The Power of Relativity

“I cried because I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet.” ~Ancient Proverb

Have you ever been around one of those people who is an eternal optimist? The kind of person who, after you have just vented to them about some rotten thing that has happened to you, comes up with a reason that it’s really a good thing?

Isn’t it irritating? 😉

Actually, it’s all about perspective. What that eternal optimist knows is that “good” or “bad” depends on how you look at it.

The Law of Relativity states that any given circumstance is neither good nor bad, it just is. Good or bad is a meaning that we attach to the circumstance, based on our thoughts.

And we can change our thoughts…

No matter how bad our circumstances may be, we can always find someone who has things worse than we do.  Understanding that it could always be worse can help us to remain grateful in hard times. The more frequently we practice gratitude for the things we have, the happier we are.  The Law of Relativity, however, is about more than just putting a positive spin on our hard times. The power in the Law of Relativity comes as we begin to see our setbacks as blessings.

Watch what happens when a girl who was told to never say “can’t” takes that advice to heart…

Watch the video, and read the rest of the article here

For more on this topic, read Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters (free!)

Author Robyn Young is a Mindset Mastery Certified Mentor and Genius Bootcamp Facilitator. Join Robyn for our next Genius Bootcamp – registration NOW OPEN – Early bird rate expires soon! Click here to learn more.

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Shoes, a ring, seashells, and $5000

Did you know?

The part of your brain that helps you achieve your goals, ISN’T the same part of your brain that sets the goals. I explain this in more detail in this video, where I talk about the subconscious mind and how it helps you (or keeps you from!) achieving your goals. But there is yet another part of your brain that has a different important role.

It’s called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), the entryway through which almost all data enters the brain, and which filters the information that comes in, having an effect on what gets your attention.

Think of it this way:

What if you need an opportunity—but you can’t see the one right in front of you? What if you need more customers—but you can’t think of that one incredibly effective thing you could do right now to reach them?

The answers we need are all around us.

The resources we lack aren’t as far away as we think. Everything we need is only an idea away; or in more scientific terms, your Reticular Activating System simply needs to be alerted to bring those ready-to-go ideas/resources/and people to your attention.

You’ve already experienced your RAS in action. Maybe you noticed that when you bought a car, suddenly that kind of car began showing up everywhere. Or, when you thought you invented a clever name for your child, pretty soon you started noticing other children all around you with the same name.

Sounds mysterious, doesn’t it? Well, it’s not as mysterious as you think.

While these kinds of experience may seem inexplicable, remember that the Universe operates very predictably based on a set of natural laws. The system was set up perfectly in the beginning, and it continues to run perfectly as planned. Almost like a computer program created to handle different scenarios in certain ways based upon the data input it receives. If X, then Y. If A, then B. Now that computers are such an integral part of our lives, we humans are beginning to understand how such a system could be structured and yet appear or feel so random.

You experience this every day.

The New York Times published the following story, which illustrates on the micro how simple a delivery-system like this can be, once it has been set up properly to begin with:

The shoes that Julie Matlin recently saw on Zappos.com were kind of cute, or so she thought. But Ms. Matlin wasn’t ready to buy and left the site.

Then the shoes started to follow her everywhere she went online. An ad for those very shoes showed up on the blog TechCrunch. It popped up again on several other blogs and on Twitpic. It was as if Zappos had unleashed a persistent salesman who wouldn’t take no for an answer.

“For days or weeks, every site I went to seemed to be showing me ads for those shoes,’ said Ms. Matlin, a mother of two from Montreal. ‘It is a pretty clever marketing tool. But it’s a little creepy, especially if you don’t know what’s going on.” Helft, M. and Vega, T. (2010, Aug 29). Retargeting Ads Follow Surfers to Other Sites.

As this story illustrates, what shows up can absolutely be a result of the attention you gave something. Click on shoes, and they come back to your computer screen time and again, no matter what site you’re visiting. (In fact, this is exactly what is happening with me and a beautiful baguette ring I clicked on at the JC Penney website a few months ago. I’m not bothered… I think it’s gorgeous. It kind of makes me happy every time I see it. But I would remove the outer stones and only keep the center 5, and I’d put it on yellow gold, and I’m a size 5. In case anyone is wondering.)

So based on what you click on, your computer screen can very naturally become it’s own kind of vision board. Be careful to only click on the kinds of things you want in your life!

Computer software that uses targeted ads is just an example of how life itself works.

Based on what you think, your life begins to take new shape according to the nature of your thoughts. So only think on the kinds of things you want in your life! Think less about the parts you hate. Think more about the parts you love, and think lots about the way you want it to be.

What shows up in your life is very much a function of the thoughts you choose. Corresponding opportunities, people, and resources are brought to your attention in response. Don’t worry too much about the unwanted thoughts that pop in, just replace them as quickly as you can when they show up. And think often and emotionally on your hopes and dreams, because by the same kind of system that marketers use to target audiences, life will bring you the ideas, resources, and people you need to help you achieve them. It’s automatic, like a computer program.

And then expect to find those things! The expectation is what activates your RAS, so you’ll notice them and have a chance to engage with them when they arrive. In many cases those things are already right there, but you just haven’t noticed.

Here’s an example from one of my students of how this works in real life.

