LBW 10: Goal Achievement Like Using a Phone

In this short audio, I compare the application of the laws of success to a young child trying to use the telephone.

Related article: Are you Making it Harder than it Needs to Be?

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TRANSCRIPT:

Goal achievement is like making a phone call: If you dial the numbers right, it works. Children who have never used a phone before will probably have trouble making it work right for a while, just as we can have trouble making the laws of success work to achieve our goals. It takes practice. We’re going to have set backs as we try to figure these things out.

When a goal doesn’t happen the way you expected, it’s so easy to get discouraged. Believe me.  I’ve been there. I’ve lived that. I live it still, but I have learned that the laws of success are laws that you can depend on, and when things don’t work out quite the way you expected them to—according to the laws of success as you know them—then it’s time to learn something a little bit more about them. Ask the hard questions. Where did I go wrong? What more do I need to know? In what way am I making this harder than it has to be? For me this question, answer, new attempt process happened hundreds of times before I actually saw it really work even just once. I know hundreds of ways that the laws of success don’t work. Each failed attempt showed me something else that I needed to tweak about my approach.

Think about it. The first time a kindergartener tries to use the telephone chances are good that he or she will dial the number wrong. When that happens wouldn’t it be foolish to say that the phone doesn’t work? The phone works fine. The user just needs to be extra careful to dial all the right numbers, in the right order with no extra numbers inserted along the way.

And the laws of success work fine too. You’ve just got to be careful to dial all the right numbers, in the right order, and not insert any extra ones along the way. When you do it right, it unfailingly works the way it should. And the good news is that when you see it work once you gain confidence and eventually realize that it can work for you every time. In fact, it can become second nature, just like using the phone. Then after experiencing some success maybe you even discover that it can be even easier than that, like discovering the redial button or programming numbers into it with a one-touch.

But I do have some bad news. The one element that does not go away, no matter how slick you are or how smart you get, is the test to exercise faith when all appearances indicate impending disaster. Yes, no matter how good you get at the process and no matter how much you make you’ll always get plenty of opportunity to exercise faith, to make sacrifices, and to stretch yourself out of the comfort zone to accomplish the next goal. You just get to a point where you learn to accept the difficult nature of the process. The knowledge I share here does not advert the challenges. It just gives you the power to overcome them when they show up, the power to achieve the goal in spite of difficulty, the power to have peace of mind through the process. There’s value in that.

And yes, you can have your victory. You can have the money you need. You can find the job or succeeding business. You can have the freedom you seek. Just try again and learn from your mistakes.

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How to Survive the Downs

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Life is like a roller coaster. When things go downhill, throw your hands in the air and smile!

Have you ever met someone whose life seems to be falling apart and they’re happy anyway? Have you ever thought, “Wait a minute, you’re supposed to be miserable and depressed!”

It’s true. There are some who are simply in denial, and who hope that the problems will go away if they just ignore them. However, there are others who feel happy even when things are going down because they know a secret.

These people can feel happy during a downturn because they know the ride never goes downhill forever. By law, it always turns upward again at the bottom – just like a roller coaster. They smile now because they’re focused on the longer term; and they’re already thinking about the joy and heights that life will take them to next.

Now, while we’re on this “roller coaster theme,” imagine you’ve saved for years to take your family to an exciting theme park on the other side of the country. You’ve pictured the laughter, the fun, the memories you plan to create: the joy of being together, the food, the free time; it’s all so very wonderful!

Now it’s finally time to take that trip. You enjoy a relaxing plane ride, settle in at the hotel, spend the night, and in the morning you have a full day to take in all of the theme park attractions. After entering the gate, you notice that just inside the entrance there are two roller coaster rides to choose from. The first one is called “Straight-Shot to Success” and goes like this:

“Straight Shot to Success”

You get on, and it pulls the line of cars all the way to the top of a twenty-story tower where ….

… it lets you off so you can climb down the stairs to do it again.

Look at the enthusiasm in this picture, just before unloading to climb down and repeat the experience all over again! (Wouldn’t it make for a pretty boring roller coaster ride? Yes. But isn’t that what we think we want out of life? A steady, predictable, safe and easy climb to success?) The thing is, if that’s what we got out of life, I think we’d feel pretty dissatisfied with the whole experience. Without the lows, the highs mean nothing.

So, let’s take a look at the second roller coaster ride called “Joy in the Journey,” which instead goes something like this:

“Joy in the Journey”

You get on, and it pulls you to the top of a big hill and then turns you loose into a series of ups and downs, loops and turns. Everyone is terrified and laughing, all at the same time.

Even when the people plummet at break-neck speeds straight toward the ground, they have a smile on their face.

Now, is that twisted, or what? Are they in denial?

No. They are genuinely enjoying themselves, because they know that the terror is temporary, that the danger is an illusion, and that it will come to an end. They know that they are in a controlled, safe environment that is simply giving them the appearance of danger. Deep down, they know everything is going to be okay in the long run.

Which rollercoaster ride do you think would have the longest waiting line? “Straight-Shot to Success,” or “Joy in the Journey?”

I choose the latter. Here’s what helps me endure the scary parts:

Believe it or not, like a roller coaster ride, Life itself is a safe environment, even with all its dangers.

Contrary to appearances, it truly is a safe place to be. From God’s vantage point, the things we fear are nothing to Him, including death itself.

