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Ten Year Trivia

Just for fun, and to celebrate The Jackrabbit Factor’s 10th birthday, here are some things you may not know about my books, business, or whatever:
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1) The name of my business “ThoughtsAlive” came out of a brainstorm in 2002 over the phone with friends Alanna Webb and Marnie Pehrson. Did you know they also pioneered the first online mall in 1996? True story.

2) Portal to Genius was originally going to be named “Hasenpfeffer in Munich”, but my co-author Garrett Gunderson feared that Google wouldn’t be able to provide a “did you mean…” suggestion when a user fails to spell it right.

3) In the year 2000, my husband showed me an email from Bob Proctor, which asked if we had ever thought about teaching what we had learned. I HAD to do it!! So we invested about $9000 to send me to the training. I didn’t find out until recently that Bob’s email caught my husband’s eye because my husband was interested in becoming a facilitator himself. When he saw how badly I wanted to go, he decided to keep his own interest a secret.

4) When I asked Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul) for an endorsement for Jackrabbit Factor in 2005, he told me no, he was taking time off to be with his family. I had just read his book Success Principles, which has a chapter called “Ask, Ask, Ask”. So I asked to be an exception. He politely declined again, so I decided to impress him by asking again. He finally had to get blunt with me. I apologized profusely for my rudeness and learned a hard lesson in respecting other people’s agency. You can achieve your goals without any particular person doing any particular thing for you. 

5) The television interview pictured above from 2005 was horrible. I had 3 minutes to explain Jackrabbit Factor but I blanked out. Great picture, awful experience. The show was broadcast throughout the Phoenix metropolitan area and outlying mountain regions but I think I only sold one book.

6) As I wrote Portal to Genius in 2009, I had writer’s block for 6 months, until the turn of events described in Chapter 35 happened to US and got my creative juices flowing again. You can begin reading Portal chapters here.

7) I’ve lost count of how many times people have posted the following video on my Facebook page. I’m called the crazy rabbit lady, so this is right up my alley. It never gets old. If you haven’t seen it yet, I’m sure you’ll enjoy it just as much as I do!!

8) The Jackrabbit Factor has been translated into Spanish, Turkish, and Chinese. Whether they are good, accurate translations or not, I may never know.

9) Hidden Treasures was originally intended for my peers in the LDS faith (members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints), but has since organically achieved best-seller status on Amazon.com and received glowing reviews from people of Jewish, Buddhist, and other faith traditions. The principles are Universal, and its message is unifying. Have you read it yet? It’s free.

10) In 2003, I gathered a decade worth of event notes containing my biggest epiphanies from over 100 seminars, and prepared to weave them into a story. It was originally going to be about a sea creature that evolves into other life forms, ultimately making it to the surface as it learns each of those important lessons. Somehow it ended up being a story about Jackrabbits instead. I’m kind of glad about that.

Are You More Like a Radio or an IPOD?

Ugh. I used to be sooooo good at self-discipline before I got married and had kids. I could give myself a command and follow it – no problem. I even took great pride in my exemplary existence (cough, cough).

But everything changed when I became responsible to a bunch of other people outside of myself. No longer could I set a self-improvement goal to do this or that for so many minutes or hours a day… because frankly, the kid who needs to throw up simply isn’t interested in what your calendar has down for the present hour.

But there are other reasons for failing personal goals, I’ve discovered. While I’d love to blame my kids or my husband for my shortcomings, I’ve found a much more nefarious culprit that is more often responsible for my flounderings and flub-ups.

It’s ME. My inner self, my core, my subconscious, my evil twin insider.

Whenever I try to behave in a way that is not entirely in sync with my inner core, the battle rages and victory slips away more often than not.

I figured it out, though. I learned that the real secret is to FIRST change your inner core, and then the battle to adopt better behavior is no longer quite the same struggle.

How the heck does that work? I’m glad you asked. Let’s start with this:

Stop and think of yourself as if you were a radio set. Basically, if you’re breathing, you’re plugged in. Your mind has a sort of receiver that picks up on influences all around you, which are broadcast through the airwaves and other forms of media.

And I’m not just talking about commercial data input, I’m also talking about what real life people in your world are doing, how they look, what they’re saying… the environment that you live in day in and day out, the buildings around you, the cars driving by, the weather outside your window…

These various images and sounds are all data input into your mind. But like I said, you are like a radio, and although there is all of this data swirling around in your mind, only SOME of it will catch your attention and influence your direction.

So, what’s been catching your attention? To what station are you tuned? Well, the station you’re tuned in to can be determined in large part by the outer conditions in your life: YOUR health, your wealth, and the quality of your relationships.

The fact is, many of the outer conditions in your life are a byproduct of your behaviors, which behaviors are really determined by the ideas and beliefs that have been deeply established in your subconscious mind.

It all comes down to how you see yourself – what you believe about yourself, and how you believe life is supposed to look for you.

So if you don’t like the way life looks, you can begin to improve your circumstances by tuning in on a different station of thought – to become consciously aware of DIFFERENT ideas and things in your environment than the ones you have been naturally, or automatically, noticing to this point.

To help this make sense, let’s look a little closer at how a radio works, and then we’ll talk about how this information applies to you and your life.

CONTRARY TO APPEARANCES…

A radio doesn’t pull music into the room when it is turned on. It doesn’t suck the sound vibrations through the walls. No, it only makes audible the music that is ALREADY there.

That’s the thing about the laws of success or even the so-called “Law of Attraction”… people think that when you’re living according to the principles, you’ll “attract” everything you need to your life. But the fact is, you don’t attract it all, as much as you simply become AWARE of what is already within reach. It doesn’t get “sucked” into your life as soon as you start thinking right; by thinking right, the blinders fall from your eyes and you see things that have been there all along, but which you were not noticing.