She wrote the following to my husband:

So, your wife is a genius! The book was incredible…I have a great story… I could not put the book down, finished it in just a few hours one night. I was at the beach with my kids the next day after I was done, and decided to test the theory. We belong to a beach club defined by huge rock jetties and good shells are hard to come by. We’ve never ever found a decent shell. Anyway, I walked down to the water and realized this was a great place to test…after all, no better place for the universe to be able to provide than the ocean!! So I put my energy on finding those big white gorgeous shells – we’ve never seen them anywhere near our beach. I imagined us all picking them and carrying loads back to the house… I reached down into the water and immediately pulled out a sand dollar – hmmm…

We walked the length of the beach, no shells. I did not let go of my focus. At the end, we went through the lagoon, and my kids climbed up on the last jetty. For the first time, they wanted to keep walking onto the next beach. They wanted to climb down the other side of the jetty and keep walking. At first I said “no” the jetty isn’t really safe to climb over, we could get hurt….blah, blah, blah…

Out of no where my youngest finds a small path that leads right over the jetty. We have never, ever noticed it before. We are now on the next beach, I go down to the water, and start pulling these huge white shells out of the water – bigger that we have ever seen. My kids are picking them up off of the sand…it was so weird! We had armfuls! OH MY GOSH. The jackrabbits had literally turned into shells! It was wild. I sat down dizzy at the experience, and then realized the power. Now, I’m working on doing this with bags of money…I picture myself walking into my back yard pulling up bags of money instead of weeds…hey, you never know!

Shells, check. But what about money?

She wrote again 2 Months Later…

Ok – so you may remember my first experience …after reading the Jackrabbit factor…the shells at the beach. Well, at the end I think I mentioned that I would like to attract bags of money…I have, and I am blown away. In early September I put out …that I would like to have $5,000 within three months. I was willing to work for it (should an opportunity present itself), but really, I just wanted the money to appear…hey, what the heck, one can dream. Well, my parents took us out to dinner this past Saturday evening as a celebration as they have recently come into some money from my Grandmother’s estate (she died in March). At the beginning of dinner my parents handed my brother and I checks for $20,000. Oh my gosh! I now put it out there …when I need about anything …the concept of scarcity is gone from my life…there is an abundance. Once again, thank you for the Jackrabbit Factor!!”

So have you tested it for yourself? Share your story here.

If you haven’t tested it yet, what one problem (big or small) would you solve today?

For help on this topic, read the Jackrabbit Factor (free!)

If you’re ready to try a scientific experiment with these principles, join me now in the Mindset Mastery Program

Related: Reticular Activating System and a Tranquilizer Gun

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#23: Mysterious Connections, Uncanny Coincidences

Successful goal achievers learn to rely on unseen help, mysterious connections, and uncanny coincidences to help them accomplish their goals. How do these events come about?

How can you activate this help in your own life? How can you know that the help is there, and what can YOU do to participate in those kinds of miracles?

In this podcast (recorded in 2014), I explain why I didn’t like Vision Boards. My feelings have evolved about them over time (I use them now for longer-term goals), but the tool I describe on the podcast continues to be a powerful asset for effective short-and long-term goal achievement.

 

Resources mentioned on the podcast:

Jackrabbit Factor – free at www.jackrabbitfactor.com
Hidden Treasures – free at www.hiddentreasuresbook.com
Portal To Genius – free at www.portaltogenius.com
Leslie’s Home Study Program – www.prosperthefamily.com
Free Video: The Visual Aid that Changed Everything

Show Notes:

  • How Gary and Carolyn Norris met Leslie
  • Missionary Mommas story about the Mongolian Missionary
  • Chunky headboard story
  • Do all you can do, trust that things will work out, meet you half-way
  • You don’t have to have money to get started
  • Act as though
  • Free video: Visual Aid that Changed Everything
  • Hidden Treasures – when things go wrong – what’s the story you tell yourself about it?
  • Mysterious connections, uncanny occurrences or coincidences
  • Unseen help literally orchestrates all that we need
  • It’s always a bigger story than we can comprehend
  • Genius ideas, aka. inspiration
  • Portal to Genius and Jackrabbit Factor
  • Wished my bishop would call me in and say stop doing what you’re doing
  • Success because of intense, unwavering belief?
  • Best blog posts were the ones coaching myself through this storm – pioneer
  • Believe, strongly, passionately – NO.
  • How big does faith have to be? Mustard seed.
  • Did the Mongolian girl doubt? Pit bull tenacious, frustrated, upset… but it happened. No room for doubt.
  • It doesn’t have to be a declaration of I know this is going to happen. The key isn’t how big your belief is, it’s are you keeping doubt away.
  • When you feel doubt, “It may or may not, but I choose to believe.”
  • Belief is a choice.
  • Dream Big, Picture what you Want – FINE!
  • Resorting to an escapist mentality – thought I was doing something wrong
  • I have to pretend like it’s real or I can’t feel the feelings that it would cause
  • I planted a seed. There is a force, unseen help that literally orchestrates all the resources I need to accomplish my goals.
  • Did I doubt? Did I check in the next day and say, “I wonder if that worked…”?
  • I didn’t have anything TO DOUBT
  • Hidden Treasures Class
  • Portal to Genius Class
  • It’s not as much about whether you believe enough, it’s are you choosing to believe? Doesn’t have to be passionate. The passion piece is important at the visualization point. That’s where the emotion matters. That’s the catalyst.
  • Plant the seed and NOT DOUBT. Better way to say it: Choose to believe.
  • Laws in force all the time.
  • Sometimes we align without being conscious and we participate in those miracles. As we learn and practice, we can participate more.
  • What happens when you’re not aligned with the laws / principles?*
  • Seat belt story
  • Right place at the right time with the right people.
  • I love the thought that someone is watching out for me.
  • The goal is in stone but the plan is in sand.
  • If bad things are happening does that mean you’re not aligned? How you choose to think about what’s going on is more important than what’s going on.
  • What am I supposed to think about this??
  • How to think when you don’t know what to think. If you think right, everything else will work itself out.
  • *When you are not aligned, you are busy but not productive.”
  • What is one thing you can do, which after you do, it can ensure you will be productive: “I picture my goal again. Feel the emotion again.” Star student! Doing the Mindset Mastery program
  • Prayer – how to marry this principle with prayer. Picture it while you’re praying. Be thankful for it before it’s yours!
  • Pray with real intent – expectation
  • Picture it. See it done. Feel it as though. Ask! That’s a prayer.
  • I don’t know what I was doing before, I think it was just whining.
  • Gideon, Adam
  • Alignment with God’s laws.
  • We think we’re telling a lie, but we’re just telling the truth in advance.
  • Busy vs. Productive
  • 150 presentations
  • Money goals vs what the money is for
  • Why are you on this planet, what is your mission to fulfill, and what is keeping you from doing it?
  • Is it time consuming to do what I’m talking about – it’s exhausting!
  • Mindset Mastery feedback from audience member
  • What will it feel like?
  • Thinking is the hardest work in the world. Most people would rather die than think. Bertrand Russell?
  • People have agency and may encroach on yours. What is always your choice is how you will respond
  • Victor Frankl
  • Why your life needs a spec – a diagram, blueprint, details
  • Online version of the Mindset Mastery course
  • What do you want?
  • I don’t want to make a choice that isn’t good for me.
  • If you don’t have a spec, you get the default.
  • I saw it in my head, but when I tried to convey to the unseen help (in India)
  • Writing it down (What I wanted, how He helped)
  • At the time – “I don’t use a vision board”
  • Write it down just the way my heart wants to express it, even if it’s wrong.
  • My secret weapon for combating overwhelm
  • Perseverance
  • Box fan story – his solution was in that town all along. If you don’t have what you need, you go as far as you can go.
  • Never say Whoa in a mud hole!
  • Wanting Garrett to just take Jackrabbit Factor and have it, promote it. He said, no it needs a sequel.
  • You can’t finish the story because you haven’t lived it yet. Brace yourself.
  • Savings disappeared, credit maxed, $15K due in 2 weeks and no paycheck in sight.
  • What are we going to do if we run out of money? $200 in the bank, 7 kids at home…
  • Anniversary dinner – pretend that everything is ok
  • Figured out in 10 years? Zoom out, dream on that.
  • Live there, and everything you need will be there as you need it.
  • Living one step into the darkness and having exactly what we needed as we needed it. A different kind of faith than what I had learned with JF.
  • You can create anything, make all the money you want, but PTG brings in “what’s your purpose”? If you need 5 billion to fulfill your purpose. But if you don’t, then why set the goal for it? You will have sufficient. When you learn to live with sufficient, then abundance flows in a different way than before. That experience burned the fear out of us, we don’t fear like we used to. Lose almost everything to find out that you’re actually ok. It wasn’t fatal.
  • Acorn story
  • The solution to every problem is only an idea away.
  • Your next step (do/say) will be clear when your vision is clear.
  • Hidden Treasures – about the laws
  • Jackrabbit Factor – helps with vision
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Nathaniel’s Story