Do you realize that the life you live is precisely the life you would have chosen all along? THIS is the life that brings you the greatest joy: the life with all the ups and aggravating downs. So be grateful for your downs, and as you allow your heart to swell with gratitude, you’re putting yourself into the right mindset to receive next the best “ups” that God has to offer.

The ups and downs we experience help us feel.

The change from up to down (or down to up) is precisely what makes it possible for us to recognize the difference from one emotion to the other. Like I said before, without the downs, the ups would be meaningless. The lows help us feel and appreciate the highs.

Bob Proctor says, “Most people tiptoe through life, trying to make it safely to death.” Do you see the irony in that? Instead, we should have courage and press on toward our dreams with full, fearless intention.

Fear not!

As Mark Twain said, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

You have a choice of what to think about. So think on the expected highs that put a smile on your face, instead of worrying about the imagined train wreck at the bottom of the hill that hasn’t even happened yet.

It is only when your heart is at peace that it is truly prepared to receive inspired solutions to your problems.

So, if you’re headed in a downward direction, be at peace. The tracks are bent and will surely guide your roller coaster car up to the top again in time. It’s going to be thrilling! And in fact, according to the Law of Rhythm, you’re already on your way. Originally published Mar 12, 2008

Join me in the life-changing Mindset Mastery Program and I’ll help you find joy and success even in the downs.

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Laying it all down

I got a super fun video message from Jon and Trina Gunzel last night that I just had to share with you (video below). These folks have been students of The Jackrabbit Factor for some time now. They went through the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse in 2015 (previously known as the Jackrabbit Factor Ecourse), and have taken what they’ve learned to launch themselves into a crazy new life.

Before I share the video, let me give you a little back story.

Meet Jon and Trina Gunzel:

Back in April of this year, they explained the following on their blog:

We had the most wonderful neighbors, our dream home and property!  We had the best friends, church family, and community!  Yet, we couldn’t ignore a prompting to lay it all down and go help a lot more people.  

After a lot of praying, some major ARE YOU SERIOUS??? moments, and designing an 8 week plan to make it happen, we decided to push ourselves outside our comfort zone and go on the road full time.  We’ll be touring all 50 states with our two children,  Wyatt and Abbie, over the next three years.  

Our goals are to grow closer as a family, continue to learn and develop individually, and to help a lot of people in the process.  Since our work goes with us anywhere, we’ll be hosting seminars, having book signing events, and coaching individuals and groups.  Of course we’ll share our exciting adventures and learning, homeschooling our kiddos, in a variety of locations.

Since beginning their new adventure, they created an ebook called, The Roadmap to More Time, Money, Love & Freedom, which reveals 3 destructive habits that prevent you from achieving more, and living MORE of your potential and purpose in life.

They had JUST launched the webpage that delivers their new ebook, when this happened…

I’ll let them tell you what happened in their own words:

We had the most awesome Jackrabbit Factor moment tonight! We just launched our online funnel for our flagship product and when we walked outside less than a minute later there were rabbits everywhere! It was so cool and we instantly thought of you.

Thank you for all that you do!


Thank YOU, Jon and Trina for thinking of me!! I can’t tell you how many people over the years have had similar experiences about seeing rabbits – real ones – that encouraged them along in their journey at just the right moment. I think I may need to start an official collection of all those rabbit-sighting stories.


To learn more about Jon and Trina Gunzel, click here. You can also download their free ebook: “The Roadmap To MORE Time, Money, Love and Freedom” at rmtm.IamMadeForMore.com

Way to go, Jon and Trina, and thanks again!!!


Now, I want to spotlight YOU!

If you want YOUR story featured in an upcoming newsletter, describe your experience and provide any related pictures or videos that will help me inspire someone else. I want to know any of the following: what you’ve done with the principles, lessons you’ve learned, obstacles you’ve overcome, or just what was going on in your life when a rabbit sighting meant something special to YOU.

The principles DO work, and your story might be just the thing that someone else needs to read in order to brave a try. Just shoot me an email! Send it to leslie [at] thoughtsalive dot com.

Want to experience something worth sharing?

Start your journey now with the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse – or just click here to learn more!

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Prosper By Degrees

Originally published Jun 8, 2012

When my husband and I learned about the principles of prosperity and began to consciously live by them, we experienced dramatic results, tripling our income in just 3 months. But the ‘good fortune’ wasn’t going to last forever.

Trying to be super-smart with our new-found wealth, we anxiously invested it in a number of wrong places. A combination of inexperience and haste led us to invest poorly, and get in over our heads to a dangerous level.

Add to that the fact that we had involved ourselves with business people who eventually slipped into hiding or went to jail, and perhaps you can get a glimpse of how quickly a fortune can be lost, even with the best of intentions.

In the wake of our poor decisions, needless to say, we were left with a big mess to clean up. But no worries – we understood the principles that had brought us the wealth to begin with, so we would just practice them again, and turn things around in short order.

Or so we hoped.

But we discovered that sometimes the consequences of our decisions have a more far reaching effect that can’t be turned around with just a snap of the fingers, so to speak. Turning a corner like that is something like turning a massive cruise ship around. You might get the rudder turned in the right direction, but it can take some time before the effects are noticed.

We had erroneously believed that we could “make” those bad decisions into good ones somehow just by “thinking right.” While it may be true that in every adversity there is a seed of equal or greater benefit, that doesn’t mean the adversity will go away with right thinking. It only promises that something good can be born from it.

