Choosing a Bullet-Proof Goal (“I Don’t Know What I Want!”)

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Positive thinking tip: Choose a goal that inspires and motivates you

Here’s a question that comes in quite often – so let’s just address it once and for all.

Have you ever wondered:

“How am I supposed to apply the principles to achieve a goal if I don’t even know what I really want?”

When you’ve selected the right goal, it’s practically bullet-proof. Nothing will sway you from pursuing it until it’s yours – no matter what obstacles may arise.

I remember feeling discouraged about a goal years ago – after having attended almost 100 seminars (at that point), and having read countless books about success.  I was inspired and motivated by nearly every one of them, but my frustration only grew as time went on and I didn’t have a really great success story of my own.

My frustration came to a head after watching the movie “Rudy” about the young man who dreamed of playing football for Notre Dame.  Based on a true story about Rudy Ruettiger, I came away from the movie celebrating my potential because I could see that anything was possible for someone who passionately chased a dream… until it hit me.

My heart sank as I lamented, “What do I want THAT bad? I wish I could feel that passionate about something.”

Sure, there were plenty of things that I wanted – there was no lack of need or desire in my life for better conditions.  What I lacked was the passion and determination to face and conquer all of the obstacles that would always seem to get in the way.  No matter what “desire” I identified, the moment an obstacle would crop up, my faith would waver and I’d begin to question the feasibility of the goal.

To that point, I had not found anything that I could be so passionate about that the obstacles wouldn’t derail me.

When my son was born with a heart defect, and the Primary Children’s Hospital in Salt Lake City saved his life, I thought: surely I had found something I could finally be passionate about: I would become wealthy so I could donate a portion of my wealth to the hospital.

Well, that passion lasted until the next bill was due, and then I immediately fell back into survival mode, fearful and angry all over again.  “Where is that passion now?” I wondered.

What I didn’t realize, was that my Father in Heaven was steering me and grooming me through some very specific experiences, so that I would be able to discover, recognize, and appreciate my life’s passion when it came time for it to finally be revealed.

(Now, I’m not saying that my life’s passion doesn’t change or evolve over time, I strongly feel that it does.  I’m just talking about looking for, and finding passion and purpose in the NEXT goal on which I was to put my focus and energy.)

So if you find yourself in this same sort of dilemma, I’ve discovered something that can help:

Just as you can use the principles to find an opportunity, enjoy a certain kind of relationship, or better health; you can also use the principles to figure out what you really want.

How?

Set a goal that says something like this:

[Date] – I am so happy and grateful now that I have identified a goal that is worthy of me. It takes no effort to remember what it is, because frankly, I can’t get it out of my mind! I am so excited about this one, because I know it’s mine, and no matter what obstacle gets in my way, THIS is bigger. I know that it’s a goal that God wants for me, too, which makes it so much easier to believe that a way is prepared for me to accomplish it – no matter how impossible it may presently seem.  I know this, because I have felt (and recognized!) some strong spiritual impressions that this is precisely what I’m meant to accomplish. I am ready to honor it and take action, no matter how scary it may seem. How amazing it feels to be on a real ‘rabbit’ hunt!  I could really get used to this feeling of focused, guided sense of certainty!

Keep in mind, that if you set a goal like this, you must be willing to honor the idea when it comes to you.  You’ll know it when you get it, but it will probably cause feelings of anxiety as you consider the possibilities it represents.  You must be willing to act on it, no matter what.

So, don’t ask for the dream until you’re ready and willing to take the next step toward accomplishing it.  That it shows up in your mind and heart with an assurance that it is right, means that it is as good as yours if you will follow the path prepared for you to receive it.

And if you still need help figuring out what your next path or step should be, attend a Genius Bootcamp. This is exactly what I created this event is for. You’ll come away with the answers and assurance you’re looking for. And to be clear, we don’t tell you what the answers are, we simply create the environment, training, and support that helps you identify your very own absolutely clear answer, even while you’re there.

Do not retreat!  Have courage, and it will all come together in the right way and at the right time.

You’ll participate in miracles!

Leslie Householder
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Leslie is the award-winning, best selling author of The Jackrabbit Factor: Why You Can, Hidden Treasures: Heaven's Astonishing Help With Your Money Matters, and Portal to Genius (all FREE downloads!). She aims to help you crush every challenge, achieve every goal, and vanquish every monster under your bed. Above all, Leslie is a dedicated wife and mother of seven children.
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19 thoughts on “Choosing a Bullet-Proof Goal (“I Don’t Know What I Want!”)

