read their books, and attend their seminars; and then we do our best to follow what they say. While we can learn a great deal from people who have what we want, we must realize that we’re not always on the same sidewalk, so to speak, as they were when they began their journey to the picnic. We’ve had different life experiences and carry with us a different variety of baggage, all of which makes a difference. We need to have the destination clearly in view, so that when someone else’s instructions do not work, we are still able to improvise our way to success.

So, how do you identify your picnic? It’s so simple that most people discard the idea as unimportant. This is one reason why few ever discover the power behind it. All you have to do is simply DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT.

If you knew you could not fail, what would your goals be? This is actually the toughest part of achieving success; the part that at least ninety-seven percent of the population will never do. Create a description of the success you desire, and commit it to paper. Write it in the form of a gratitude statement as though it has already happened. Then you are entitled to, and can trust the impressions which come to your mind. By doing this, you’ve done it: you’ve ‘spotted’ your picnic table. As you hang on to the vision, you’ll know instinctively just how to get to it, because it will be in clear view. Without it committed to paper, your impressions will seem random and you’ll struggle to know what to do next. Perhaps you’ve already felt that way.

Take control of your life, and experience the exhilaration which comes from proceeding methodically toward your worthy ideal. Your success begins with the dream…and happens after you’ve done your part to enlist the voice of inspiration on your journey. See it in your mind, commit it to paper, and be grateful for it before it’s even yours. This puts you in tune with that ‘inner voice’, and you’ll finally know just what to do, and when.

This article, originally written November 14, 2003, was adapted and expanded to become the award-winning international bestseller: The Jackrabbit Factor

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Things Undone

Positive Thinking Tip: Clear out the cobwebs of your life. it will be worth it. You’ll travel the rest of your journey much lighter, and you’ll definitely go much farther.

We feel happiest when we are on the grow, and striving for something more. Whether we are striving for better physical health, financial health, emotional health, or healthier relationships – it just feels good to improve.

And although we should certainly practice gratitude for all we already have, if we’re not also reaching for SOMEthing else, we stop growing and start decaying. There is no standing still.

But sometimes we begin our next journey with too much in our backpack.

If there’s ‘junk’ from your past that is affecting your self-confidence, it can feel like carrying a bag full of rocks, which only makes your journey more difficult.

No, I’m not going to define ‘junk’. If you have some, you probably already know what I’m talking about. I’m not talking about times when you’ve been a victim… that’s not the kind of junk I’m talking about. (Although holding grudges can count for some seriously heavy rocks, and emotional trauma can really be debilitating.)

For this post, I’m talking about the kind of junk that you are personally responsible for, and over which you have some immediate control.

If you’ve done something you regret, and have not ‘taken care of it’, then your self-confidence will be affected and your ability to have faith in reaching your goals may be adversely affected, too.

If you are a ‘perfectionist’, stop here and read this instead.

You may or may not be a religious person, but I believe it’s important to get your heart lined up with your Creator before you launch an all-out quest for the abundant life. If there are ‘things undone’ in your life that need repair, your conscience knows it, and it’s liberating to make things right to the best of your ability, first.

By doing so, you become more confident that your purpose for seeking abundance is for a good and worthy reason. As it says in Matthew 6:33: ‘But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things (might I say: everything you need) shall be added unto you.’

With the self-confidence that results, your faith in yourself, and in God who helps you, will be stronger than ever.

I picked this topic today because of a great lesson I heard on Sunday. It posed the question: when we make a mistake, do we try to excuse it and cover it up? Or do we take responsibility, confess it completely where needed, and face the consequences?

To answer that, imagine this:

If you had a pile of dirt, and you wanted to hide it, would covering it up with more dirt take care of it? No. It only makes the pile bigger and more conspicuous. While it appears you’ve successfully covered it up, you’ve only turned it into a bigger pile.

A wonderful speaker by the name of Richard G. Scott said it this way: ‘Do not take comfort in the fact that your transgressions are not known by others. That is like an ostrich with his head buried in the sand. He sees only darkness and feels comfortably hidden. In reality he is ridiculously conspicuous.’

God knows, the ‘Universe’ knows, and YOU know.

A person’s self-esteem and confidence only grows when s/he seeks courage to face the music, make things right as best they can, and restore self-respect.

Life on the other side of it is full of light. It is free, it is liberating, and worth whatever price it takes to finally do the ‘things left undone’. It is even worth risking one’s relationship with another human being to make things right with one’s Creator. In fact, our relationships with those we love may actually be strengthened in the long run when we do our best to put ourselves right with God. After all, being in the right with God is the only thing that really matters anyway. If you’re not religious, you can call it being true to your conscience.

I want you to succeed. I want you to experience abundance in all areas of your life, including financially. I think many of my readers are Christian (not all, but many), so I’m also going to include another passage: ‘And after ye have obtained a hope in Christ ye shall obtain riches, if ye seek them; and ye will seek them for the intent to do good.’ (Jacob 2:19)

Now, this is an unusual topic for my newsletter, I know. I also realize this message isn’t for everybody right now, but it may be for somebody. To embark on a quest with a backpack full of stones can be exhausting and frustrating. Let’s keep our loads as light as we can along the way by identifying each stone we carry, taking it out, putting it down, and leaving it behind.