In a determined push to create another massive financial breakthrough like the first, I locked on to the vision of a quick rescue, another big windfall. I’d seen them before, experienced them more than once. Many, many times we had used the principles to produce tens or even hundreds of thousands of dollars in a short period of time, so that’s what we were running for.

But something was different this time. For some reason, the mental discipline and goal setting strategies weren’t paying off like they had in the past. It seemed that something was preventing the blessing. The formula wasn’t panning out.

In time, I stopped trying so hard, out of sheer exhaustion. I started to accept whatever was, just as it was. I decided to find peace and happiness even in our mess, and begin focusing again more completely on my family relationships.  It seemed I no longer had real influence or control over our finances (since I kept failing to meet my goals), so I directed my attention to the little things in my world over which I could make a difference.

It was during a Sunday School lesson at church that I had my next great epiphany. The class discussed a story about two groups of people who lived more than 2000 years ago, comparing and contrasting their experiences:

The first group was led by a man named Alma. Alma and his people were devout believers who worshiped God and were diligent in keeping the commandments.

The second group was led by a man named Limhi. Limhi and his people relied just a little too much on their own strength and wisdom. Both groups were in subjection to the same oppressive government.

When the government sent an army to destroy Alma and his people, they were warned by God ahead of time and were able to escape.

When the army came to attack Limhi’s people, they were given no warning.

Limhi’s people tried three times to deliver themselves from the oppression, and each time, they failed. Eventually, they began to reevaluate their approach, and decided that they needed to pay more attention to the commandments, and rely on God for their success with patience.

The record then states:

“…the Lord was slow to hear their cry because of their iniquities; nevertheless the Lord did hear their cries, and began to soften the hearts of [their oppressors] that they began to ease their burdens; …The Lord did not see fit to deliver them out of bondage [yet]… they began to prosper by degrees in the land, and began to raise grain more abundantly, and flocks, and herds, that they did not suffer with hunger.”

That description – that the Lord did not see fit to deliver them, but allowed them to begin prospering by degrees – was my answer.

I had been expecting a big miraculous rescue, and was dissatisfied with anything less. I had thought I was being obedient to the commandments of God all along, but recognized I could do better.

What I feel that God wanted me to learn was simple: to not run faster than I had strength as I had been, but to take it at a pace that I could maintain throughout my life, so that I don’t burn myself out and become completely useless to Him.

So I slowed down and began to envision Him opening doors and preparing the way for long-term success. I lost interest in anything that promised big, quick bucks, because we had already experienced that kind of success. Instead, I became increasingly interested in principles that would allow us to rebuild on a more solid, long-lasting foundation.

It’s just a matter of getting back to the basics. It’s making smart choices, and sacrifices. It’s being smart with what we have, and anticipating gradual improvement. It’s watching more closely how we spend our money, and watching for evidence that we are being prospered by degrees.

We started noticing and celebrating each little bit of evidence, and realized that were were being prospered by degrees. I stopped lamenting the lack of a massive windfall, and started being grateful again for every simple blessing. The growth has been gradual but consistent. Our good fortune has been added upon every day.

When the needed rescue doesn’t come by one miraculous windfall,  look for evidence that you’re prospering by degrees.

It’s been a humbling process, but one that I am grateful for. I know we’re wiser for the experience, and that it will make a big difference for our future. Our family is already much happier, too, because I’m finally living at a pace that I can maintain.

Read The Unexpected Cure for Doubt

There’s time to build your life right. There’s time to build your business right. There’s time to build relationships right. Looking for shortcuts can become an addiction. As you slow down and prayerfully live receptive to God’s guidance, you’ll find that there is no greater shortcut than that.

And when that guidance says, RUN!” then by golly, you’d better run!

But sometimes we run when we’re really supposed to stop and take the time to sharpen the saw, and reconnect with God.

Originally posted June 8, 2012

Read more details about our experience here. And as always, I appreciate your comments!

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Hope Like a Balloon

Hot air balloons. Helium balloons. Truly magical, if you don’t understand the science behind their buoyancy. And even magical if you do, in my opinion.

Do you remember how it was to experience your first helium balloon?  When you were a child, were you astounded at how everything else you knew fell downward… except that beautiful, shiny ball in the air? It did two things: it ascended upward, and it helped you feel happier.

As you got older, maybe you allowed it to become more of a a commonplace phenomenon.

Even now, every time I stop to think about it, my spirits are lifted as I watch the pull of a balloon rising in the opposite direction of everything else around it.

All it is, is a container full of a gas that happens to be lighter than the oxygen/carbon dioxide mixture in the air, and when a balloon is full of a gas that is lighter than the gas mixture of its surroundings, it naturally rises above them.

Our thoughts, kept buoyant by focusing on the positive, also have the ability to pull US up and out of downer circumstances.

Every time you consciously choose a solution-oriented, hopeful, enthusiastically-expectant-of-good-things kind of thought, you fill your MIND with stuff that is lighter in nature than the common thoughts of negativity and discouragement.

It’s science:

Hopeful, buoyant thoughts do more than just help you feel good; they literally LIFT you above adversity like helium in a balloon.

So fill your mind with light-thinking, and in time, you’ll naturally rise above the gunk. The stuff that pulls you down will fall out of your life, like ballast out of a hot air balloon.

For a tank full of helium of the mind, I strongly recommend joining me in the Mindset Mastery Program.

