“Something’s Gotta Change”

I didn’t think it would take me this long to get back to the story of why I dropped off the map in May, but it’s been on my mind each day because of the FLOOD of feedback I received from my last post.

Part of my hesitation (besides not finding enough time to just knock it out) has been trying to decide which details and how much to share, because to share it all would only leave me time to live HALF a life.

One thing I’ve learned about life is that there’s always something more to learn – it’s a curse and a blessing all wrapped into one. You can never coast too long without life delivering a challenge with a call to grow, learn, and improve some more.

Having come to terms with our financial mistakes in 2006, it was time to put the principles back to the test, prove them true again, and conquer. My message during that time evolved, from “You can prosper!!” to “Profiting From your Losses” and “Making Sense out of Setbacks”. I found it much easier to address these topics because they had become the new theme for my life.

My best blog posts during those years were the ones I wrote to coach MYSELF through the traumas from which I was trying to recover. Turns out my BEST epiphanies and most popular posts were the ones born from my toughest moments.  I constantly worked to view my challenges the way I had been teaching others to view theirs, and where the “basic” principles introduced in Jackrabbit Factor didn’t seem to adequately address what I faced in those moments, I found new principles and remedies to help me cope.

Jackrabbit Factor is still an important primer, but the good stuff is in Portal to Genius. (Read the truth about Portal to Genius). It gave me a platform to show through fictional characters how to turn things around when you’re too tired or too cynical to apply the principles you learn in Jackrabbit.

It allowed me to answer my own question, “Do the challenges ever stop?” and gave me a place to show how you can find new purpose that can inspire you to move through despair.

Ultimately, I discovered a satisfactory answer to why the law of attraction stops working. Beyond that, I was excited to work into the book an illustration of what it’s like to be led to the principles because you want abundance, but ultimately finding out what other good and worthy purpose the enticement perhaps is really for.

Not quite ready to go public with our personal challenges (outside of weaving them into a fictional story), I shared my lessons learned since writing Jackrabbit only with a small section of my readers, requiring that they jump through some extra hoops to get to them. I told them how we had used up our savings, and had run out of available credit. I described how it felt to finally get to the end of our visible resources, and the “portal to genius” we discovered there*.

*After getting down to our last $200 with no other paycheck in sight, we were shown through a spark of genius (inspiration) how to solve our problem.  We became conscious of some of our hidden resources, and pulled in more than $43,000 that month. We even had another similar month after that.

Finally, I had the fodder I needed to complete the book Portal to Genius.

My favorite epiphanies over the years that brought us to that success are now gathered in the Top 47 list shown on the right sidebar of this page. The list isn’t complete because I haven’t had time to go back through and tag all my posts yet, but that’s where you’ll find some other amazing insights that helped me tremendously when it appeared we were doomed to lose everything… and the good news is, no, we didn’t end up losing everything.

(The new inflow got us caught up, but it wasn’t enough to repay our debts. It gave me renewed confidence in the principles, but we still had a long row to hoe.)

While tomorrow will certainly bring new challenges, and while I continue to learn how to roll with the punches, I am grateful for the lessons I’ve learned so far, for the person I’m becoming through the challenges, and for the tender mercies of the Lord that assure me He is still mindful of me and my family, even in our failings. His hand in our life has kept us going from day to day. Can you say, “manna”?

Sorry – it’s so hard not to go off on tangents here.  Back to the story (of why I disappeared in May.)

After the book was out, and in the summer of 2010 I reconnected with Kirk Duncan. I was a student who was ready for the next teacher to appear, and there he was. Although we had known each other for a few years already (because I had been invited to speak to his organization a couple times), I really hadn’t known who HE was or what I needed to learn from him.  For sake of focus, that whole story will have to be shared another time.

I attended his Body Language Show, and his Master of Influence class, and something was re-ignited in me. I caught a vision of what more I could be doing to see even better results. Not only was I going to throw myself into the application of what I learned from him through our mentoring sessions, but I also decided to step it up and get busy actively putting on workshops again and generating new momentum for my business with the more sober, more refined, and more mature message I now had to share.

I thought:

Perhaps I had finally turned the corner and I would start seeing more of an increase over and above the much appreciated physical, emotional, and spiritual manna on which we’d been surviving.

Perhaps it was time to stop holding back, fearful of taking too much time away from my family, and just GET IT DONE (get our debts paid back).