So that’s why I want you to think about yourself as a radio. The solution to your problem is only an IDEA away, and the idea shows up like a sudden spark in your mind once you’ve tuned yourself to the right station.  The idea was already in the room with you, just as music is in the room even when the radio is turned off.

Portal to Genius: how to tune in to the right station

Here’s an example of this phenomenon from history:

The way to fly a plane has always existed. The awareness of how to do it was only made known after the Wright brothers tuned in through their passion and commitment to find the way.

Now lets look at, for example, a person who is trying to quit smoking. Deep inside, they are “one” with the cigarette. So to try to leave it alone is as hard as it gets. Even if they are successful at leaving it alone, deep inside they feel incomplete for a long, long time. I don’t mean to say that the following idea is the cure-all for everyone’s addiction, but I know of one very interesting case where the person made it a practice whenever they felt tempted by the cigarette, to say out loud in a brushing-it-off tone of voice, “Oh, I don’t do that anymore…” and they said it even if they didn’t really believe it in their heart for a long time.

The fact is, we are affected by the things we hear. If we continually listen to people on the same station – people who have the same problems we do – we will continue to hear only the broadcast that inspires us to nothing better than the life we already have.

Affirmations

A person who tells themselves (here’s a generic example of an affirmation), “I am happy, healthy, and wealthy” –  and they speak it out loud enough about the new desired “truth”, they will eventually start noticing other broadcasts (data input) around them that supports it.  They will be in tune to a different collection of ideas and solutions that they had never picked up on before – and they will begin to believe them where they may have discarded them as ludicrous before.

The person who said, “I don’t do that anymore” was essentially (and consciously) tuning in to a new level of thought. As a result, his inner core changed much quicker because his own ears heard his own voice make a statement of decision.

Compare that to a person who, every time he is tempted, says out loud, “I’m trying to quit, but I’m having a real hard time with it.”

Knowing which of the two people are more likely to succeed is hardly a mystery.

But what about a person who is strapped financially? Well, they have a problem, don’t they? But every problem has a solution, so let’s figure out where it is.

The solution to one’s problem is never on the same level of thought as the ones that got the person into the mess in the first place. As Einstein put it, “The significant problems we face in life cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.” Notice he places responsibility for our problems squarely on our own shoulders.

The Key to Change

Would it be harder for a smoker to leave a cigarette alone, or for him to SAY the words, “Oh, I don’t do that anymore”, before it is 100% true?

Sometimes it’s hard to lie – aka, tell the truth in advance – but it’s MUCH harder to quit the behavior without first changing your inner core.

So take a look at your circumstances. The kind of home you live in, the occupation you hold, the balance in your checkbook, the condition of your relationships, your level of spirituality, your health… if any one of these areas could be improved, they are what they are (as Bob Proctor says) only because you lack the understanding on how to make them better.

You may think you know how to change it, but unless it has already changed, you only have an intellectual concept of how to change. Your thoughts about it are actually on the same frequency as the thoughts that got you to where you already are.

The real solution is probably not what you think it is. The good news is that the solution is continually broadcast over a different station, it’s even right there in your room right now, and your job is simply to “tune in” to it.

Need money? Quit telling yourself you’re broke. Quit saying, “I would, IF I could afford it.” “I will go, IF things work out.” These are thoughts which are tuned in to  a life of mediocrity.  If you want anything to change, you need to first begin thinking on a different level.

Different level of thinking?

Think of how many radio frequencies there are!

Just as there are countless radio frequencies, as we go through each day, we are also subject to the bombardment of a variety of broadcasts, right and left.

Every commercial, every billboard, every conversation, image and thought that we allow into our mind has an effect on us. Some input pulls us down to a lower level, and sometimes (thank heavens) we stumble onto something that uplifts us.

If we stay on a frequency that only brings static, chaos is often the physical manifestation of the confusion.

The ideas stored within our inner core are that which literally controls our behaviors, which in turn dictates our results. Take control of your results by first taking control of the data INPUT into your mind.

Ultimately it’s best to be like a radio, which is tuned in to the highest broadcast available. Divine inspiration fills the air on that channel. But if we are not already in tune on that level, it might be a good idea to be an IPOD for a while!

While a radio simply makes audible whatever is floating through the air on whatever channel your dial is tuned to, an iPod plays only exactly what you give it to play.

To Be Like an iPod

To be like an iPod means you consciously and carefully select messages to uplift you, until the elevated way of thinking becomes your natural way of life.

While a radio can be subject to every frequency available, an IPOD only delivers precisely what you give it.

So feed your mind with ideas that uplift, intentionally. Don’t wait for something good to float through the airwaves on the channel to which you’re tuned. Instead, purposely subject yourself to input created by mentors or musicians who live on a level where you want to be. In time, (and it can take time) your inner core will more naturally and automatically think on that elevated level.

If you don’t know how to tune in to a different frequency of broadcasted solutions (which present themselves as flashes of inspiration), you can at least listen on purpose to people who live on that elevated frequency.

I’d like to present a few ways that you can fill your personal mental iPod with great input. Some of these will not be right for you right now, some will. You can discern them simply by:

  1. Deciding first what YOU want out of life, and write it down. (Read “The Jackrabbit Factor: Why You Can” to understand why that’s important.)
  2. Letting yourself feel it as though it is already so, for at least a few minutes today.

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If you do those two things, you’ll put yourself on a frequency where you will resonate with and recognize the solutions you need. Then when you look at someone’s recommended resources, you’ll be naturally drawn to one or the other… or none. Trust your gut and follow through. Act on the hunch, believing that you will discover what you seek. I will not pretend that what I have is the right thing for everyone, right now. Not everyone is in the right mindset to receive what I have to give, and that’s okay.