Nathaniel Drew joined us for a Genius Bootcamp in 2015 and later sent me this message:

“Hey, thank you for your genius Bootcamp. It was an amazing experience. …My life has changed quite a bit. A lot of positive manifestations that keep gaining momentum.” He added, “My wife saw a video of you …[and] approached me in tears because she related with your story so much. She read The Jackrabbit Factor and had me watch the video. In a month’s time we went from $19k/year expecting to be starving artists for the rest of our lives to over $70k/year and much more to come on the horizon. Thank you for sharing your world of abundance with us. It really means a lot to us. … Thanks again.”

I replied, “Great to hear, Nathaniel 🙂 I’d be happy to spotlight your story in an upcoming newsletter, if you would like to [send more details]. No hurry, just an open invitation.”

Well, turns out he has a fantastic story, and I’m thrilled he took the time to share it!

He related the events of the previous several years in his own words:

“I don’t want to be a starving artist anymore!” I said angrily standing outside my mobile home. I’m not sure if it was to my wife or myself or God or the Universe.

You see, when my dear Emily and I began talking about marriage during our courtship I told her “You know, if you marry me, you’ll be the wife of a starving artist for five or ten years.” Not only was she ok with that, but she was excited about it.

At the time.

As we lived the life of starving artists for 10 years we began to see others making a lot of money. Even artists doing exactly what I was doing making a lot more money than I was.

I had written music for musicals, commercials, short films, long films, and even some amazing feature films!

Nathaniel Drew’s Salt Lake Pops Orchestra on set for a music video

 

Nathaniel Drew’s Salt Lake Pops Orchestra performing with Alex Boye and Lindsey Stirling

So many times both she and I would get so mad. We knew how talented I was. We knew my compositions were technically amazing and I had won plenty of awards. We just had little money to show for it.

Nathaniel Drew conducting the Salt Lake Pops Orchestra

So it was, just after our tenth anniversary that I got mad for the last time. I cursed myself. I cursed the universe. I cursed my wife and my children and anything else I could blame. Anger and blame after all was better than the depression I had been through because I was now taking back my power.

One night I walked in the door from a torturous day at my studio and I closed the old heavy front door into our warm trailer. “Hey, did you get that video I emailed you?” she asked.

“Uh, yeah, the rabbit one?” I asked with smidgen of annoyance.

“Yeah, [about] The Jackrabbit Factor! It really has changed the way I look at things!” she said hopeful, but trying not to be too excited.

From here I must rewind to let you know some things about Emily to give you an appreciation of the place that she’s in at this moment that she’s offered this video to me. From the time we married it took seven years and many fertility treatments until we finally gave up on the idea of having our own children. Once we gave up our resistance we had our first child. Our son Liam. We then had our second son Peter 18 months after that.

She should have been the most elated mother in the history of the world, but she was depressed. In order to combat her depression she became determined and decided that she was going to run a triathlon. In order to run this triathlon she was going to train all summer for a specific triathlon at the end of the summer. She was so determined. She got up every day and went out to run. She scheduled other races that would lead up to the triathlon. She got her sisters and a niece involved who would run with her or watch the kids while I worked on my latest film score.

I had never seen her take such initiative. In the process she ran a half marathon! When she finished that triathlon I had never seen her more alive and happy. She even called it “easy” and “fun” and wanted to do more!

Many aspects of her life were changing. She stopped working so hard and started enjoying the kids more. It was this kick of empowerment that led her to Leslie Householder’s materials. “I haven’t looked at it yet, but I’ll watch it tomorrow if you want.” I responded.