So that’s what I did. I gave my website a face lift, filled up the calendar with a year full of events, and went to work.  The demand began to grow as the momentum increased, until spring of this year (2011) when I found myself flying out for an event nearly every weekend.

Kids? What kids. I didn’t have time to really stay connected with who they were and what they were going through. They didn’t like it, but they were willing to support the cause. We all pulled together to make it work, with the promise that it would mean we could get our debts paid once and for all and ultimately return to a more sustainable pace with normal family routines and a little more freedom to get and do more of what they wanted.

Despite one event in March, which was one of my worst ever (and about which I’m still embarrassed), I had a GREAT time on the Book Writing Retreat (because it was a retreat, after all), but by the end of May, I was figuratively black and blue from being away from home so frequently.

I knew something had to change by the time I spoke for Garrett Gunderson’s big Financial Enlightenment event with several hundred people, because I was so visibly weary that when it was over, some of the other speakers (and even quite a few participants) approached me with pity and hoped to help ME however they could.

I had lost my “beacon in the fog”. I could no longer envision a single reward in my future that was worth putting myself through this.

What made matters worse, was when I finally sat down to see how effective the year’s strategy had been, the revenue was only about a 4% increase over the previous year when I had kept a more reasonable schedule, doing most of my work online.

That was the final straw. Again, here was my “proof” that no matter what I did, the laws must be in suspend mode, and my results were probably just going to continue to be like manna, and manna alone.

I concluded, if I’m just going to be living on manna either way, what the heck am I trying so hard for? That’s when I began to seriously consider bankruptcy for the first time.

With the debts we had accrued (by trying to hold our bad real estate investments for far too long), and in spite of the steady annual growth we had been experiencing in our books / seminar business, the revenues had not been large enough to get rid of (or even make much progress toward) the heavy debt load. On paper, we were an easy case for bankruptcy.

Need I mention, our relationship was strained? My husband had left his job in 2005 to help me in the business, and over time his work building and maintaining our online school had become a full-time venture. Within about two years he replaced his income, so it made sense to keep at it.  At least working on our business promised an unlimited income, while his previous job definitely had a ceiling.

The problem with this arrangement was that we had to pay for our own insurance (expensive), we were maxed out for time and couldn’t add another thing to our plate even if it meant earning more money, and even though he worked as much as 12-14 hours a day, there was no paycheck specifically with his name on it.

Not a big deal; we’re in this together and we share the business profits, but in my moments of weariness and despair, it was easy to latch on to the distorted notion that he wasn’t doing enough to solve our problem.

It often felt like I was shouldering the whole load because I was the one traveling, and that he had nothing really concrete to show for his fill-all-the-gaps-and-keep-things-running contribution.  While I knew consciously that if he stopped what he was doing, it would probably all break down, it wasn’t enough to keep me from feeling like a major victim in the world of my own creation.

We had a number of meetings with several different mentors – marriage advice, money advice, business development advice – and some pretty ugly conversations between each other. Deep down we both believed we’d ultimately work it out, but at times we couldn’t see how it could be possible.

With some excellent advice to me from Dino Watt, (founder of the Business of Marriage), I gathered the strength to have a specific kind of conversation with my husband. That was the beginning of the much-needed surgery to address the root of our problem, remove the cancer from our relationship and heal the necessary incision. I had to remember that on the way to success, sometimes surgery is required, and in the middle of it, it would appear there has been a murder in the room. In reality though, sometimes surgery is necessary to save a life.

Through this process, which spanned many weeks, I got a good look at who I had become in the mad race to fix our mess, and I didn’t like what I saw. I couldn’t feel any more. I was numb, and ready to do whatever was necessary to find a pace I could live with. I didn’t care if it meant going back to square one and making sure that this time, the ladder was leaning on the right wall.

I’m a traditional sort of girl. My husband is a traditional sort of guy. We both want to fill the traditional roles where he is the provider and I am the nurturer. That had always been our plan and our intent, but somehow we had ended up in circumstances that appeared to be opposite of what either of us had ever wanted.

To rock the boat now, I felt like I was rebelling against God. Here I had felt led all those years to do what I had done, but I had no more strength left to continue. I was done. I didn’t care if it meant we’d end up in a shack. I was ready to let go, and NOT be tempted to pick it all up again.