To receive guidance from THE highest power, tune in to God – your creator’s frequency by generating genuine feelings of gratitude. Feel grateful for life, however it is now, and then allow yourself to feel grateful for the life you want, even before it is with you. Pretend it is so in your mind and feel the gratitude. That is what turns your dial to a divine station of inspiration and guidance. It’s as simple as that.

Originally written November 9, 2002

When You Feel Confused and Don’t Know What To Do… Pick Your Picnic

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John Sims was traveling with an associate. The associate said, “John, aren’t you going to put on your seatbelt?”

John replied with his raspy tenor voice, “Why, are we going to get into a crash?”

“No, but seatbelts save lives…”

John retorted abruptly in his usual blunt way, “Seatbelts don’t save lives.”

“Of course they do!” His friend explained, “Once, I was driving with my family and something told me to make sure everyone was wearing their seatbelts. So we all belted up, and just as we turned a corner, there was another vehicle coming at us in our lane. Even though it was a head-on collision, we all survived because of those seatbelts!”

John was firm, “No, the seatbelts didn’t save your life, whatever told you to put them on saved your life.”

Probably a decade has passed since I heard John relate that story. Leaving a lasting impression on me, its message has deepened and taken on new meaning. He’s right. It wasn’t the seatbelts that saved their lives. True, they played a part in the actual physics of keeping the bodies secure during impact, but the credit belongs to the voice of warning. The “life-saving” seatbelts were there during the entire trip. But the timeliness of the prompting, and the man’s response to it, changed the would-be tragedy into a miracle.

I am reminded of a game I played in high school. Planning to take some friends to a picnic, my friend and I prepared a tape recorder which described our every move as we traveled from our starting point to the final destination.

When it came time for the event, we told our unsuspecting friends to wait at a payphone until we called them and told them where to find the hidden tape recorder. Our instructions: “Turn it on and follow the directions explicitly!”

At the end of the journey was the picnic fit for a king. But along the way, we followed our friends, incognito. The most hilarious moments came when they tried to mimic what we had done, but in the wrong places. Having accidentally fallen out of step, our friends found that the description of our actions no longer suited their surroundings and, to us, it became absolutely laughable. If they had only known where they were trying to go, they could have improvised and found their own way.

Sometimes we look at others who have reached an admirable destination in their life, and then imitate their same steps in an effort to achieve their results. We listen to their tapes, read their books, and attend their seminars; and then we do our best to follow what they say. While we can learn a great deal from people who have what we want, we must realize that we’re not always on the same sidewalk, so to speak, as they were when they began their journey to the picnic. We’ve had different life experiences and carry with us a different variety of baggage, all of which makes a difference. We need to have the destination clearly in view, so that when someone else’s instructions do not work, we are still able to improvise our way to success.

So, how do you identify your picnic? It’s so simple that most people discard the idea as unimportant. This is one reason why few ever discover the power behind it. All you have to do is simply DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT.

If you knew you could not fail, what would your goals be? This is actually the toughest part of achieving success; the part that at least ninety-seven percent of the population will never do. Create a description of the success you desire, and commit it to paper. Write it in the form of a gratitude statement as though it has already happened. Then you are entitled to, and can trust the impressions which come to your mind. By doing this, you’ve done it: you’ve ‘spotted’ your picnic table. As you hang on to the vision, you’ll know instinctively just how to get to it, because it will be in clear view. Without it committed to paper, your impressions will seem random and you’ll struggle to know what to do next. Perhaps you’ve already felt that way.

Take control of your life, and experience the exhilaration which comes from proceeding methodically toward your worthy ideal. Your success begins with the dream…and happens after you’ve done your part to enlist the voice of inspiration on your journey. See it in your mind, commit it to paper, and be grateful for it before it’s even yours. This puts you in tune with that ‘inner voice’, and you’ll finally know just what to do, and when.

This article, originally written November 14, 2003, was adapted and expanded to become the award-winning international bestseller: The Jackrabbit Factor

"Perfectionism" and Prosperity

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Positive Thinking Tip: God can always do something good with your less than perfect performance. Rely on him to help make up the difference when you fall short.

We live in a time when life comes at us faster than it ever has in the history of the world. We get stressed, overloaded, and overwhelmed. Under these pressures, it is hard to remain calm… the state of mind necessary to live in harmony with the universal laws of success. Often we get discouraged and lose faith, simply because we spend so much time beating ourselves up for our flaws.

To qualify for the blessings weu’re praying for requires a calm and confident state of mind. But when we’re disappointed in ourselves, it is tough to have faith. The problem is, so long as we’re not perfect, there’s always something to be disappointed about. So what do we do about that? How can we have peace of mind when we’re so imperfect? How can we achieve prosperity so long as we fall short of perfection?

Do we have to THINK, BEHAVE, and DO everything perfectly in order for the blessings to come? No.

In my book, Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Money Matters, I talk about how I had a perfectionist mentality for many years, until, after I married and had children I discovered to my dismay how literally IMPOSSIBLE it is to be perfect, even when you give it all you’ve got.

For a simple example, I’d make a commitment to study a certain amount each day or week, and I’d sit down to read… just as a baby in the other room would wake up and start to fuss. Or, I’d get the kids to bed and open my books just to hear some crying and then one of the toddlers would throw up.

It seemed that something always got in the way of my ability to make a commitment to myself and keep it. I had gotten pretty good at “self-mastery” before starting a family, but all that changed after the first baby. No longer did I have much say in how my time would be spent, even with all of my good intentions of living a disciplined, structured life.