“You should watch it right now!” Emily said excitedly.

I sat down with her and found the video [the one called Discovering Your Hidden Resources]. We watched together. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but after a while I began to feel excited. I wasn’t sure what to say. We talked for hours afterwards about the law of attraction and about emotions and about what we really wanted.

Those following weeks were full of emotion and change. I began to get up every morning at 5am and started a vlog called the 7 Day Journey. I began to clean and fix up my house and be proud of my appearance. I began looking at houses and different properties that brought me joy. I began to live my life in a way that my priority was to feel joy as much as I could.

Most of all we felt joy and love and peace surround our desires. Things began breaking loose in my life. I began to focus on the house that I wanted. I focused on creating and feeling good. Taking walks, getting enough sleep, getting exercise, meditating. Every moment of my life was a quest to find joy. I began to believe in myself again. To feel powerful and alive. To feel in control. I was finding my true self and my purpose.

The first two months I received more money than I had the whole previous year.

I remembered how well my brother-in-law was creating in his life and we began partnering up in business. We had a $50mil. development that funded that March. I created a high-class resort with a restaurant and spa. But the best is yet to come. The totality of my work right now is going places and doing things that bring me joy.

…I felt inspired to go to a certain University I graduated from. I sat in their brand new beautiful and open library all day. It was so fun watching students. It was as if they had idea bubbles coming out of their heads. So much energy and fun, and I just felt the energy flowing through me.

I then felt prompted to go and talk with the President of the college. I headed out to his office, when on the way I ran into some ladies from the music department from where I had graduated. They were talking about a new music building for which they were going to be getting funding. And it hit me why I was to meet with the President of the University.

I was in the office and scheduled an appointment that they normally don’t give, at a time that was perfect. I met with the President, Dean of the school of Arts, Dean of the school of Music and several others. I found them another $30mil for their arts building and created the first social media wing/program in the world for the arts.

They also wanted me to do their social media marketing (something I’m very very good at).

Everything just fell into place including talking with the former Mayor of the city who set up meetings for me to meet with state legislators for more funds and setting up meetings with Facebook. It was just an avalanche of momentum all at once.

It feels good to know my purpose and to listen to my inner being. It is so amazing when source energy is flowing through me and I am so excited to see this manifest in my life!

The funny thing is that it’s not even that much of a surprise. It just feels natural. I am a powerful creator and have always been. The only reason in my past that money has not flowed to me is that I haven’t allowed it to.

I’m not just a musician.

I have been expanding all of my life and I now recognize that. I have felt bad as a composer when I wasn’t willing to let myself expand. I will continue to find things that truly bring me joy, and I am so excited to allow more and more expansion within my life and allow myself joy and happiness and money and amazing relationships. Every moment of my life is my choice.

I choose happiness. I choose wealth. I choose love.

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Well done, Nathaniel! To learn more about what he’s up to now, watch his video below:

(…and find out How to get YOUR music on the Billboard Hot 100 chart)

If the video doesn’t open, CLICK HERE

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Parked, or Rolling Toward Your Goal?

Ten years ago I sent a broadcast inviting those who had read The Jackrabbit Factor (and who had seen amazing things happen as a result) share their success story with Oprah. Most of the responses I received were enthusiastic and supportive. However, a few (who admitted they hadn’t read the book) responded with a question:

“If you practice what you preach, shouldn’t you just put the intention ‘out to the Universe’ and let it deliver what you’re asking for, without asking your readers to help you?”

Fair question. But remember, the key to putting the principles to work is that once you know what you want, you must see it in your mind as though you already have it, FEEL the victory now, and then when an idea comes to do something, you must ACT.

So that’s why I sent out the invitation. Not because being on Oprah was the goal, but rather because I thought that being on Oprah might take me a step closer to the goal. Being on Oprah was never “the goal.” It was not a destination. The ultimate goal was the vision I had for my family, and the positive difference I hoped to make for other families across the globe. Naturally, I knew that being on her show wasn’t the only way for me to achieve my goal, but I acted on the thought anyway, because that was the idea that showed up.

Taking action can be scary

By suggesting that my readers contact Oprah.com to share their stories and recommend my book for her show, I risked ridicule, judgement, and a possible flurry of unsubscribes. Taking action is scary, and yet I’ve discovered that action it’s necessary, and the fear is normal.

(I’ve also learned that having people unsubscribe is not a bad thing. I prefer to surround myself with like-minded people, so if I ever say something that turns someone off, I wish them well and know that they will find what they are looking for elsewhere.)

So to reiterate: When you set a goal, you must act.

Act where you are

I’ve also learned that no matter where I’m at now, or where I’m trying to go, I can only act on my present surroundings, like the acorn in the ground. The acorn does not need to act on the nutrients that are still three feet away; it must act on the nutrients in the ground that are already in contact with it. In time, as it grows roots, it will be able to connect with other needed elements a few inches away, and then a few feet away, and beyond; but it all begins with simply taking action right where it is.

As Wallace Wattles taught in Chapter 11 of The Science of Getting Rich:

“Whatever your action is to be, it is evident that you must act NOW. You cannot act in the past, and it is essential to the clearness of your mental vision that you dismiss the past from your mind. You cannot act in the future, for the future is not here yet. And you cannot tell how you will want to act in any future contingency until that contingency has arrived.

“Because you are not in the right business, or the right environment now, do not think that you must postpone action until you get into the right business or environment. And do not spend time in the present taking thought as to the best course in possible future emergencies; have faith in your ability to meet any emergency when it arrives.

“If you act in the present with your mind on the future, your present action will be with a divided mind, and will not be effective.

“Put your whole mind into present action.

“…Act now. There is never any time but now, and there never will be any time but now. If you are ever to begin to make ready for the reception of what you want, you must begin now. And your action, whatever it is, must most likely be in your present business or employment, and must be upon the persons and things in your present environment. You cannot act where you are not; you cannot act where you have been, and you cannot act where you are going to be; you can act only where you are.