I’ll help you keep your thoughts buoyant. I’ll give you REASON to hope, and a valid reason to have it, too. I’ll fill your mind with the stuff that will help you rise above your challenges, no matter what they are.

To your success! Originally published Oct 27, 2009

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Dealing with fear in relationships

An anonymous letter from one of our Mindset Mastery participants:

I married someone who has a lot of struggles inside.  He is a good man, but as soon as we were married, he showed a temper I had no idea he had.  He never hurt me physically, but I was constantly worried about his reactions to everything, and when ANYTHING else in my life felt out of my control, I panicked, knowing I couldn’t keep peace with him, be a capable mom, and take care of whatever else was suddenly going on, and what his reaction would be.

His struggles are his, but for a while, he was more than willing to try to make them everyone’s, and I let him.  After nearly ten years of marriage, I put my foot down (trembling the whole time) and said things had to change, or we were through.  I couldn’t stand doing that, but his constant unreasonable outbursts were the way we gauged everything in our lives, and it wasn’t healthy for the children to be raised in that environment, or for me to live in fear of it.  He backed off considerably, much to my relief, but I realized, as the years passed, that he was who he was–even if he kept his outbursts limited and only in front of me–and his struggles were what they were, because in his heart, he hadn’t let go of whatever he struggled with emotionally, and he didn’t see it, either.  I knew that even if I walked away from this relationship, I’d still have to know how to handle my actions around someone like that since the chances of never encountering an angry or insecure person again were pretty small.  

I began praying more than ever, but my prayers changed.  I wanted to know how to help and support my husband, how to be the mom that empowered her children, and to be so secure and peaceful inside myself, that no one could shake my faith or my confidence.  I had been raised to worry about what everyone thought, and to “make them happy.”  I hadn’t bought into that (I thought), but when I got married, that original programming came out like a hidden monster.  It was not like me to be so rattled, but I’m grateful it happened, because it showed me the monster, and it showed me that I had a choice as to what to do about it.  

At this time (which was at about 15 years), several things showed up for me, and the Jackrabbit Factor was one of them.  I started to dream about things I never knew could even be done, and realized I was not a victim, but had subconsciously been telling myself I was one.  All of the resentment, frustration, and defeat because of my fear to push too far surfaced in a glaring light.  I had a health condition that pushed me to the edge mentally, emotionally and physically.  Prayers turned into meditation as well, and petitions for an occasional Priesthood blessing.

At the beginning of the Mindset Mastery Program I knew I had to grow more than I had, because I felt that while I had “learned much,” I was not progressing past a certain point.  I felt I had done a lot of work, but there was still some fear that wouldn’t let me get past the “wall”–something I now refer to as “The Terror Barrier.”  I felt my Father in Heaven was more than happy to let me choose what to do, but I had to decide to do it.  I kept forgetting that He was on my side–I just had to believe it and be on His.  There was a line I was afraid to cross, and I always held back.

My goal was to be myself, to cross that line and not be so “trained” by fear that I would always quit right before that place of freedom was reached.  I was tired of living in a land of “what-ifs” and “when-you’re-in-a-corner-give-up-or-you-won’t-get-out.”  I wanted to be firm about standing up to my husband when needed, but coming from a place of love, and forgiving him, and loving him while being steadfast and immovable.  I wanted my choices to be about what was right, and not worry if he was desperate to be the one who was right.  He could do what he wanted, but I wasn’t going to hold back when things got intense, anymore.

I thought of all of my scriptural heroes, who had so much opposition, but so much faith that no one could make them do or say anything that they didn’t feel was reconciled with God and His will.  I wanted to be like that.  I realized many times, that the only thing keeping me from breaking out of the prison I had made for myself in my subconscious was the fear that my kids would suffer emotionally if I really ever told my husband my true opinions or feelings at times when it could bring a negative reaction from him.

I also realized that I was setting the example for my children, of being afraid, and of not standing up to someone when it was the right thing, even if the conversations that were intense happened in private with my husband.  Also, I wanted to show my kids that being angry back was not the answer.

This all got wrapped up in my goal in the Mindset Mastery Program. After I set the goal to let go of fear and trust God, one of the things that happened to help me push through the Terror Barrier was a blessing I received, telling me to not be afraid of the reactions of my husband, and to move forward, without fear, because God would take the fear away if I asked. I could easily fall back into fear if I wanted, but I made a choice, and got it out of my head and into my heart. I decided that whatever happened, it would be okay, and I haven’t looked back, even though it’s sometimes tempting to do so!  I just tell myself–I am creating a great life moment by moment with God, and I am so grateful for everything!  I’m grateful even for the challenges, because even though I don’t understand everything, I know God loves His children, and good will come of everything, somehow. 

I have a choice, and I choose to believe.

We have been married now over twenty years this week, and my oldest is getting ready to be married. She has chosen wisely, and I’m so grateful for that! More work will always need to be done, because new goals will always need to be set, but for the first time in a very long time, I no longer make every choice based on the reaction–or possible reaction–of others.  It is so freeing and healing to no longer be Pavlov’s dog.  The learning that has happened as a result of this relationship may not have happened if things had been easier, so I’m grateful for that, too.  Like I said before–I don’t know what the future holds, but I’m excited about it now, instead of being defeated and resigned to something I have to fear.  What does that mean, exactly?  I guess we’ll see–one choice at a time as I draw closer to Christ.