Finally, one day I surrendered in despair. I realized I had become a cranky, sloppy person with the utter inability to finish anything I tried to start. Anything that did get done was done half-shod. I collapsed in tears and expressed to God how sorry I was that I was such a failure. I was devastated and confessed that I was doing the best I knew how, and that as poorly as I was doing, it was all I could do.

For the first time in years I felt Him really smiling down on me. It was as if He was saying, “FINALLY you realize your dependence on me! NOW we can proceed!”

Everything changed after that. How does this lesson apply to me now? I still have all the interruptions that come with family life… even more now than ever. In fact, a paper airplane just hit me in the head and I’m not even kidding.

I don’t have time to plan, prepare, and execute much of anything as perfectly, professionally, or impressively as I should. Let’s say I’m selling something, and if doing the presentation poorly could cost me the deal, I have two choices. I can either think “oh, dear… I did such a bad job” or I can think, “that’s just going to have to be good enough.”

Which mentality will bring success? Which mindset leads to prosperity?

Now that I know my best is never going to be good enough, and now that I know that God understands and is okay with that (so long as I really try), I rely on Him to make up the difference for my inadequacies. When I’m trying to do a good job and I blow it anyway, I think of Him and pray that He can make something useful out of my less-than-perfect efforts.

So long as I have believed that, I’ve seen miracles.

So then, do we have to THINK, BEHAVE, and DO everything perfectly in order for the blessings to come? No. We will not live the principles perfectly, no matter how hard we try. BUT, we can think of God when we come short, and pray for mercy.

Let me give you an example. Years ago, my husband and I made the mistake of trying to purchase multiple investment properties at the same time. The underwriters on every one of those deals became uneasy when they realized what we were trying to do. The first home went through relatively easily, but the second was more tough. The underwriters kept coming back with more unexpected hoops that we had to jump through, including having us show larger amounts available in certain accounts than what they had originally requested, as well as proving that those funds had already been seasoned for so many months, etc…

Each time we managed to jump through one hoop, they came back with yet another and another and another. Originally they only needed to see X amount in the bank and 3 months of payments in reserve. Then, seeing us as a risky investment, their requirements increased to something like X times two and 6 months in reserve, which eventually turned into a required 12 months in reserves plus a letter stating we weren’t accruing more liabilities, even though they already knew we were. It seemed as though they had long since decided not to extend the loan and were hoping we’d just give up.

After meeting their newly imposed requirements over and over, it eventually became impossible to do the next thing they asked. We were so weary that we were ready to just let it go. We had done all we could do. Then a simple thought came to mind: we don’t have to come up with all that extra money and we don’t have to do everything they are asking… all this would take is for one person in underwriting to simply have a change of heart.

Suddenly it all seemed so simple, because it was going to be so much easier for us to pray for one person’s heart to change, than to pray for another $40,000 (or whatever it was – I can’t remember) to show up in our account by the next day, WITH proof that it had already been sitting there for several months, which would have been impossible to do.

Having finally come to peace with giving it our best and letting go of the outcome, we emailed to let them know that we would not be providing them the proof of the additional unexpected funds they were requiring.

The next day, our loan officer called and said that there was only one final token request (something insignificant), and it would be a done deal. There was no more mention of the large sum of money they had wanted before. It all finally went through.

The point? “You need not run faster than you have strength.” When perfection is impossible (and it always is), God can make up the difference if you will ask for His help and then believe in Him. Do your best to only ask for those things that would be in your best and highest good, and then trust Him. (More on that…)

A woman prayed: “Dear Father, I’ve been doing really well today… so far I haven’t yelled at the kids, cussed, thrown anything around in anger, overeaten, overspent, or overlooked my responsibilities… I haven’t watched too much TV, nor driven too fast. I’ve been good natured and cheerful to everyone around me… But Father, it’s morning and time for me to get out of bed. From here I’m really going to need your help.”

That’s what it comes down to: reliance on that higher power. If you choose to believe that somehow, God makes up the difference between your efforts and what’s required, then it’s that very belief which puts you in the right state of mind to receive the blessing… even when you don’t “deserve” it. In all honesty, none of us really “deserve” it. Only by the grace of God are we even breathing. So, to reach our goals, what does He require? Belief. Belief that He has a way to make up for our failings, and asking Him to help.

So, believe you can achieve your ideal life. Do what you can, and then when needed, say to yourself, “this is just going to have to be good enough.” Can you see how thinking this way is in harmony with the laws of success? If we think we aren’t doing well enough, and if we think that our inadequacy will prevent us from succeeding, then we’re right. Trust God to fill in, believe that He will, and you can succeed.

I just got hit in the head again. I’ve tried to edit this article as I’ve gone along, and now that I’m at the end I really should run through it one more time to make sure it comes across the way I wanted it to, and make sure the sentences are readable and flowey, but a precious little 5 year old has been trying to get my attention for more than two hours, so… it’s just going to have to be good enough.

Originally published February 7, 2005

Added August 8, 2015: Those of you who have been following me for a few years know that those real estate investments didn’t go so well! So yes, be careful what you pray for, because you just might get it. Here are some related follow-up articles that you may find interesting:

Gurus are Human
Human Empowerment, In Perspective

Things Undone

Positive Thinking Tip: Clear out the cobwebs of your life. it will be worth it. You’ll travel the rest of your journey much lighter, and you’ll definitely go much farther.

We feel happiest when we are on the grow, and striving for something more. Whether we are striving for better physical health, financial health, emotional health, or healthier relationships – it just feels good to improve.

And although we should certainly practice gratitude for all we already have, if we’re not also reaching for SOMEthing else, we stop growing and start decaying. There is no standing still.