“…Do not wait for a change of environment, before you act; get a change of environment by action. You can so act upon the environment in which you are now, as to cause yourself to be transferred to a better environment. Hold with faith and purpose the vision of yourself in the better environment, but act upon your present environment with all your heart, and with all your strength, and with all your mind.

“…Do not feel discouraged, or sit down and lament because you are misplaced. No man was ever so misplaced but that he could not find the right place, and no man ever became so involved in the wrong business but that he could get into the right business.

“Hold the vision of yourself in the right business, with the purpose to get into it, and the faith that you will get into it, and are getting into it; but ACT in your present business. Use your present business as the means of getting a better one, and use your present environment as the means of getting into a better one. Your vision of the right business, if held with faith and purpose, will cause the Supreme to move the right business toward you; and your action, if performed in the Certain Way, will cause you to move toward the business.”

(Click here to get my 8-week study of this remarkable book! – use promo code “summer17”)

My invitation to my readers that day was just one of those ideas that showed up, and sending the invitation out was simply acting on my present surroundings.

You don’t have to act on EVERY idea

While some of my readers did contact her company, other readers offered additional ideas:

One suggested I send her producers a book. Another suggested I go to New York and meet with a bunch of media representatives.

Although these suggestions may be something I will do at some point, at the time it didn’t feel right. And frankly, ten years later, being on Oprah no longer carries the appeal to me that it once did, and I’ve found that I can achieve my ultimate goals in so many other ways by simply acting right where I am.

So what was the outcome of my acting on that thought? Who knows! Maybe someone on her staff learned about the book and maybe it helped them. I never got a phone call, and that’s okay. At the very least it gave me an opportunity to experiment with, and write about, the principle of acting where you are.

I knew that if it was truly in harmony with my ultimate goals, it would come together at the right time. That it did not happen when I wanted it to did not prevent me from making progress in other ways. Even now, I continue to maintain a clear mental picture of how I am building my life to be, and will continue acting on the suitable ideas that come to me as they come.

Understand this:

God knows best how to bring your vision about, but He still expects you to move your feet.

After all, you can’t steer a parked car.

So what about you? What are your goals? Are you at least rolling, even if you’re not sure you’re headed in the right direction?

Do your best to act where you are to achieve your worthy objectives, and keep the thought: “Please nudge me in another direction if I’m wrong!” in the back of your mind. So long as you are at least rolling, God can steer you.

And if you go one way and discover that you need to turn a corner or make a U-turn, it’s not the end of the world. We will all make mistakes along the way, but remaining frozen is probably the worst mistake of all.

To get the unique, inspired, genius idea you need for your next step, join us for Genius Bootcamp June 22-24. At the time of this post there were still 4 openings left! Originally posted Feb 15, 2007

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Why I Believe in Time Warps

Are you Crazy Busy? Do you need a Time Warp?

Two weeks before I taught a Mentor Training class, I was on the verge of a meltdown. Too many things to do, not enough hands to do them with… and definitely not enough time to get it all done before the participants were scheduled to arrive.

In my frantic state, time seemed to race by and not many of my tasks were getting completed. Furthermore, I had to reluctantly stop in the middle and fly out of state because I was scheduled to meet with one of my mentors – a meeting that was not easy to come by and which I didn’t dare cancel.

After an incredible meeting (getting my head back in the right place), I came home at peace.

I didn’t immediately jump back into my preparations for the event. I spent some time with my kids in a non-rushed manner, and enjoyed peace of mind, knowing that everything was going to turn out okay.

(Note: nothing on my list changed. In fact, I even had even LESS time than before. The only thing that changed was the way I viewed the situation.)

Once I was ready, I returned to my tasks and calmly started checking them off one at a time. When I was done, I realized I still had about four or five days left to prepare, and yet there was nothing more that I needed to do!

Never in my life can I remember feeling so prepared for an event, with time to spare. In fact, I actually worried that the event might flop, because this was the first one I had prepared without feeling attacked by tremendous opposition.

(Previously, the amount of opposition I experienced beforehand was always the indicator for how well the event would go. The tougher the fight, the better the events always turned out, so long as I would just press on and make them happen anyway. As a result, I had resigned myself to the idea that every event I ever did would be a massive test of my faith, that everything would always have to get done in a panic at the last minute – and when there were pieces that didn’t get done – well, we’d just have to be at peace with letting those pieces go.)

Interestingly enough, however, this event did not test me like all the others had. It actually went amazingly smoothly and I felt untouched by the old challenges that used to get in the way and bog me down. I realized that my challenges were now of a different nature, perhaps because I had somehow “graduated” from the old kinds of challenges and was ready to move on to a new level of being.

In retrospect, I am convinced that as I allowed myself to think at a higher level than ever before, I literally experienced a time warp. I’m not talking about science fiction, I’m talking about the reality that “time is only measured unto man” and that with God, all things are possible.

I believe that when your thoughts are held in the right place, and when you hold the right mindset, time can stand still for you (or at least slow down) until you can accomplish what you need to do.

I’ve tested this and seen it help me out every time:

When I’m late and frantically trying to figure out how I will explain my lateness, the clock speeds up. If I calm down and picture everything turning out okay (letting myself feel the relief I’ll feel when I’m in my seat with time to spare), the clock slows down. And if I do this and show up “late” anyway, things have shifted to where my being on time didn’t really matter the way I thought it would.

Time management with these ideas in mind can provide a big boost toward the ultimate life mastery we’d all love to achieve.

So could you use a time warp?

Are you running as fast as you can and still falling behind?

Let me teach you how to experience this time warp phenomenon – it’s about being Genius in your thoughts.

Experience Genius Bootcamp for yourself. Our amazing Genius Bootcamp facilitator is chomping at the bit to share the process with you. We’re telling everyone who will listen how cool and amazing this life experience can be when you learn and implement the principles we want to share with you!

