When you’re in pain and someone asks how you’re doing

So you want to live by the Rare Faith principles, but doggone it, you’re having a bad day. How can you be real, and get the help you need, without ruining the process with negativity?

Actually, this is something we cover extensively in the Mindset Mastery program, but I’ll give you enough of a tip that you can use it right away. The following comes from a message I received from one of our program participants.

Kathryn writes:

I know the importance of positive thoughts in achieving my goals. I try to be positive, reading my affirmations and singing and doing many other things to keep my vibrations high. I’m wondering if you can give me some pointers on how to stay positive with health challenges. I don’t complain much except to my family (especially my husband) and myself. I frequently find myself saying (even in my head or to myself) things like, “I don’t feel good. I’m really off today. I’m in so much pain. I just can’t move. I’m so tired.” And so on.

I know this isn’t helping me, but I feel like I’m lying if I say otherwise when my husband asks how I am. How can I reframe these things to be positive? How can I answer him in a way that he knows he might need to cook dinner tonight (or help in other ways) without being negative or complaining?

My response:

Hi Kathryn, I’m sorry you’re going through this  that’s such a hard one. I watched my mother struggle with that for the last 30 years. Here’s an idea… Respond in the context of the law of relativity (with a worried smile, perhaps):

“It’s a down day, but I know it could always be worse, so I’m grateful this is only as bad as it is.”

Or in the context of the law of polarity, “It’s a bad day today, so I’m looking for the promised equal or greater benefit.”

Or in the context of the law if rhythm, “it’s a bad day, so I know a better one is coming.” And talk with him ahead of time to let him know that these responses are code for “I need your help today.”

For more on this topic, get started now in the Mindset Mastery program – I’d love to see you in there!

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Hope Floats the Financial Boat

Think for a minute about the natural reaction of non-swimmers who are thrown into deep waters.

Can you picture it?

They panic, and thrash violently. They become consumed with the fear of, “What if I go under and can’t come back up?!” Full of adrenaline and to avoid the worst, they claw and pound the water, in a frantic effort to stay afloat.

Eventually, if they don’t get some help, they go under out of sheer exhaustion.

This is also a vivid metaphor for people who feel like they’ve been thrown overboard without a life jacket financially.

Maybe they intentionally “abandoned ship”, leaving a regular source of income to go out on their own in search of another boat, or maybe it happened in a storm. However they got there, they may feel like a non-swimmer, fully exposed to choppy waters, surrounded by mysterious depths, and at risk of drowning in bills and other pressures.

In a situation like that, the natural inclination is to panic, and work too hard frantically trying to stay afloat – ultimately wearing themselves out and sinking into despair.

The truth is, that the principles which keep a new swimmer afloat in the water are the same principles that keep you afloat financially:

1) Take a deep breath,
2) Relax, and
3) Keep your chin up


That’s how you stay afloat in the water, and that’s how you stay afloat financially, too.

Stop for a moment and let the following statement sink in (no pun intended):

Having money does not create peace of mind; it begins with peace of mind.

Before you can learn to swim efficiently, you’ve got to learn how to FLOAT. Not just in swimming, but in your finances, too. I’m convinced that people who enjoy true abundance live abundantly, not because everything always goes their way, but because they have learned how to float and swim in choppy waters without being overcome by exhaustion.

And floating only works when you stay calm. When you are calm and keep you chin up, you float; not just in water, but with finances, too. Staying calm allows your mind to be relaxed enough to notice the inspiration that helps you solve the problem. Don’t cut off the Source of your answers by freaking out!

The cure for fear is not courage, the real cure for fear is knowledge. When you know WHY you can be at peace, it’s easier to feel peace. Choosing peace of mind also keeps you in the path of all the opportunities and resources you’ll need. (Read Hidden Treasures FREE – to find out why this works.) Freak out, and you jump off the path.

Whether you leave a ship by choice or not, finding yourself in the water can be terrifying, especially if you never learned how to swim. But hope and optimism literally and financially make you more buoyant.

Discover the truth of this and you may also discover that swimming peacefully allows you to get where you want to go without a boat at all. (A shout-out to all you entrepreneurs out there!)

So, breathe… relax… keep your chin up… and trust the current to take you to the next boat or port on your journey to financial freedom.

For more on this topic, join me in the life-changing Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse – ($37)

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Be thankful for sandwiches, too

From Jackrabbit Factor, we learn that finding and eating “sandwiches” on the path might not be the ultimate goal, but it can provide sustenance and energy for chasing the next “rabbit”. (Read it for the full analogy)

It other words, don’t begrudge the sandwich.

Will Davis put it this way. He said:

“I took a break from looking for jackrabbits to enjoy a peanut butter and jelly sandwich on the path, before picking up the search [again], and being led to the right one.”

Notice: he allowed himself to ENJOY the sandwich, and then he caught his rabbit more easily.

Sometimes we have to give ourselves permission to rest and refuel. It’s not just ALL about rabbits.

We thank God for sandwiches, too.

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Immediate Results

I received a fun message, reminding me of how simple it can be to apply the principles for truly immediate results.

Check this out:

Hi Leslie! I was thinking of you today. I had lost your book in my daughters room and she finally found it several days ago. I’ve been rereading all of the underlined portions and did something that worked!

I got my car washed yesterday and they put a scratch in my clear coating. My husband said to go back and ask what they would do to make it right.

When I read all of the reviews on Yelp, everything was terrible! My initial reaction was “Why should I even go back? They’re not going to fix anything anyway!”

I decided to apply what I learned in your book.

I decided to be grateful that they were actually going to do something to fix my car and be happy as I was driving over there.

When I got there I met the manager and asked him to come and look at my car. He said, “Are you angry about it?

I said, “I’m not mad. I’m just kind of bummed.”

He said, “I can fix bummed.”

Long story short, he waxed and buffed the scratch out of my car, cleaned up the milk on the inside that the other person had missed. He even offered me a 25% discount for him to do sealant on the whole car to protect it.

He was super nice. I even hugged him goodbye. He said he’s always willing to fix things when customers come in with a “Can you please help me” attitude.

Had it not been for your book, I would’ve gone in with a completely different emotion.

I know you probably have hundreds of stories like this, but I couldn’t help adding one more! Really love your books. Really love how things can change so quickly just by using the way we think!

To learn more about WHY it works, download one of my books, FREE!

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