This was the first time I didn’t really seek approval from God to stop; I was outright mad at Him for stringing me out so long, and wasn’t really interested in his opinion on the matter any more.

At the same time, I knew I was cutting myself off from his inspired solutions, and hardening my heart.  But it just hurt too much to respond in any other way.

It wasn’t long before I started noticing some interesting things going on around me. I can’t really share all that transpired, but within just a few days, I had multiple encounters with people who said or did things that got me thinking differently.  Through these experiences, I learned with certainty that the Lord understood what I was going through, that He had compassion on me, and that it was “complete”.

What was complete?  Did I hear someone say, “It’s complete”??

The words “It’s complete” repeated in my mind twice nearly audibly, and many times more as I reflected upon their initial arrival. Accompanying those words was a feeling of peace, and tenderness. I knew they were not of my own invention, because I was already convinced that I was jumping off a ship I should have been steering. But no, this impression let me know that God was still at the helm of my life, and that everything was playing out just as it was supposed to be.

Could God really be that merciful? Now? Even in spite of my bitterness?

I still get choked up as I think about it.

I was in awe. Even as angry as I had been, He put people in my path, inspired some conversations, and prepared my heart to hear and recognize his confirmation to me that this child of His was throwing an unnecessary tantrum.

In one meeting with my bishop (who is like a pastor or minister in my church), he listened, counseled me, and then knowing how hard-hearted I said I must be, he left me with this verse: “For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God…”  Romans 8:38-39

In other words, not even my bitterness was separating me from His love. Suddenly, He didn’t feel so far away to me anymore.

In time, I had to smile, because I realized that, had I bothered to ask His opinion, I may have discovered that these changes were sanctioned all along, and that, in fact, I was not rebelling at all. Turns out the changes I was “selfishly” making for my own self-preservation were actually necessary for His purposes as well.

How mysterious are the works of God. That’s all I have to say about that.

That night I had a dream. It was a recurring dream that I’ve had for many years, so it didn’t really surprise me when it began. I think I’ve had it enough that I know I’m dreaming as it happens, but it still always has to play out nonetheless.

Generally, I find myself on a campus, usually a high school, but I can’t find my classes. I wander around, and eventually get to where I’m supposed to be, but by the time I get there, I’ve already missed several weeks and I’m unsure of what to do about it.  Or, I manage to get to class, but somehow I don’t have the homework that I’m supposed to turn in.  In every dream, I wonder if I’m not learning what I’m supposed to learn, or being where I’m supposed to be.

But that night, the dream was different. This time I was on a college campus, and I could see a graduation ceremony taking place. Again, I was in the wrong place. I felt like I was supposed to be in the ceremony with the other graduates.

Then my dear friend Carolyn Cooper appeared. None of my friends had ever shown up in this recurring dream before, so I was thrilled to see her. She could tell I was feeling disappointed that I had missed graduation, and said, “Don’t worry, your life experiences count toward graduation, and you’re only two or three classes away.”  Then she even added, “I’ll show you where they are.”

I woke from that dream completely at peace and satisfied with its conclusion. I felt gratitude and amazement – to realize that the recurring dream and this new ending was another way for God to assure me that everything is just as it should be, and to be patient and trust him.  It rounded out my experience from the day before, and helped me understand what had been meant by the words “it’s complete”.

Here’s what I know: I was supposed to create what I created over the last 10 years. But despite my fears, it was never meant to be an unending assignment away from my favorite and most important role as a mother. It was necessary, but temporary.

I recognize God’s hand in our family during those years, and how he held us together, taught each child individually through his Spirit, and strengthened us all while the work was in process. But it’s complete.

And now I know, that even though we have debts to pay, I don’t have to keep rushing to create new, bigger, or better products and services, always leaving my previous projects under-developed. Too much of a good thing can be bad.

Here’s another article on that topic: How to know when it’s time to stop.

A conversation with Rich Christiansen helped me recognize that in my business it’s time to shave away the activities that don’t fuel me, and which aren’t really profitable, and pick the few things I love the most and drive them deep, fine-tuning them and developing THOSE products and services to their peak potential.

He also taught me how pulling back or veering away from the goal is often a sign that you’re on the RIGHT track.

Who knew?

Long story short (even though it’s too late to call this one short…), Rich also taught us about “dancing in your tutu”. This means that you keep your eye on the ultimate goal, but sometimes you have to do what’s uncomfortable for a season so that you can get there.