My response:

Thank you for taking the time to share such a tender, difficult story. You’ve done an amazing job at using the principles to transition to a better place. There are a lot of women (and men, I’m sure) who live under the same kind of fear every day.  Thank you for allowing me to share it (anonymously). I also want to commend you for your stedfast intentions to make the changes with love and consideration for your husband, rather than out of animosity or defense.  I’m sure it’s not always easy even still (even the most ideal situations have their rough spots), but I’m especially grateful because your story paints a beautiful picture of what’s possible, which I’m sure will help others create a more healthy vision for themselves.

Congratulations on your good, hard work. I hope you will continue to stay in touch and keep me updated on your victories, as I’m sure this is only the beginning. 🙂

Her last reply shows what an amazing person she really is, and it paints a vivid picture of the kind of person we might all aspire to be:

I’m glad if it can help people… I was walking on eggshells for so long, and even the money I was given was limited and scrutinized and criticized.  If I didn’t stop talking to whomever I was talking to on the phone, or stop doing what I was doing and do what he wanted, he would get upset and I would worry about the kids.  If I left a room without turning the light out right away, I got reprimanded.  

I know now that my financial–and physical, spiritual, intellectual, mental, and emotional–state are something I can create with my Father in Heaven, and I have a choice. Not everyone knows that. I don’t know what good may come of all of this, but I do know good will come of it–and much already has–and I’m grateful for all the experiences. Whenever I feel that resentment is wanting to work its way back into my heart, I do something to serve my husband. He doesn’t usually notice, and if he does, he doesn’t seem to appreciate it, but that’s not why I do it. I do it because it’s who I am, whether it seems he “deserves” it or not. Plus, it helps bring gratitude and love into my heart, and I want to be that person. What we send out comes back, too, as you well know. But whether I get anything for it or not, it helps me to be better, it changes how I feel, and it shows love where I could show frustration or anger. God knows what I do, and that’s truly enough for me. He is my Father, and I am His child, and I love doing things that help me to feel I’m doing my best to be like Him. I love my husband–I can honestly say that. Those that seem to “deserve” love the least, usually need it the most. So, maybe, some of the good that will come from all of this is to share it with others–I can definitely see that.  I have every belief that that is true. God was on my side all along, I just wouldn’t see it; I didn’t know how. Maybe this will help others who feel the same way. I do want to come from a place of love, and if there’s ever a time when I can tell I won’t, I wait. If what I have to say is needed, the time will come when I feel right in addressing it, and from that place where the Spirit dwells, instead of contention.

Thank you for your words, Leslie.  After reading your books and hearing your podcasts and reading your blog, I’ve come to see your words as those of an old friend–I hope you don’t mind; they do bring me joy and comfort… Thank you for being you.

This dear woman is a Mindset Mastery Program participant. Learn more about the Mindset Mastery program here.

The 12-week Mindset Mastery Program is not to be confused with the 8-week Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse. The Fundamentals Ecourse is a powerful exploration of the principles that govern success, and takes an introductory approach for effective goal setting. By contrast, the Mastery Program is more focused on the *implementation* of the principles and the *achievement* of your goals. It is full of interesting assignments that take you step-by-step through two experimental goals, challenging your thought processes, helping you experience success, and setting up a pattern in your thinking that you will be able to utilize over and over for effectiveness with all of your future goals. I hope you’ll join me in one of these programs, to help you take your understanding and success to the next level in ALL the different areas of your life.

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And Along Came a Spider

Some time ago my eleven year-old daughter came home from orchestra practice simply devastated. She had been the first to arrive, and as the others filed in, nobody chose to sit by her. She sat at the edge of the room, the only student with an empty chair at her side.

She felt rejected and alone.

So the next day, as I dropped her off, I encouraged her to hold back and let some of the others sit down first, and then make her choice to sit by someone she’d like to get to know better. “Find someone who might be having a bad day, and BE the one to make a friend.”

I encouraged her to have a prayer in her heart, picturing herself with an abundance of friends, and reminded her that choosing to be positive and confident would help others want to be around her.

So she pulled herself together with an intention that things would be different this time. She agreed to pray in her heart and try to think more positively.

But what happened next surprised us both…

When I picked her up from school, she was excited to report that she ended up right between two girls that she was excited to get to know better.

How did it happen? Not the way we thought it would.

Contrary to my advice, she still showed up earlier than most; and out of habit decided to sit in her regular chair on the edge of the room. As a few of the other students filed in, the pattern threatened to repeat itself.

(That’s the power of subconscious thoughts right there…)

However, just then, she noticed a scary spider on her music stand. Creeped out, she took her folder and tried to push it off.

Instead of successfully getting it out of her space, it fell onto her leg. She jumped up and shook her pants, and wasn’t sure where it ended up. Assuming it was still at her chair, she decided that it would be better to move.

It took her out of her comfort zone and into another chair. One of the girls she’d like to know better came in and sat right next to her. Before long, a second girl took the empty chair at her other side.

Admittedly she said she thought the answer to her prayer would show up in the form of an idea, or an added measure of courage to do or say something uncomfortable.

But no, it showed up as a spider.

This micro-experience captures the essence of how God so often deals with us. When we ask for things to be better, he doesn’t just make things better. He creates conditions in our life that make us get out of our comfort zone and put us somewhere else – somewhere, where the blessing we’re asking for can finally be received.