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I look forward to helping YOU enjoy more time doing the things you love to do. Let’s experience some time warps and achieve your goals with less stress!

Much love,

Leslie Originally published October 27, 2010

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Brian’s Story

Nine years ago, a stay-at-home mom ordered the Mindset Mastery Program (back when it was still called the FTMF). Later that year we met at a conference, and we’ve been friends ever since, even though it’s been a few years since we’ve seen each other in person.

But last week I got a message from her husband Brian.

Let me tell you a little bit about Brian. This is the Brian I met nearly a decade ago:

And this is Brian after he applied some mindset mastery to finding a solution and achieving a pretty incredible health and fitness goal:

As if this isn’t inspiring enough, he continues to conquer his challenges:

What follows is a look inside the mind of someone who persists, even with the SAME insecurities that (at one time or another) plague us all:

Brian writes:

“Hi Leslie …As you may know, your husband and I share a love of cycling. Recently I have even taken up cross country mountain biking (MTB). Last night …I met up with some friends for a group MTB ride on a local trail. This trail is known for it’s very steep ascent and very technical downhill. At one point, the rider will come up on some big rocks (we call it simply The Rockface).

“For the most part, I generally walk this section as I feel too uncertain of my own skills to ride it. However, someone who I admire and have given sort of a mentor status to, who is also a friend, is insistent that I am ready to ride it.

“…my timidness is due in large part to my own lack of faith in my skills. …there’s that fear of failure. And in this case, failure can lead to very painful consequences.

“But my friend, who is the owner of a local bike shop and has years of mountain biking experience under his belt, insists that I can do this challenge. And he’s willing to coach me through it.

“So here’s my question: you have written in your books that “when the student is ready, the teacher will show up.” What if the student doesn’t know he’s ready? Does the teacher show up even at that time?

“…A week ago, when we met for this same ride, I became very stressed out about riding that Rockface. The challenge stands before me. It’s almost goading me. I can’t help but wonder why this is such a prominent issue in my life. Is there some kind of lesson God wants me to learn based on this rather [small] and seemingly unimportant issue in my life?”

My reply:

I can’t say whether or not you should do the Rockface, but yes, the right teacher CAN appear even if the student doesn’t feel ready. But the fact is, you were already ready for THIS teacher, which is why you already have him.

Whether or not a teacher shows up is a different issue than whether or not you’re ready for the Rockface.

You may find that another teacher (maybe not related to biking, but maybe a book or quote or something) may pop up to help you know what to do. That counts, too. So focus on who you want to be a year from now… feel yourself being HIM, live THAT in your mind for a little while, and then the right teacher/ book/ quote/ etc. will show up to help you get from here to there, and that may or may not include the Rockface. Sometimes uncertainty and indecision stems from not being clear on who you WANT to be or where you WANT to end up.

Hope this helps…

Leslie 🙂

His response:

“I appreciate your input very much. Thanks for the advice. Incidentally, I ended up riding the Rockface last night. It was only a little harrowing, but ultimately I think it’s a lesson for me. I’ve been talking to my wife about it, and wondering why it’s such a big deal in my life right now. Honestly, why would riding a rock on a bike be …such an important aspect of my life right now?

“I honestly think that the rock is merely a representation of something much deeper and more meaningful in my life.

“I had decided that it was okay for me to not want to ride it. That it was okay for me to not worry about getting over that particular challenge. I became comfortable in the idea that I didn’t have to ride the thing. And so I started not worrying about it.

“Then a couple of things happened:

“First, there was a photo posted from a friend that showed his own daughter actually crashing on the rock. …The actual post didn’t describe the crash, but the fact that his daughter finally conquered her own fear of riding down the rock.

“This got me thinking about it again. And just the idea of riding that rock started filling me with dread. I actually think I may have had a panic attack from it, but I don’t know. So I set the thought of it aside and went back to the comfortable idea that it was okay not to ride it.

“Shortly after that, another friend of mine …challenged me in a somewhat passive/aggressive way. He said he was going to tell the rest of the group that I was going to show off how I could ride the rock face on the night of our next ride. This started me thinking that it was time for me to go for it. But I started panicking again, and bowed out.

“And then the teacher showed up. I admit, when he showed up, I felt like I’d been caught in my underwear watching TV…totally unprepared for his arrival. Last week, after our ride, my friend told me that he knew I had the skills to tackle the rock. He said,

‘It’s like watching your kids. When you know they can do something, but they won’t do it. It’s that kind of frustrating.’

“I decided that if someone who had a stronger skill set in riding than I did had that much confidence in my abilities, maybe it was time I had that confidence, too. That night, I got (figuratively) dressed. I made the commitment to take on the rock. I’m glad I did.

“But I’m still pondering what the lesson here is. Right now, my mind is circling around the concept that God doesn’t want us to get to a point in our eternal progression where we say it’s okay to not move forward on something. And maybe this is just a mundane little challenge in life that won’t have any real impact on my life overall (or it could, who knows?), but maybe there’s something more basic at work here?

“Maybe the lesson is that we should embrace the challenges of our lives, no matter how [small]… or seemingly unimportant they are, because what it’s doing is helping us to grow an even more important skill; that of learning how to overcome fears and move beyond those things which scare us…

“Having that skill will be very necessary in our lives…

“[Anyway], thanks for all of your instructional work that you’ve done to help me understand how we can bring about our own success.”

Click here to learn more about Brian and get the rest of the story at his blog.

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Jan’s Story

Some time ago I held a special Mentor Training for those who graduate with Honors from the Mindset Mastery™ Program and want to learn how to effectively (and profitably) mentor others in the principles of “right thinking”. It was designed for those who were ready to take their skill and expertise to the next level.

(I held this course twice before taking time off to focus on my family. The last class was recorded and is available online so that Honors Graduates can enjoy the same powerful advanced training experience — complete with personal one-on-one coaching with me — all from the comfort of home. (Mindset Mastery Honors Graduates: click here to learn more.)