Now, what if someone finds out you have stones in your backpack? How mortifying that could be!!!

Realize this: everyone has stones in their backpack at one time or another in their life. And in truth, there is more shame in carrying them around in secret than there is to taking them out and putting them down, even if those around you get a glimpse. In fact, doing so just might inspire someone else to have enough courage to do the same.

There are amazing, wonderful, abundant blessings awaiting you. Take care of things undone, so you can move forward and claim all there is to enjoy out of life. If there’s fear associated with considering such a step, understanding the “stickman” illustration can be VERY empowering. To understand fear and how to deal with it, learn about the stickman here.

Originally published November 8, 2002.

photo credit: hellostanley via photopin cc

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The Heart of the Matter

Wow. Do you have something about your past that just bugs you to no end? If so, you’ll want to read this:

I just returned from an amazing experience and needed to tell you about it. For the last 3 years I’ve heard about a particular seminar… one that was originally recommended to me from a couple of my mentors: Bob Proctor and Camille Kocsis (remember the $10,000 story lady from the epilogue of The Jackrabbit Factor?). Well, I finally went, and am a different person than when I walked into it last Thursday.

It supports the material I teach, and adds a new dimension to it, which has been mind blowing. I won’t spend a lot of time explaining what I mean by that… all I can say is that if you have some emotional baggage holding you back from moving forward, you may want to keep reading.

If you’ve heard me say that we have a lot of old ‘X’ programming in our subconscious mind, and then maybe you’ve heard me teach how to replace it with a new ‘Y’ idea… how would you like to discover exactly what YOUR ‘X’ programs are? This is their specialty. If you were to attend their program, you’d get a good look at who you are, and your fears, prejudices, conditioning… and how to create new programs which will serve you better. Your results in life are a product of your programs. Isn’t it about time to scan your hard drive for viruses? You might not be functioning at your best because of a bad program, and you might not even know it’s in there.

I don’t receive a dime for sending people to the seminar. I even run the risk of losing clients every time I promote it to members of the ThoughtsAlive community. I have nothing to gain by this except the knowledge that some of you may feel something as you read this, and act on that feeling… to take a step toward some major emotional breakthroughs in your life. When you find something that helps you, don’t you want to share it with others?

Ironically, I went in feeling pretty good about my life, and with the expectation that I would just learn how to be a little better. What I learned about myself was pretty revealing. There was pain, exhilaration, anger, love… and watching people all around me transform their lives forever. Some people aren’t ready to take an honest look at themselves, but for anyone who IS willing…there’s amazing things in store.

I had no idea that they had such a long-standing reputation, because I had only heard about them from a few people… as it turns out, this company, PSI Seminars, has been the longest running program in the United States. Some of the greatest leaders have come out of it including Lee Iacoca, and some of the most masterful gurus are behind it, or involved in supporting it, including Deepak Chopra and Mark Victor Hansen, or so I was told by our instructor that weekend.

In fact, singer Don Henley attended years ago and it was after one of the experiences in the seminar that inspired him to go home and write the song ‘Heart of the Matter.’ Do you remember that one? ‘…even if, even if you don’t love me anymore…’

They teach what I teach about working with your subconscious mind, but in a little different way. I felt supported in my knowledge of the Universal Laws, and I was given color in some things where I had previously only had a black and white understanding. If you choose to participate, you will be better equipped to learn, and integrate, the principles from ThoughtsAlive if there’s been something emotional holding you back… or if there’s even an ABSENCE of emotion, which WILL sabotage your ability to successfully apply what I teach.

They hold the seminar in a number of places all over the world. Tell them I sent you. Again, I receive no compensation for referring people. They simply track the ripple effect on how an individual finds out about it, and how it affects their lives based on whether they encourage others to attend.

I have to admit that when I walked in on the first day of the event, I remember thinking, ‘…these people are just way too happy…’ and I was skeptical, even with more than a decade of experience as a ‘self-help junkie’. Then the magic began. It was a process, but I eventually uncovered some old programming that had been causing me on a subconscious level to behave in certain ways, and I found out exactly why it was there and what to do about it if it wasn’t serving me. The best part was that we didn’t just learn what to do, they created an atmosphere where you can go ahead and GET IT DONE while you’re there.

Very cool stuff.  I am committed to helping people find solutions, no matter from where those solutions may come.

Each opportunity I share serves a different purpose. There are so many different aspects to life, and the PSI Basic seminar will help you in some ways while mine will help you in other ways. Is there something serious holding you back? Get down to the ‘heart of the matter’ and let them help you find the power to release even the heaviest baggage so that you CAN move forward unhindered. We have great places to go and amazing things to accomplish… one step at a time!

Learn more about the PSI Basic Seminar

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