Sometimes we get moved out of our comfort zone and still fail to receive the blessing. This can happen when our thoughts are not inclined to look for the hidden benefit in our adversity.

It would be like my daughter getting out of her regular chair and into another, and being so upset by it that she doesn’t even notice the potential friendships on either side of her. By her response to the hardship, she could have completely denied herself of the blessing that the change contained.

In that case, the girls that flanked her could have picked up on the downer-energy and might have been inclined to just ignore her.

I’m grateful that she was thoughtful enough to give credit to God for sending a spider, because it prepared the way for her to receive the very thing she was hoping for all along.

My dear reader… What’s your spider? What ugly thing has showed up in your life that’s opposite to what you’ve been praying for?

It’s there for a reason.

(To watch additional clips from this event, click here)

A Hardship is always a blessing in disguise. Pay attention to how it “moves” you.

I’d like to help you make sense (cents) out of your setbacks. Are you ready for a better future? Click here to learn more about the life-changing Mindset Mastery Program. Originally published September 22, 2009

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The Swell in Front of You

Staying in forward motion, even when things look bleak, does more for lining up your success than you realize.

(Don’t forget: If you’re afraid you’ll fall, at least fall forward.)

I like to think of what happens when you’re standing in a still pool of water.  As long as you stand still, nothing happens.  If you take one step forward, it creates a ripple all around you, but even more than that I want you to think about the swell that grows in front of you.

One simple step creates a temporary surge of water right there in front of you.

If your finances feel flat, take a step in the right direction. DO something. MOVE. If the water seems low, lunge forward! Push ahead and watch the water rise. If you move, you can’t help but create a swell; after all, it’s physics! Move forward, and the resources right in front of you will surge. By law, nature responds to your action according to the law of cause and effect. Doors open, teachers appear, funds gather…

The problem is, if you’re like me, quite often you’re too busy looking at the ripples spreading out in all directions (wondering if and when they’ll ever return), to even notice the swell in front of you.

So take a step in the right direction (methinks you already know what it is) and then look for evidence of a swell in your immediate surroundings.

  • Be of service to someone without expectation of repayment, and it creates a swell in that relationship.
  • Read something empowering, and it creates a swell in your outlook on life.
  • Make that phone call, and you gather strength against your fear.
  • Write down that intention with determination, and your faith grows.
  • Invest in yourself, and you create a swell in your confidence that everything is going to work out.

And let me remind you that by the seven laws, what shows up in your life has everything to do with the way you FEEL about your challenges. Taking a step forward always helps you FEEL better, and that feeling can become a catalyst for inviting the unseen help we all depend on to conquer seemingly impossible things.

Every good choice creates a swell, and so it’s your job to just make sure that the swell doesn’t level out again.  The only way to keep it surging is to keep on moving.  If you stop, then (just like when you’re in water) the swell eventually dissipates, and you’re left looking at a flat, motionless environment once again.

It’s a temptation to stand there and wait for someone else to come along and create a swell… but the power is in YOU.

So get moving, do something!  Even if you’re weary, just take one more step.  As long as you keep moving, your momentum will build, and the swell will almost seem to lead the way. Originally published Nov 6, 2009


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Carrying a Heavy Burden? You can Still Fly.

A few years ago, I stepped outside of my home and unexpectedly witnessed what you see here – and it stopped me in my tracks.  It seemed impossible, but it was real.

A huge 747 airplane flew by so low, and so slow that it hardly seemed to be moving.  It appeared to hang in mid-air, defying gravity, and on its back was a space shuttle.

Now, I wasn’t living near a space station; I was in the middle of Orem, Utah at the time and never had any reason to expect to see such a sight out my front door. It flew so low that I could see the mountains above it.

I’ve always been baffled by how a Boeing 747 can soar through the air, let alone see it fly after having a heavy space shuttle placed on its back.

There have been times in my life when we have felt heavy financial burdens.  During those times, the dismal numbers made us feel it would be impossible to reach our goal with so much weight on our backs.

My husband and I would set a goal and enthusiastically go for it, but one glance over our shoulder and we’d be instantly discouraged by the burden, lose steam and give up.

What if the 747 pilot did the same thing?  What if he was halfway to his destination, successfully employing all the natural laws to keep the craft soaring, and suddenly glance to its back and think, “Whoa!  That’s too big for me!  I’d better slow down; conserve my fuel, or I might crash!”

The truth is, once the laws of aerodynamics are employed, he needs to remain steady and continue doing all that the laws require until he reaches his destination: keep his speed, tilt the flaps to maintain lift, etc.  Any interruption in his momentum, or pointing his nose down instead of up would likely result in failure.

Once we learned the laws of success and began applying them with consistency and patience, it became a whole lot easier to keep the momentum long enough to finally get where we were trying to go – even with heavy financial burdens on our backs.  Then after we reached our destination, we were finally able to set them down.

Learn the laws, then do something each day toward achieving your goal.  The laws will support small burdens in the same way they support heavy ones.

But either way, whether you’re trying to fly a paper airplane, or a Boeing 747 with a space shuttle on its back (figuratively speaking), you’ve got to move at the speed of flight. It can’t be done without some thrust.

You also need to face the wind and let it lift you, instead of trying to duck under it.  Follow the laws with precision and consistency until you’re at your destination.  No matter how long it takes to get there, each day you will get closer, and at the right moment, you’ll arrive at where you wanted to go.