But sometimes we begin our next journey with too much in our backpack.

If there’s ‘junk’ from your past that is affecting your self-confidence, it can feel like carrying a bag full of rocks, which only makes your journey more difficult.

No, I’m not going to define ‘junk’. If you have some, you probably already know what I’m talking about. I’m not talking about times when you’ve been a victim… that’s not the kind of junk I’m talking about. (Although holding grudges can count for some seriously heavy rocks, and emotional trauma can really be debilitating.)

For this post, I’m talking about the kind of junk that you are personally responsible for, and over which you have some immediate control.

If you’ve done something you regret, and have not ‘taken care of it’, then your self-confidence will be affected and your ability to have faith in reaching your goals may be adversely affected, too.

If you are a ‘perfectionist’, stop here and read this instead.

You may or may not be a religious person, but I believe it’s important to get your heart lined up with your Creator before you launch an all-out quest for the abundant life. If there are ‘things undone’ in your life that need repair, your conscience knows it, and it’s liberating to make things right to the best of your ability, first.

By doing so, you become more confident that your purpose for seeking abundance is for a good and worthy reason. As it says in Matthew 6:33: ‘But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things (might I say: everything you need) shall be added unto you.’

With the self-confidence that results, your faith in yourself, and in God who helps you, will be stronger than ever.

I picked this topic today because of a great lesson I heard on Sunday. It posed the question: when we make a mistake, do we try to excuse it and cover it up? Or do we take responsibility, confess it completely where needed, and face the consequences?

To answer that, imagine this:

If you had a pile of dirt, and you wanted to hide it, would covering it up with more dirt take care of it? No. It only makes the pile bigger and more conspicuous. While it appears you’ve successfully covered it up, you’ve only turned it into a bigger pile.

A wonderful speaker by the name of Richard G. Scott said it this way: ‘Do not take comfort in the fact that your transgressions are not known by others. That is like an ostrich with his head buried in the sand. He sees only darkness and feels comfortably hidden. In reality he is ridiculously conspicuous.’

God knows, the ‘Universe’ knows, and YOU know.

A person’s self-esteem and confidence only grows when s/he seeks courage to face the music, make things right as best they can, and restore self-respect.

Life on the other side of it is full of light. It is free, it is liberating, and worth whatever price it takes to finally do the ‘things left undone’. It is even worth risking one’s relationship with another human being to make things right with one’s Creator. In fact, our relationships with those we love may actually be strengthened in the long run when we do our best to put ourselves right with God. After all, being in the right with God is the only thing that really matters anyway. If you’re not religious, you can call it being true to your conscience.

I want you to succeed. I want you to experience abundance in all areas of your life, including financially. I think many of my readers are Christian (not all, but many), so I’m also going to include another passage: ‘And after ye have obtained a hope in Christ ye shall obtain riches, if ye seek them; and ye will seek them for the intent to do good.’ (Jacob 2:19)

Now, this is an unusual topic for my newsletter, I know. I also realize this message isn’t for everybody right now, but it may be for somebody. To embark on a quest with a backpack full of stones can be exhausting and frustrating. Let’s keep our loads as light as we can along the way by identifying each stone we carry, taking it out, putting it down, and leaving it behind.

Now, what if someone finds out you have stones in your backpack? How mortifying that could be!!!

Realize this: everyone has stones in their backpack at one time or another in their life. And in truth, there is more shame in carrying them around in secret than there is to taking them out and putting them down, even if those around you get a glimpse. In fact, doing so just might inspire someone else to have enough courage to do the same.

There are amazing, wonderful, abundant blessings awaiting you. Take care of things undone, so you can move forward and claim all there is to enjoy out of life. If there’s fear associated with considering such a step, understanding the “stickman” illustration can be VERY empowering. To understand fear and how to deal with it, learn about the stickman here.

Originally published November 8, 2002.

photo credit: hellostanley via photopin cc

What I Think of Dave Ramsey

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For years I’ve been hearing about Dave Ramsey and I’m embarrassed to say that (without listening to him myself) I had him pegged as the guy who helps broke people manage their limited supply, while I elevated myself as the teacher who helps people expand their supply.

At first pass, this may appear to be the case. But I want to set the record straight.

Listening to Dave Ramsey’s podcast and radio show has become one of the most inspiring, motivating things I do now for a number of reasons:

1) Dave’s advice is solid. Scripturally sound too, if that matters to you. I honestly wish we had been listening to him back when we first started making a lot of money. If we had, we wouldn’t have nearly lost it all in 2008.

2) The good news is that the principles I teach help you get what you want. The bad news is that the principles I teach help you get what you want. Did you catch that? They work even if you set stupid goals. Dave’s program helps you choose smart goals. REALLY SMART GOALS.

3) In the past, I’ve offered psychological strategies for getting out of debt. While they make sense according to the principles, human beings do a better job getting out of debt by following his advice than they do mine. In time, I hope to update and revamp some of my materials to reflect my new point of view. My tips may seem good and right as they are, but the fact is, he’s got a longer track record of helping MORE people actually achieve the debt-free goal, and I’m not afraid to tell you that.

4) I thought Dave was only about managing a limited supply. The truth is, he has a LOT to say about how to expand your cash flow. I never realized that before! Combine his tips with the principles you’ve been learning from me, and holy moly, you’d be unstoppable.

5) I thought Dave’s audience was only low income wage earners, and that high earning entrepreneurs had nothing to learn from him. GASP! Those of you who are already fans of his know how wrong I was. He has SMART guidance for helping you increase your income through entrepreneurship if that is one of your goals.