Men, imagine, standing on the street corner dancing in a tutu to make the money you need to fund the achievement of your ultimate dream.

In the Jackrabbit Factor, it’s called going after another paper sack even though you’re really on a rabbit hunt.

In our case, my husband and I both agreed it was time for me to settle down, and time for him to dance in a tutu, while we put our life back in order. It was time for us to redefine how we want our relationship to look, and start the lengthy process of putting in all in place.

We’re in this for the long haul, and knew that if we want the kind of golden years we’ve always had in mind, we have to stop and re-define the guard rails of what we are, and are not, willing to do.

About this same time, my children participated in a Pioneer Trek where they recreated some of the experiences of the early Mormon settlers.  They dressed in clothing from the 1800s, were assigned to families with a Ma and Pa, carried their only belongings each in a single bucket, and pulled handcarts across wilderness terrain for several days.  Along the path, they were told true stories about those who had lived through the original trek, and learned how to cope with and overcome many of the same kinds of challenges.

On the following Sunday at church, quite a few of the youth stood and shared their experiences and lessons learned. As I listened to their stories, one of the experiences struck me personally. They talked about the women’s pull.

The women’s pull was the section of the trek when the men left the trail because they were needed in the service of their country during the Mexican War. The men who left were known as the Mormon Battalion, and this left the women to shoulder the load alone.

What touched me was when they talked about the end of the women’s pull. During the mock-trek, the young men did leave the young women to pull the carts alone for quite some time over rough and discouraging terrain. But after the simulation was over, the young men ran to help again, and the women’s pull was over.

The words “It’s complete” returned to my mind as I heard their stories, and I felt assurance again that things in my life really were finally transforming.  I didn’t need the changes to all be immediate, after all, I still expected that there were a few more lessons I needed to learn before I could “graduate”, but the path was laid before us and we both knew it was good.

It’s nearly 3 am again – I’m eager to share what those extra lessons turned out to be, and you’re probably wondering, “so, what about the debts?” or “what are you going to do with your business now?” but I’ll have to save those details for next time.

If this exposé is helping you at all, please comment below. It helps me feel like all our drama (or trauma) wasn’t all for naught. 🙂

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Leslie is the award-winning, best selling author of The Jackrabbit Factor: Why You Can, Hidden Treasures: Heaven's Astonishing Help With Your Money Matters, and Portal to Genius (all FREE downloads!). She aims to help you crush every challenge, achieve every goal, and vanquish every monster under your bed. Above all, Leslie is a dedicated wife and mother of seven children.
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33 thoughts on ““Something’s Gotta Change”

  1. I found you from muscle testing a list of teachers for an energy conference held last year ( which I am getting into).Then I saw you had a class in real estate investing that I just missed, now I am thinking WOW because we just found a place we are wondering if we should invest in( we have flipped our own homes for years) but after my prayers this morning wondering how to solve our financial mess among other things, my impression was to read your blog and this is part 2 of the first one I found. Now I am amazed at Gods grace as well because this felt like my story. Your feelings and emotions are mine that I hadn’t fully realized until I read them and wept and continue to weep as I write this. You have helped me realize it has all been part of His plan for me also! For me to realize it’s not about the money or status. It is about finding out, through loss, trials whatever it is called. Thank you because it’s through your blog I finally understand what my new focus should be and NOW what do I really want? For me it is to have time to nurture the most important relationships in my life, and to ALLOW my husband to provide the means to support that mutual desire as I support HIM. Now I desire to be A support, a nurturer, deepen my relationships and serve others not because of others expectations, or a deep need for love and acceptance. But because it’s a noble and selfless act out of love for Him….. Motivated by Him, to be willing to be His hands
    not mine.
    Then I think success will naturally follow in a more relaxed manner and I will feel working is no longer needed or expected but a fun and fulfilling hobby.
    Thanks for allowing me to share
    Deborah