Remember, don’t focus on the burden, focus on the destination, and live in alignment with the laws!

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Day Dreaming vs. Staking Your Claim

My husband and I have been working on a longer-term goal for several years now. Whenever the vision of its accomplishment begins to fade, we have a conversation to check in on whether or not the goal is still important to us, and whether or not we need to refocus our efforts. We talk about how it will look when it is accomplished. We talk about how it will feel to be living what we’ve envisioned. We talk about how old the children will be at that time, and what they will likely be doing at that stage of their lives.

This recently happened. I had been feeling like we were drifting away from the path that leads to its accomplishment, so I took some extra time to envision it again, add some extra detail, and once again feel the feelings I expect to feel when it is achieved. I brought it up during our date night, and we worked on gaining some clarity on the picture in our heads.

I’ve learned that we don’t even have to be physically closer to its achievement; this exercise alone helps me feel on track and increases my belief that unseen things are happening to line up the resources and ideas we will need to see it through.

With a shift in mental focus, you can feel successful right now. And the longer you keep your mind in that place, the more energy you feel, and the more brilliant your ideas become. You become a genius in your problem-solving activities.

Dave Ramsey talks about having “gazelle intensity” – where you are locked on to ONE objective, and where you let NOTHING distract you from your focus on achieving it. I’ve had this kind of goal-achievement intensity before, and I know it works. It can be exhausting, but at the same time really energizing. I’ve had success with it often enough, that part of me feels like my goals cannot be achieved without it.

(Although, I know that’s not necessarily true, because I’ve also achieved some amazing goals by only having a brief but meaningful moment seeing and feeling it done, and then relaxing and living each day peacefully, working toward the goal at a healthy, sustainable speed.)

But since the goal my husband and I have been working on is already five years old, and since the visible progress is not very impressive, I found myself feeling like maybe this one won’t happen without gazelle intensity. So with a renewed determination to move the needle on this goal, I initiated one of those “checking in” conversations. By the end of the evening, we felt more on track, and ready to focus like a gazelle.

A few days later, he started talking about wanting a certain truck. He told me all about the size and style he wanted, and several ways that he imagined being able to make it happen. But I wasn’t inspired; instead I was troubled, because… hadn’t we just decided to be laser-focused on the other goal?

That his attention could seem to be so easily diverted to a completely different goal bothered me. He didn’t mention how he saw the truck purchase fitting in with the original goal, or in what order he planned to act on them both. It sounded like the first goal had just been forgotten. It kind of sent me into a depression for several days until we finally had a chance to talk about it. What came out of that talk was a brand new epiphany, which I felt might be helpful to someone else:

Even though he sounded like he was getting ready to make it happen in the next couple months, in reality, he was just trying it on for size, imagining “what if”, and allowing himself to feel it as if it was already done. He was exploring the possibility and seeing how it would feel, but he wasn’t 100% decided.

Well, he was doing such a good job of “acting as though” that he had me convinced that its purchase was next on his to-do list. He assured me he wasn’t going to let it to throw us off our other goals, and his assurance helped me feel much better.

That’s when I realized there are at least TWO kinds of dream-building. The first I will simply call “Day Dreaming”, because I think this is what most people do, most often. It is researching, shopping, imagining, trying the idea on, checking to see how it would feel if it actually happened. Not necessarily with a firm, resolved intention to MAKE it happen, but with a less-committed imagining to simply explore the possibilities.

The other kind is what I call “Staking Your Claim”. It’s the step you take AFTER exploring the possibilities (trying them on, checking to see how they would feel it they actually happened), and then DECIDING what you intend to accomplish, or what NEEDS to happen. It’s the QUALITY DECISION that sets the intention in stone. It’s mentally taking the arrow, walking up to the target, thrusting it firmly into the bulls eye, attaching a string to the end of the arrow, returning back to your current position, and then physically rolling up the string (taking the best actions you can think of) until it has literally pulled you to the goal.

When you’ve Staked Your Claim and start moving your feet, you might head off in the wrong direction, but it’s okay, because no matter what you do or where you go, the string will tug you in the RIGHT direction until you’ve reached the bulls eye. You will INSTINCTIVELY know what to do, and you’ll know when you’re off course.

That’s the power of a Quality Decision. That’s the power of Staking Your Claim.

So when my husband and I realized there was a difference in these two kinds of dream-building exercises, he was able to assure me that, in his mind, our first goal is still a done deal. The claim has been staked, and we are making our way to that inevitable result. As for the truck, he was simply “Day Dreaming”.

Knowing this, and knowing that he is conscious of the difference, helped me feel assured that he hadn’t given up on the original goal. There will likely come a day when he’s ready to Stake His Claim on the truck, too, but for now, he’s just Day Dreaming, and he knows it.

Both mental exercises are important in the goal-achievement process. Day Dreaming helps you get detail, and with detail, it is easier to “feel” it. Just don’t confuse Day Dreaming with Staking Your Claim. They are not the same. While both play a part in the process, don’t fool yourself into believing that success is inevitable if all you’ve been doing is Day Dreaming.

There are two kinds of Dream Building. What’s the difference?

Day Dreaming: envisioning yourself experiencing the goal achieved. You might envision one thing one day, and something totally different the next day. Whenever you entertain a dream, all that you’d need to accomplish it begins to gather. But when you change your mind and decide that you don’t need to achieve it after all, everything needed to accomplish it begins to dissipate.