6) The principles I teach are a powerful and appropriate rescue when you’re in crisis. But once you get on your feet and start building for your future, his advice will keep you on a solid path. It will keep you out of debt. It will keep you prepared for emergencies, it will keep you on the path toward building wealth, and prepare you to give like no one else. At any point along the way, if you face another crisis, apply what you’ve learned from me to exercise faith and get yourself back on track quickly. Use the principles you’ve learned from me to achieve his baby steps in record time!

7) His baby step goals do not have to replace the goals you already have… but I do encourage you to listen to his podcast for a couple weeks and consider following his advice on what would be the smartest order for obtaining them.

8) He’s entertaining and seriously MOTIVATIONAL! There’s nothing more powerful than hearing people accomplish seemingly impossible things. Like paying off your house in your 20s, or paying off $500,000 in student loan debts in only three years, starting out making only $50K/year. We’ve already made greater leaps forward since listening to him than we were making before.

9) Dave loves to point out how most people who follow his baby steps usually end up getting raises, promotions, or increased business revenue in the process. He says that God tends to bless the person who is on the right path, and I believe that wholeheartedly.

10) Some people disagree with his investment recommendations. I’m not qualified to comment on those. But I do appreciate the education I’ve been receiving, so that I can at least make more informed choices than I’ve been able to make in the past.

Oh, there are plenty of other reasons I’m excited about Dave Ramsey and what I’ve been learning, but just so you know, getting paid to promote him is NOT one of them. He doesn’t know me from Adam – I’m just another one of his listeners.

I just know that if you are feeling a little uncertain about what goals you should choose next, or uncertain about how to get out of debt, or uncertain about how to do what needs to be done without going into more debt, or if you just want to know what it feels like to not HAVE any, then I wholeheartedly encourage you to listen to his daily radio show or podcast.

I have colleagues who do not agree with his philosophies. I have colleagues who don’t agree with me, either. I don’t always say the same thing as other mentors or gurus (here’s why). The fact is, different mentors’ messages have had particular application to our situation at different times along the way.

But now was the right time for us to learn from Dave.

At other times, other mentors have been right for us, and they had different counsel for us than what Dave would have taught. It’s all good. It’s all about getting the right advice at the right time. Not always because it is necessarily the best, but because sometimes we need to learn something from the experience, which helps us become more effective teachers.

(Remember the sidewalk and picnic analogy at the beginning of The Jackrabbit Factor free download?)

Some of the advice we’ve received over the years has been very expensive and painful – but the lessons we learned as a result was worth it. Without those lessons and life experiences, I never would have become the award-winning three-time international bestseller of The Jackrabbit Factor, Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters, and Portal to Genius

So… I guess it’s okay.

Still, I would have preferred to learn my lessons from other people’s mistakes (such as Dave’s) instead of my own. It would have been so much faster!

Anyway, Dave’s message may not be right for everyone right now (for whatever reason) but it’s a whole lot more right for more people than I ever gave him credit for.

Sorry Dave!

Strongbrook Wealth Mentoring Event

SBMNlogoOn June 17, 2015, Strongbrook will be broadcasting its first all-day mentorship event.

I’ll be there speaking on “The Key to Confidence: How to Know you have the Right Strategy (Goal, or Mentor) for Business Success.”

Whether you live in, or outside of Utah, you can participate!

Get yourself and your friends registered for free:

https://strongbrook-wealth-event.eventbrite.com

Here’s the location:

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Utah Valley Convention Center
220 West Center St., Provo, UT 84601
9:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m.

Registration begins at 8:00 a.m.
(Meal breaks will be provided)

Seats are limited.

If you cannot attend in person, we are will be broadcasting this event live so you can watch from anywhere in the world. It’s always better in person, because sometimes technology can be undependable, but it is an option.

To gain online access, simply register here:
https://strongbrook-wealth-event.eventbrite.com

Agenda:

9:00 a.m. – 9:10 a.m.               Welcome

9:10 a.m. – 9:55 a.m.               Loral Langemeier: (NYTBS and #1 Female Financial Expert): Controlling Your Income with 3 Days to Cash Now

10:00 a.m. – 10:50 a.m.           Garrett Gunderson: (Author of Killing Sacred Cows): Wealth Creation Loopholes and Sheltering Tools of the Wealthy

11:00 a.m. – 11:25 a.m.           Stephen Miller: (Co-Founder of Strongbrook): How to Access Hundreds of Mentors For Free

11:30 a.m. – noon                    Gerald Rogers: The Power of Mentoring

LUNCH BREAK

1:35 p.m. -2:15 p.m.                Dave Blanchard: (CEO of the Og Mandino Group): Business Relationship Mastery

2:15 p.m. – 2:45 p.m.               Jane Norris (Business & Mindset Coach): How to Shift Your Financial Universe

2:50 p.m. – 3:50 p.m.               Amy Walker: (Entrepreneur Coach): How to Create Powerful, Profitable Successful Businesses

4:00 p.m. – 4:50 p.m.             Leslie Householder: (International Best Selling Author): The Key to Confidence: How to Know You Have the Right Strategy at the Right Time for Business Success

5:00 p.m. – 5:30 p.m.               Kris Krohn: (Strongbrook Owner): 10 Year Or Less To Retirement with Passive Income

DINNER BREAK

7:00 p.m. – 7:10 p.m.               Welcome

7:10 p.m. – 7:20 p.m.               Steve Earl, Strongbrook CEO

7:20 p.m.- 7:40 p.m.                Tyler Bennett (COO of Strongbrook): The Where’s and When’s of Winning in Real Estate Today

7:45 p.m. – 8:45 p.m.               Loral Langemeier: (NYTBS and #1 Female Financial Expert): Fast Cash Strategies

The Strongbrook Wealth Workshop will be an unforgettable experience that could permanently change your financial DNA.