  2. Leslie,
    Your raw telling of your truth is compelling to me, and helps me to feel that I am not a complete failure for stopping the chase as well. I truly just want to be the best mother I can be, and I want that to be “enough” after running after a degree and work, even though I loved it, I brought me back to the simple joy I feel in spending time doing little things with my kids. The day I quit my job, I saw my kids outside painting rocks on the grass, and I joined them and it felt wonderful. Thank you for your willingness to share and not be perfect for all of us other women who are not perfect, and thank you for the many incredibly valuable tools you have shared with the world. I am so happy for you to be complete in this path and I hope your new path to “wherever” is settling and happy, and that you can play along the way with your little ones who are probably not so little anymore! Maybe it doesn’t have to be just on the road picking up bags or in the field chasing rabbits. Maybe it can be just walking along the meadow just “being” there and “doing” nothing! Thank you for sharing, you are a marvelous woman!! 🙂

  3. It means you are real. There is opposition in ALL things and so it’s only natural even after you have learned and applied all the laws to experience more walls to climb over, around, under or plow through. I’m just beginning on the FTMF home study course and re-reading the Jackrabbit Factor & feel gratitude to you for sharing the lessons you have learned. I’m much older than you but you are wiser and more experienced. I’m thankful to be learning from your successes and challenges. I’m LDS too & understand the faith we share. I can’t do life alone but I don’t have to!

  4. I just found this post nearly two years after you wrote it. I was amazed to hear you describe your recurring dream. I have had that same dream (minus the new ending) for decades. I’m hopeful my dream will someday end just as well. Thank you for sharing your candid story. It gives me great hope.

  5. It has been awhile since I have received an email from you. And today I was starting to get that desperate feeling of “I have to do something.” I read the email and somehow ended up at this post which I greatly appreciated. The weird part for me was your dream. I started reading faster so I could get to the end. You see, I used to have that almost exact dream. I’m in high school again, can’t find my classes and when I do I’m late and don’t have my homework. (not typical for me) I also can’t get my locker open. I have never had the college dream. I haven’t dreamt this in awhile. As a matter of fact, I haven’t dreamt anything in awhile. I even pray for God to give me some sort of dream, but I wake up not remembering anything. I just figure I’m too exhausted to dream. Anyway, just wanted to say thank you. I’ll just keep plugging away trying to remind myself that God works out all things for good for those who love Him!

  6. Of course it’s not for naught…..are you kidding…..I am more inspired by your Honesty of your own personal life and your day to day choices, personal accountability, and coming to a realization of all of the HYPE….and of your Being Human….
    Our life is a Journey… Endure To The End… The End is in God’s Hands and comes in a Blink of an Eye… Hopefully we Realize People.. Relationships.. Our Children.. Granchildren.. Family is the Most Important Gift… Not $$$$$$$$$ or Things…..
    I’m Glad for you..your kids..and your Husband that it is Complete…. Now put your Family and Marriage back together…. We are like sheep….we follow one another instead of Only following GOD….and not putting our TRUST in the arm of Flesh or the position of man…. I Pray for the Householder’s

  7. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! My husband and I are going through some hard times right now. I’m working a full time grave job and have 3 children at home, 9 years, 4 years and 3 months old. We are struggling to stay in our home. My husband also works a full time job. We have read your books and have seen wonderful times but right now we are experiencing a valley. Everything you’ve written in your blogs makes sense and we relate a little too well. You have renewed hope inside me yet again!

  8. Being mad at God, starting to not care so much any more about His input, getting downright pissed off (no other words will do, my apologies) at Him telling me for the millionth time to “keep doing what you’re doing”, figuring I’ll never learn what I need to learn, make all the changes I need to make, and stop making mistakes that hurt the love of my life, and literally getting ready to say “I quit. . . I’m going to finish this one last thing I promised you and then I QUIT!” . . . . . . . then . . . . I read this article (in the middle of which the woman I love so much calls and we have a wonderful sweet talk), and I get smacked in the head and have renewed hope. Thank you for sharing your personal trials. This article has ensured I’ll hold on a little longer.

  9. Better late than never – I just got to this today… But I got here!

    So far so good!! I can’t tell you how similar my story is – and I hope you’ve avoided the bankruptcy that we embraced. I was unprepared for the emotions I endured for several months afterward – though we had planned and prepared (I thought!) for it. Only NOW can I see the truth in the mantra “All is as it should be.”

    So far, tears twice! Sweet, clearing CHEERING tears. After all, we are all still here – and there’s nothing quite like the joy of waking up and noticing the grass is green, lol!