Staking Your Claim: envisioning yourself experiencing the goal achieved, and committing yourself to seeing it through, no matter what. It looks the same as Day Dreaming but there is an added level of determination and commitment. It comes with a decision to reject all thoughts of failure. It’s refusing to give attention to anything that threatens to take you off course.

Surprisingly, you CAN achieve a goal by Day Dreaming without resolved intention, without Staking Your Claim. As long as there is a picture in your mind, and a feeling as though it is real, it can be accomplished without resolved intention, so long as you don’t throw the idea away before it’s realized. Day Dreaming without Staking Your Claim only becomes fruitless if you keep changing your mind, or when you allow yourself to doubt too much.

If the thing you need is urgent and important, you can achieve it by simply pausing to see it done, and feeling what you expect to feel when it is. This moves your thoughts up to a higher-level where the solution to that problem is already being broadcast. Take action on that new idea, and you’ll achieve the goal. You don’t need to stop to decide if it was day-dreaming or stake-claiming, because it really doesn’t matter. Sometimes the urgency alone turns a regular daydream into a staking-your-claim moment because you already know exactly what you need, and the purpose of your visualization is to find the solution quick. Sometimes you demonstrate resolved intention simply by stopping your efforts long enough to “see it done”.

(This actually just happened to me this morning. I had been spending the last couple days trying to balance my checkbook in one of my accounts, and no matter how many times I ran the numbers and double-checked each transaction, I was still $25.77 off. I gave myself a horrendous headache trying to find the error, and I feel like I wasted a whole lot of time with no progress. There was obviously a bug in the program, because I only had 42 transactions selected, but the total at the top of the page said there were 44 transactions selected. Customer support was closed, so I nursed my headache and planned to call them in the morning. This morning I woke up to an email notification, that one of our Mindset Mastery program participants had two experiments that proved successful all in the same day. I was reminded of the power of visualization, so I stopped and pictured the reconcile page with a green checkmark and a big “ZERO” in the discrepancy field. I kind of chuckled, smiled, and thought, “Okay, here we go.” I went back to the screen and thought that maybe I should expand the search parameters. And bam – in less than 30 seconds I found two transactions from over 6 months ago that were throwing everything off. It never ceases to amaze me. I had given myself a headache for two days, but when I finally stopped to picture and feel success, I had it solved in thirty seconds.)

The reason I’m writing this post now is because it’s something I wish I had understood 25 years ago. We had been taught how important it was to Dream Build. To imagine better circumstances, to see ourselves in happier situations. But I never understood the point. I never understood what it was supposed to do for us. So we’d go to the home shows, and we’d test drive cars. We’d imagine family vacations, and rich, rewarding relationships. But all it did was make me hate my life all the more, because it was only a constant reminder of how things WEREN’T. We were only Day Dreaming. We would imagine things, but didn’t know how to protect those dream-seeds. We envisioned, and then got frustrated. We pictured what we wanted, and then got angry that it wasn’t true. We planted seeds, and constantly pulled them back out of the ground. Now, when I picture what I want, I know exactly what I’m doing and why. I know that I’m planting a seed, and I know exactly how to let it grow.

Read Hidden Treasures (free) to learn more about that.

I’d say that at least 90% of my mental exercises are Day Dreaming, and 10% or less are Staking A Claim. It can take time on some of the longer-term goals to figure out what you really want. It can take time to figure out whether the thing you want is good for you, or whether it will lead to pain. (There are enticements in this world that look attractive on the surface, but which can keep us from finding true joy, and fulfilling our true purpose. Seek for the things that will bring you the greatest joy, and which will last the longest. Trust me, seeking treasures in heaven can sometimes take just as much Rare Faith as it does to pay your bills when money is tight. The good news is that practicing Rare Faith in meeting your temporal needs can give you valuable experience and increased confidence to do God’s will in other areas of your life.)

So be honest with yourself:

When you imagine success achieved, are you only Day Dreaming, or are you Staking a Claim? If you haven’t experienced the results you want, maybe it’s time to step it up and bravely make that quality decision. It’s a scary thing to do; what if it doesn’t work? What if you fail? What if you put it all on the line and nothing happens? Scary indeed. But I promise, the principles are true. You don’t have to take my word for it, you can test it for yourself.

I’d like to help.

We put [it] to the test for one week. I [did as we were taught] for $2,000 dollars… I had just lost my job the week before and our current balance in the account was $100 dollars… We had no idea where $2,000 dollars could come from but felt if there was ever a test this would be it. …As soon as a despairing thought came in my mind like ‘How can you get another $1,000 dollars in just one day, I would [do as you taught]…’ On the last day of the test my wife called me … the test was a success because, the goal was achieved and ‘…God is never late’. Thanks again for helping me learn the missing piece. Chris Pierson”

“My wife and I found Leslie … in 2006 when our lives were shattered. We excitedly worked through the 12 week program and saw immediate changes in our lives. We repeated the second half of the course to solidify the teachings. We saw success in many areas of our lives as we applied the principles we learned. We made $100,000 in a network marketing business. I used these principles to discover my true passion and purpose in life and against incredible odds was hired in my dream job competing with more than a thousand other qualified applicants. We used these principles to find a beautiful home that we now live in. We continue to achieve our dreams and goals because we now know how. Success is predictable!” Ken and Debbie Carroll, Sandy, Utah.

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