There will be something there for everyone.

See you there!

Leslie

PS: Also, look forward to receiving an awesome free gift from Kris Krohn at the event (not sure what time that will be announced).

She walks into the car wash, and…

I received a fun message recently, reminding me of how simple it can be to apply the principles for truly immediate results.

Check this out:

Hi Leslie! I was thinking of you today. I had lost your book in my daughters room and she finally found it several days ago. I’ve been rereading all of the underlined portions and did something that worked!

I got my car washed yesterday and they put a scratch in my clear coating. My husband said to go back and ask what they would do to make it right.

When I read all of the reviews on Yelp, everything was terrible! My initial reaction was “Why should I even go back? They’re not going to fix anything anyway!”

I decided to apply what I learned in your book.

I decided to be grateful that they were actually going to do something to fix my car and be happy as I was driving over there.

When I got there I met the manager and asked him to come and look at my car. He said, “Are you angry about it?

I said, “I’m not mad. I’m just kind of bummed.”

He said, “I can fix bummed.”

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Long story short, he waxed and buffed the scratch out of my car, cleaned up the milk on the inside that the other person had missed. He even offered me a 25% discount for him to do sealant on the whole car to protect it.

He was super nice. I even hugged him goodbye. He said he’s always willing to fix things when customers come in with a “Can you please help me” attitude.

Had it not been for your book I would’ve gone in with a completely different emotion.

I know you probably have hundreds of stories like this, but I couldn’t help adding one more! Really love your books. Really love how things can change so quickly just by using the way we think!

To learn more about what she’s talking about, download my two most popular books, FREE!

Finding Relief from Heavy Burdens

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A Special Message of Faith

In December of 2012 I was asked to speak during my congregation’s sacrament meeting. This is one thing that is common throughout my church worldwide: that members are given opportunities to teach each other about the gospel, and how they are learning to apply it in their lives.

Here’s the message I shared:

When we realized back in 2006 that we had purchased too much real estate at the wrong time, sometimes all we could do to calm the raging storm was to turn off the lights, close our eyes, and let “Peace Like a River” CD soothe our troubled and fearful hearts.

We tried to focus on the Savior, and let Him assure us that in the eternal scheme of things, everything was going to turn out okay if we fixed our faith upon Him.

He showed us that no matter how heavy the burden, he had the power to do for us what He had done for Alma’s people as described in Mosiah chapter 24 when he told them:

“I will … ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that … you cannot feel them upon your backs, even while you are in bondage; and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter, and that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God, do visit my people in their afflictions.”

The Bible tells us to have faith in Jesus Christ, and to love one another. But until recently, I never really recognized an important connection between these two directives, and how it relates to the lift of our burdens.

At the time, I considered the peace I ultimately discovered to be a tremendous personal victory. We were still in a mess, but He taught us peace in spite of it. That all of that could be happening and that we could find peace anyway was a miracle to me.

As our difficulty stretched on, I felt that I could relate in a small way to the man who had been a part of the fateful Martin Handcart company who said, “‘I… pulled my handcart when I was so weak and weary … that I could hardly put one foot ahead of the other. I have looked ahead and … said, I can go only that far and there I must give up…’ ” He continued: ” ‘I have gone on to that sand and when I reached it, the cart began pushing me. I have looked back many times to see who was pushing my cart, but my eyes saw no one. I knew then that the angels of God were there… The price we paid to become acquainted with God was a privilege to pay, and I am thankful that I was privileged to come in the Martin Handcart Company.'”

As hard as it was for us over those last few years, I wouldn’t give up the testimony we gained through it – that God lives and is mindful of us and gives us strength.

However, while it’s true, that when things appear to be falling apart, a return to the Savior (pondering his life’s example, repenting of our mistakes, finding gratitude, and imagining his steady and unconditional friendship) always brings peace, sometimes it can be really hard to set aside personal challenges enough to be able to think about helping someone else.

But what I’ve been learning is that our needs are cared for when we focus on others.

This is probably a more complete and true exercise of faith in Christ. Not just believing that He is real and finding peace in our challenges, but taking it one step further… do we really believe that our needs will be met if we forget ourselves? Do we really trust that the Lord will carry us through our problems if we lose ourselves in the service of others?

I remember back several years when my husband and I were trying to be anxiously engaged in a good cause, but our investment problems were screaming so loudly that it seemed nearly impossible to carry on.

We had come to the end of all of our visible resources – our savings were entirely depleted, our credit was completely exhausted, and with only $200 in the bank and no paycheck in sight (with another $15,000 in bills due in the coming 2 weeks), the moment we had tried so hard to avoid was finally upon us.

It was our anniversary weekend, and so with no other solution in sight, we decided to at least enjoy a dinner together and try to rekindle our hope in the future, and our faith in Christ. During our conversation, it dawned on us that even though we were at rock bottom, we were still alive, still breathing, and still able to help others.

We asked ourselves, if we were homeless, could we still teach? Could we still help others? Would we? Of course we could, and would. So that’s when our conversation shifted. Instead of focusing on our immediate needs, we projected our minds forward and imagined where we saw ourselves in 10 years. Did we think we’d be back on our feet by then? Would we have figured things out and put our lives back together by then? That seemed easy enough to believe. So then our focus shifted, and we brainstormed on the things we could do right away to serve others better, and made those plans.

By the end of dinner, we felt hope again. We felt the Spirit confirm to us that although we were in a pretty ugly mess of our own, we were on the right track.

So we paid the bill and just as my husband was opening my car door, the waiter came running out to the parking lot after us with a voided receipt yelling,

“Since it’s your anniversary, the meal’s on us!”