But now and then I hear from someone who went through the Mentor Training program to update me on what’s happened since. A couple weeks ago I heard from Jan Lambert, and her story was too inspirational to keep to myself. 🙂

First, a little back story…

Jan showed up at Mentor Training in an electric wheelchair and with a service dog. To attend, she drove over 1200 miles (each way), pulling over as needed to sleep in her van, despite the physical discomfort. In her words:

“I read Leslie’s book The Jackrabbit Factor. It awakened something in me that will not go back to sleep. I feel an energy that I have not felt in years, as if I am being driven toward a goal I did not know was there, until everything started to ‘work’ so I could come to Mentor Training.”

Here was a woman determined to make a change in her life, despite a past full of some extreme and traumatic hardships. She has given me permission to share a few of the many difficulties she experienced:

When she was a baby (13 months old, with medical records that prove it), she was sexually assaulted. Her childhood was un-loving. Nobody ever told her they loved her, in her entire childhood. Neither parent, no grandparent, friend — only men who wanted sexual favors. Her mother was violent. She was spanked every day for some offense or another, “walked on eggshells” and hid from her at every opportunity. Later in life she was married twice to cruel and abusive husbands. She says,

“It’s difficult to describe the feeling of going through life without a goal, other than ‘to survive.'”

In July of 2001, she was taken to the hospital with supra-ventricular tachycardia. The echogram showed damage consistent with Congestive Heart Failure. She was never able to do strenuous exercise, as she had Rheumatic Fever twice as a child. She ended up on Disability.

In 2003 a nurse determined that she was no longer able to take care of herself. She needed to either go to a nursing home, or have a daily caregiver. In her words:

“Over the years …I steadily gained weight. I knew it was ‘protection’ … My weight climbed to a height of 310 pounds. [After falling] I broke a rib once trying to climb up the furniture.”

“In October, 2008, I fell [again]. It didn’t seem like a bad fall, as I’d been having falls for about the past two years, but this time I couldn’t get up. It was the worst pain I can ever remember feeling since falling from a horse across a fence and breaking some ribs back in the ’60’s. Another run to the Emergency Room. X-rays revealed a fractured vertebrae. A subsequent MMRI revealed THREE MORE fractured vertebrae, all old, long healed. But the way they healed, they put on calcium on the inside, putting pressure on the spinal nerve.”

“So THAT’S WHY, all my life, I’ve been in great pain when I had to stand for any length of time, and when I had to walk. I’ve always avoided it. I’ve been called ‘lazy’ more than once because of it, but the pain can become incapacitating. It wasn’t the kind of pain I could just ignore!”

“Long ago, before I knew I had been a victim of child sexual abuse, I heard Spencer W. Kimball state in General Conference that the man who betrays a young girl’s trust is her destroyer, as surely as if he has put a gun to her head and pulled the trigger. Well, I guess that something inside me that remembered what happened… refused to be destroyed! I had always thought I was given the life I was given because I needed to learn to fight, but from this end of it, I realize I was given this life because I WAS ALWAYS A FIGHTER, and I had a chance to overcome it…”

Never giving up on the hope that she could find peace, and doing the best she could, step by step she held to the vision of a better life and worked for years to improve her condition – emotional and physical.

Long story short, she says,

“I’ve found healing. I had not realized the level of hatred and rage I had harbored toward all men, until it was gone. I feel a peace inside now that I’ve never had before. I feel safe.”

These were Jan’s remarkable words in 2010. So you can imagine how happy I was to hear from her again seven years later:

“[Your last podcast – ‘Happy Without It’] made me think of how my life has moved since Mentor Training. I had set my 5-year goal to have a ranch with my horses, dogs, cats, etc…

“About two years ago, I met a man I could not walk away from… he’s a Disabled Veteran who served as a Navy Seal for ten years. …We are now engaged to be married.

“And…he owns land in two other states, one unit is large enough to qualify as my ‘ranch’ and I can have all the horses, dogs, and cats I want there! Also most of the other things I dreamed up while I was writing (and drawing) the details… Including windmills and storage batteries for electricity independence, greenhouses for 12-month/year fresh food production, the barn of a size I want for the domestic livestock I need to supplement the greenhouse enterprise… it’s all there…

“His own dream of rehabilitating Felons will bring us the students I will need to teach the Program to while they make plans for their own futures, meanwhile learning skills with which to establish an independent business of their own instead of being reliant upon ‘finding a job’ which, if you don’t know this, is very difficult to do if you have ‘Felon’ on your record.

“My dream was to find people who needed to become independent business owners in order to earn a living, build a life, keep their family close by involving each family member in the business, keeping each one ‘needed’ and appreciated as they grow. I feel I was guided to appreciate the needs of felons for this purpose. Of course, anybody who wants to come and learn the Program will be welcome. 🙂

“My dream is coming true! And with a bonus I …had not even considered: my Sweetheart…

“I’m only 65. My life is far from over. …If my experiences can help another, they are not wasted. Not my fears, my tears, nor my triumphs.”

I love stories like this, which show that the principles aren’t just about money. As far as I’m concerned, they are even more about the kinds of things that money can’t buy.

If you want to feel renewed, encouraged, and inspired as well, read or re-read The Jackrabbit Factor now. (It’s free!)

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How to reach more customers

I strive to provide life-changing content at no charge, and for those who need extra help, I offer additional products and services. By focusing on what I can GIVE, over 50,000 people have requested my information; and many of them tell their friends about me. This has been an effective approach that keeps me busy helping a lot of people.

But today I want to share with you one of my BEST strategies for reaching more customers:

I participate in a gift giveaway event almost every year, which always brings me hundreds (sometimes thousands) of new subscribers in just a few weeks. And if you’re building an online business (specifically one that empowers people to improve their lives), I strongly suggest you consider doing it with me this year.

Having participated in this event every year for nearly 7 years, I have come to know and respect the event hosts (Carolyn and Joe), and they do a first-class job at bringing lots of targeted prospects to what I have to offer. If you have a product or service that empowers people, they can do the same for you.