    Again – much love and many blessings – and big HUGS

    Sue

  10. Thanks again for sharing! I can relate to so much of what you said and it makes me feel better that I’m not the only one. You are a wonderful writer too. I’m excited to hear the final (?) installment. 🙂

  11. Wow Leslie. I think I’ll be digesting this post for a while. Too many things are significant. Thank you for being so real. Your response to my email makes alot more sense now :). You ARE the one of the beacons for so many of us, Leslie. All that life is for you – the ups and downs and seemingly downright catastrophes — none of it changes what you are. A powerful, enlightened daughter of God. Gratitude and love to you for having the guts to share your story. It becomes another source of inspiration – another light in the fog — for all of us. Love you!

  12. Hi Leslie,
    Yes I am grateful that you wrote this blog. I am primarily a wife and mother but I prayed for God to make a way for us to afford the kind of life and education our children deserve and He gave me an invention. I am a year down the track of creating and patenting and the thing that scared me the most is exactly what you experienced; priorities shifting and the important things being put aside for the sake of progress.
    I trust that if God brings me to it He will bring me through it but it doesn’t change the resistance I feel moving forward into the unknown. I believe this blog came to me to show me that even though it might feel like the ground is moving beneath my feet and I think I’m going to fall, it’s all part of His great plan for us and everything will be ok.
    I felt encouraged that I am happy to live on manna, God’s day to day provision, if it means that our priorities are maintained. I will make each step as prompted and do my best not to push unless God says it’s time.
    There is nothing like natural childbirth to teach you how to bring something new into the world. I just love the parables God gives us to help us in life.
    Bless you and Thank you again for sharing.

  13. Leslie — Thank you! As some of the other responders have said, it is so refreshing to hear the TRUTH. It is so helpful to know that your life is not “perfect,” with no Ups and Downs. This allows myself and others to see the good in our own lives, and know that we too can experience better things, even if we are also experiencing obstacles and roadblocks. Please keep us posted on the other lessons you are learning, as you go along.

    I, too, had the chance to go on a Pioneer Trek this past summer, and experienced a “Women’s Pull.” It was a profound experience for me at the time, but I never thought to make the connection that you just made with it. Thanks for that! I love that, and am going to ponder it more today ….

    God Bless!

  14. Thank you for sharing Leslie.

    God knows, understands, and emphasizes perfectly with everything we are going through. If we but turn our lives completely over to him we will find he knows much better how mold, direct, and influence us and our families than we could ever imagine. We need to get out of our own way and let God direct us.

    Warm Regards,

    Lawrence

  15. Thank you Leslie! This answers SO many questions I have wanted to ask you. VERY timely and helpful for me and our family’s situation. I’m finding more and more that the process is what I’m hoping to hear about and not just the “before” and “after”. Often the process is just too personal to share, but I think you managed to convey the message of it in a way that speaks of so many principles to consider when assessing where we find ourselves standing!

  16. It seems that the trials we are all facing personally as well as publically are deepening our roots to help us realize what is really important. You knew what that was but was not able to live it. In my case, I am just figuring out that most important role is where I need to be. The bottom line that settles in our hearts is that the Lord knows us and is leading us along the path of HIS plan, that is the right thing to learn at the right time- for us alone, personally and uniquely through our circumstances. He creates our life’s circumstances because He knows exactly what we need to learn. I have learned over and over in these past few years that as we do the most important thing all other things will fall in line. When things become aligned it changes from a game of weights and measures (like an old fashion money scale) to a game of bull’s eye. The either/ or becomes an AND. When we serve the most important prioritiy, all other priorities are served as well. Life is about win-win relationships. I hope that I can help you just as much as you have helped me. Sharing the truth is always worth the price, even if others do think us a Don Quixote. Thanks Leslie. You are making a difference.

  17. Thank you so much for having the courage to be so vulnerable and open. It is really phenominal to hear such truth.
    Enjoy your lunch with Kim and Kirk on thursday…….

  18. Leslie,

    Thank you! I feel like my “women’s pull” has only just begun…and already I was ready to give up and say “I Can’t!”. Thank you for your willingness to expose yourself for the benefit of others! As uncomfortable as it makes me, I know I need to get back up because “I can do it!”. Thank you so much!

    Gratefully,
    Amy Manning

  19. I have been following you for a few years. I have always thought you are genuine and have always felt I can relate to you. I appreciate hearing about your challenges along with the successes. To me that means you are not just selling a good story but are sharing real lessons from real experiences. I am rooting for you. Your success is a beacon to many because of the work you have been doing. I look forward to hearing the story as it unfolds. I hope you have time to share it.