  1. Thank you, Leslie. I have been searching for an answer to this question for YEARS!!! Thank you, again. Love and light to you and your family and team.

  2. My Dear Leslie,
    I am so grateful you sent this article in your newsletter at this time! I’ve been thinking of this for weeks! Remember, for Mentor Training, one of the questions you asked was, “Where do you see yourself in five years?” My answer to that question has been the only OTHER dream I’ve ever really had, besides owning a horse! Yes, I’ve made other goals, such as attending Mentor Training in 2010, attending your Writer’s Class in 2011, and such, but that answer has been at the heart of my inner self for ages.

    Since I have “Written it down,” so many things have happened to prepare me to receive my gift that I almost cannot contain them! The books I am writing, the one almost ready to publish. The healing of some of my major symptoms. The help that has come to me, unasked for.

    Of course I have done more than write it down 🙂 I have created a “slide show” with slides for my descriptions, affirmations, and statements to watch. Yes, it is set to the proper music. I play a narrative of the whole thing to myself on low volume all day, and at a different setting as I fall asleep (I love Windows Media Player, too). My computer never sleeps. Small wonder the other one only lasted three years, I guess. I just felt like saturating myself with this Power to help me achieve this, as it is a very large undertaking. However, watching the changes as they arrive, especially the healing of my Congestive Heart Failure and heart murmur – so totally unexpected! – has given me a small idea of the power that we are calling to our aid by using this program.

    When I was younger, my problem was not wondering what I wanted to do. I wanted to do just about everything. I didn’t want to miss out on one experience because I concentrated on a different one. I don’t know what this means about me, but I do believe it has left me practically fearless now that I have decided on The One Thing I want, even though it is a Very Big Thing. I have been given evidence that it can happen for me.

    Thank you for helping me to finally channel my thoughts into one idea. It reminds me of “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.” I am so deeply grateful I find the words “Thank You” feel trite and superficial for how profoundly I feel it.

  3. I love you, Leslie, and I love this article! It is SOOOO important to get really, really clear about our goal. I feel it’s the biggest part of goal attainment – the thinking/clarity part. Thanks for sharing this and your life, Leslie! Love from Northern Minnesota! Marnie

  4. I’ve focussed on goals every so often, but never really found THE goal in my life. I’ve read this article before, when you first posted it Leslie, and you’ve re-posted it at just the right time for me!
    I’m off to read the Jack Rabbit Factor again!

  5. I kept thinking that I can choose anything and that if I just work hard enough at it, it would make me money eventually. But it wasn’t working and I thought I was just not working hard enough. I know what my passion is now, but the problem is I am not sure how to make money with it, and if it has potential to make enough money to sustain us like I would want. Should I keep pursing that anyway? I have a garden blog/website. I want to write a book that is different than any other gardening book that I have ever seen. I really want to inspire people to grow some of their own food and help in the movement for eating home grown/ locally grown food. I am passionate about this- but how do I turn this into $$?

  6. It struck a chord with me the first time I read it. I re-read it again today.

    I have started down paths and the doors have been shut so many times that I dont think I can “feel’ the right path.

    I have so much, but I know/feel/pray there is more that he wants me to do.

    But I dont know if I could “be willing to act on it, no matter what”. What if I am wrong again.

  7. Thank-you very much Leslie. I know this article was written for me and placed exactly where it needed to be. I still don’t have the final answer yet as to what I want, but I’m not weighed down with not knowing any more. The enlightenment I received from reading the article feels like a 10 ton boulder was just taken off my chest. This is an exciting journey of discovery I’m on and I’m thankful that God has supplied people like you to guide and inspire me. Many blessings to you and yours.

  8. thank you very much for the encouragement and rude awakening , i am and have all i want and need to have my dreams and goals materialize , ” Frazer is the best he can be , nothing and nobody will stop him , Frazer is a winner and the higgest achiever ever ”
    Deo Gratias

  9. Now I know that I’m not the only one having trouble finding and keeping my “passion,” I feel so much better. I will try your goal suggestion, because I have been feeling like it was just a matter of time and preparation. Thank you and have a great day! Will let you know about my success. 🙂

  10. THANK YOU LESLIE! I’ve been trying to write my LifeVision, but wasn’t sure what I wanted to accomplish. I now have a way to find the answer! Thank you for giving me a way over that road block! 🙂

  11. Hi Leslie

    Think you hit the hammer right on the nail..sometimes we don’t want to really know what our dream is because that means going out there and doing something we may not feel comfortable with, that feels a little scary..out of our comfort zone.

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