Each event has a different theme. Sometimes it’s health and wellness, sometimes it takes a more general approach. This one is the 2nd Annual Empowered Living Gifts Giveaway event and it’s getting ready to launch in just a couple weeks.

(If you join this event for free – even if you’re not ready to participate 100% – you’ll be automatically notified of other events in the future.)

How does it work?

Basically, you provide a downloadable or digital gift (a sample of your product or service – an ebook is a great example), and then announce this gift giveaway event to your subscribers.

HUNDREDS of list owners are coming together to do the same thing. So as you let your subscribers know about the gifts they can choose from, the other list owners are doing the same for YOU.

This is a perfect example of building wealth on the CREATIVE plane, instead of the COMPETITIVE plane (as explained in my free ebook Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters – available at http://www.hiddentreasuresbook.com).

In other words, your free gift gets exposure to THOUSANDS of new potential subscribers in a matter of days, and if you deliver great information and they like what they receive from you, you have a new list of warm leads and potential customers with whom you can follow up.

Participation in this gift-giveaway event is FREE.

(But there IS an upgrade option, which I ALWAYS do. For me, at least, it always pays for itself pretty quickly.)

Sign up here

To Your List-building Success!

Leslie Householder

P.S. This event is free to join, but with 500 + gifts expected, I highly recommend you give serious thought to upgrading your account for 4x the list-building visibility and the opportunity to add multiple gifts – I always do.

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To College or Not to College

Reader’s Question:

Hey Leslie, I’m a 17 year old homeschooler who loves the leadership and mastery principles you teach and study yourself. Recently, I have been faced with the choice of going to college, but don’t know what I want to study and if the opportunities I have to learn other relevant skills would be outside of college. I feel drawn to learning and pursuing my education outside of college and feel that is where God needs me, but I also have parents and close family around me telling me that I need to “have all of my bases covered, just in case.” Is following the “safe” path to make sure I have a stable future having faith?

I really love what you have written and taught! I recently purchased the 8-Week Mindset Fundamental Course. Really excited to delve deeper into the principles. 🙂

My reply:

These are really great questions. I homeschooled my kids for 9 years and my primary goal was to give them a love of learning. (Here’s an interesting summary of our experience with that.) I’ve seen this take my kids on paths that I didn’t expect them to take, but they have all been very happy chasing what they love.

I’ve seen people be successful with and without a college education, but what I tell my children is that many more doors can open to a person who does go to college. The best advice I ever heard on the topic was by Mark Twain who said to never let schooling get in the way of your education. That doesn’t mean don’t go to school, it means get what you can but always remember the purpose – learning. (I went through college without a love of learning and wish that I had been taught how to enjoy my education.)

It sounds like you were born to be a leader, and as a leader, I’d love to see you be the one with a college education who ALSO has the mindset and leadership training to really stand out.

As you know, a college education does not guarantee success, and a person can most certainly succeed without one, but your sphere of influence can be greater if you do both.

Ultimately, you’ll have to make the decision that feels right to you. I have a degree, but my husband does not. He has done relatively well for himself in spite of it (building a six-figure career), but there has been a lot of pain and frustration in the last 30 years that could have been avoided, had he just knocked it out before life got too complicated with our growing family. He recently decided he wanted to finish what he started those many years ago as a bucket-list item, but it is definitely much harder to do now.

He has always felt that he would have been more prepared for leadership, more confident in his work, more influential in his career, and would have been able to more quickly advance, if he had had his degree. In many cases it’s the difference between “easy now, hard later” vs “hard now, easy later”. He has achieved well, but it turned out to be much longer and harder than it probably needed to be.

There really is no price tag that can be put on the confidence it cost him – even if his perceived inferiority wasn’t a reality. Has he managed? Yes. Has he excelled? Yes. Does he feel like he could have done better or achieved more? Absolutely.

The nice thing nowadays is that you don’t have to do it all in 4 years, especially if the work you’re drawn to doesn’t require a degree. I have a son who has been working on his degree but takes breaks to work and/or pursue his passions, but he stays enrolled keeping at least one class going each semester that he’s on track. His primary objective is to stay out of debt and do what he feels led to do at each step of the way. Sometimes it’s led him to take a heavy load, other times its led him to do an internship in a field that really speaks to him even though it doesn’t give him college credit, and sometimes it’s led him to build his career (which is now somewhat unrelated to the degree he’s almost finished with). Still, the degree will help him be marketable in a skill that pays well, so that he is more free to pursue his passion without having to make it pay. Sometimes the passion can fade quickly when you’ve GOT to make it PAY. That has happened to me – at one point my husband left his work to help me with our business, and we had some setbacks that forced us to make the business do well, but the pressure took all the joy out of my work. My husband went back to a job and I had to take a 5 year break from my work just to restore my love for it.

Anyway, there is a wise and healthy balance for you to find. The counsel is to get as much education as you can, which doesn’t necessarily mean college, but if you’re thinking about it, the easiest time to get a college education is when you’re young. Everything else you want to learn and do will always be there, and it can be added to the good foundation you put down now. I’d advise you to listen to the counsel of your parents and others who know you. Consider it all prayerfully with an open mind, even if it doesn’t appeal to you. Then find out what God thinks about it all.

If you were a few years older, I might have different advice, but for now, this is what I would say 🙂

Just remember, saying yes to a college education doesn’t have to mean no to everything else. It can be part of the plan, especially if you choose a path that supports your overall dream. Be wise and patient. I know it may seem contradictory to the principles I teach, but we LOVE listening to Dave Ramsey at our house. He’s entertaining and keeps us from making decisions that we will regret. We’ve made enough of those that I’m much more patient now with my goals, and much more willing to build them from a solid foundation – because I’ve achieved many goals that later fell apart, or that I later regretted achieving. I’m much more willing to listen to people who are older and wiser than me now.

Hope this helps!

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