  20. Leslie I have a lot of compassion for what you have gone through. A year or so ago I came to the end of an era in my life. I felt peaceful, which was surprising becuse I had worked on my “dream” for so many years. As time has progressed I am grateful for all I learned from that process and I am comfortable being true to myself and what I really want to do now. It seems weird in some ways, but by surrendering and having faith in God’s plan over my own, I am content. Thank you so much for sharing your truth. I know God will bless you even more.

  21. Thank you so much! I needed to read this today, and while my pull may not be over yet, it helps me to know that it will be again someday.
    Love,
    Liz

  22. Thank you. This was a beautiful story. I cried through it as well! What an honor to know that the Lord still loves us, regardless of our trials and whether we veer from the path he has laid out for us.

    I’m happy to know that you’re doing great and that though life handed you a few lemons, through inspiration of our Heavenly Father, you were able to make some lemonade.

    I thought your surgery analogy was an amazing one. I know you will recover well from it and become a stronger person without that “cancer” in your life.

    Bravo to you and your husband! My hat’s off to you! I really enjoyed this post and it made me happy. Thanks so so much!

  23. Leslie,
    I just want to say, thank you for being so candid and willing to share such personal information. So many of the thoughts and struggles you describe are going on in my life now and it felt like you were talking directly to me a few times. I have often wondered why I seem to struggle to achieve my goals and dreams when it appears that others do it so effortlessly but I now see that when we are told “there must needs be opposition in all things” no one is exempt, it’s all about how we choose to deal with it.
    I would also like to let you know that I was attending your events during the time you are referring to, and I always felt like I was getting everything I needed from you. I never would have known of your inner struggles. I felt like you were giving 100%. If that was what you consider “bad”, I can’t wait to see what is yet to come!
    Thanks again
    Yvonne Kinghorn

  24. I think there is a tendency for me, with people who teach success principles, to think they just sailed right through to success. And if you “simply” do what I do and implement what I teach, “you too can experience massive success, just like me.” That can be discouraging for a person when things go awry. I see similarities in your story and some of the things I am learning, even though circumstances are different. It gives me hope that I *AM* on the right track and that I can keep going. Thanks for being honest with your list.

  25. Leslie, this post resonated with me too.
    I have gone through enough tests and trials to fill a book (my friends keep telling me to write it). I like the concept of “manna” for manna has sustained us too.
    … and I’ve had the same recurring dream as yours. I call it my “stress dream”.
    Finally, we know that the Master of the Universe – a name in my tradition for G0d – does guide us in amazing ways. My daughter recently had that experience. A musician, she took a part-time office job. Within 2 months, she was so sick and exhausted she couldn’t leave her bed. It’s now clear to everyone she must focus on her music, and not get off the track.

  26. Leslie, thank you. When you mentioned the “women’s pull,” I started sobbing. I have felt for weeks that I have been shouldering the load of home and family life alone as my husband has encountered some unexpected personal challenges. The idea that a “woman’s pull” is what I am experiencing AND THAT IT WILL END is a tender mercy from the Lord. I have even had a handcart picture of my own develop in my mind, where, in order to get our family to our desired destination, I have to go on ahead by myself for a while, and it has been very lonely. Your experiences and words of struggle and faith are inspired, and have frequently been the words I’ve needed to keep going.

  27. Leslie,
    So glad to see things coming together for you and Trevan! 2011 has been a re-building year for our family, too! I love how these challenges have increased my faith and gratitude and have put my priorities back where I am at complete peace! We definitely need to chat soon!
    Love ya!
    Alisa

  28. Leslie,

    Thank you for being so real. I too have been a student of others like Kirk and Garrett. I have thought that I was doing something wrong because things weren’t coming together. Or they did come together and then fell apart. It must be me. I’m bad and on and on are thoughts I have struggled with. I too have struggled with God and am currently so exhausted (mentally and physically) that I feel (or can’t feel) I just can’t go on. I’m too tired. The load is too heavy. The task too big. It is 5:00 in the morning here in Utah. Life goes on. I must get going and pull that handcart. But I wanted to thank you and let you know that your post is helping me to see that all is not lost and that God is mindful and I will come out of this. I’m glad you are real like the rest of us. Thank you for your inspirational post.

    Sincerely,

    Laurie Loader

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