In that moment, we experienced a little bit of what the Lord had taught his apostles. He had tried to assure them that as long as they would feed his sheep, their true needs would be met. We’ve heard it so many times: “Consider the lilies of the field…” “…trust the Lord with all thine heart” “…fear not…” but how it is possible?

To explain, let me share it the way Elder Jeffrey R. Holland described it:

After Christ was no longer with his apostles, in effect, Peter said: “Brethren, it has been a glorious three years. …But [it] is over. He has finished His work, and He has risen from the tomb. He has worked out His salvation and ours. So … ‘What do we do now?’ I don’t know more to tell you than to return to your former life, rejoicing. I intend to ‘go a fishing.’”

But, … the fishing wasn’t very good. Their first night back on the lake, they caught nothing—not a single fish. With the first rays of dawn, they disappointedly turned toward the shore, where they saw in the distance a figure who called out to them,

“Cast the net on the right side of the ship, and ye shall find,” —and with those simple words, recognition begins to flood over them. Just three years earlier these very men had been fishing on this very sea. On that occasion too they had “toiled all the night, and [had] taken nothing,”…. But a fellow Galilean on the shore had called out to them to let down their nets, and they drew “a great multitude of fishes,” enough that their nets broke, the catch filling two boats so heavily they had begun to sink.

Now it was happening again. [They] eagerly lowered their net, and “they were not able to draw it for the multitude of fishes.”

After a joyful reunion… Looking at their battered little boats, … and a stunning pile of 153 fish, Jesus said … three times, “Peter, do you love me more than you love all this?” Peter said, “Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee.”

To which Jesus responded …perhaps saying something like: “Then Peter, why are you here? Why are we back on this same shore, by these same nets, having this same conversation? Wasn’t it obvious then and isn’t it obvious now that if I want fish, I can get fish?

“What I need, Peter, are disciples—and I need them forever. I need someone to feed my sheep and save my lambs. I need someone to preach my gospel and defend my faith. I need someone who loves me, truly, truly loves me, and loves what our Father in Heaven has commissioned me to do.

“Ours is not a feeble message. … It is the work of Almighty God, and it is to change the world. So, Peter, for the second and presumably the last time, I am asking you to leave all this and to go teach and testify, labor and serve loyally…”

“If ye love me, keep my commandments,” Jesus said. So we have neighbors to bless, children to protect, the poor to lift up, and the truth to defend. We have wrongs to make right, truths to share, and good to do. In short, we have a life of devoted discipleship to give in demonstrating our love of the Lord. We can’t quit and we can’t go back…

To those who have not yet joined with us in this great final cause of Christ, we say, “Please come.” To those who were once with us but have retreated, preferring to pick and choose a few cultural hors d’oeuvres from the smorgasbord of the Restoration [of the gospel of Jesus Christ] and leave the rest of the feast, I say that I fear you face a lot of long nights and empty nets. The call is to come back, to stay true, to love God, and to lend a hand.” – Elder Jeffrey Holland

Now, on Christmas we were blessed to spend some time on the phone with our missionary son Jacob, and I asked him: What can we do for you? What can we do to help you?

He replied, emotionally, “I just want you guys to love each other. I want you to do your best to get along with each other. It’s so true that you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. I just want you guys to also stay in touch with me, keep writing letters, keep emailing me, keep me posted with what’s going on in your lives, the good and the bad…”

Our Father in Heaven – during our separation from Him – wants us to love each other, and stay in touch with Him through prayer. He wants us to go to him with the good and the bad, and let Him be a central part of our life.

And when we have burdens too heavy and worries too consuming to think outside of ourselves, I testify that we can put our trust in the Lord, hand him our burdens, …and as we focus on helping someone else, everything will work out just as it should.

I have a special journal dedicated to this – for when I have a concern or a need that seems to be more than I can handle, I’ll write “What I needed” on the left side, and then on the right side I write “How He helped”. After all, He has asked us to acknowledge his hand in all things – and this is one way I’m trying to do it.

(The following section is an excerpt from a letter I wrote to a friend, giving more details on this new journal tool.)

I felt the Lord inspired me to do something I hadn’t done before, when things were terribly overwhelming to me. The Spirit nagged me for 2 days until I did it… and that is this:

I got a notebook or journal that was specifically to be for one purpose. On the left side of the page, I wrote: “What I needed”, and I listed the things I needed to turn over to the Lord. I imagined angels being given permission to get to work on those items for me, because I was physically, mentally, emotionally unable to handle them myself at that time.  On the right side of the page I wrote: “How He helped” because I thoroughly expected Him to handle some of those things for me, and I wanted to document His hand in the process.

Within 20 minutes, I got a phone call that answered one of the pleas listed on the left.  Over time, it seems that all of them have been either checked off or making good progress. To me, it’s working better than a vision board ever did, because it’s more of a system for the purpose of fulfilling my life’s mission, and for handling the distractions that slow me down as well.

Once I put something on the “what I needed” side, I let it go and I get busy on something that I CAN make progress with, knowing that the other items are being handled.

And now, verily I say unto you, and what I say unto one I say unto all, be of good cheer, little children; for I am in your midst, and I have not forsaken you; (D&C 61:36)

Related: Do the Problems Go Away?

(Back now, to my talk at church…)

I know that God lives, that Jesus Christ is with us, He’s mindful of our heartaches, and ready to help. He is merciful. He loves us. He loves you. He knows what you’re going through; it’s not pointless.

May we exercise our faith in Christ not just by believing He is real, but also by trusting him – literally – to handle our burdens that feel too big, while we look instead for opportunities to feed his sheep.

This is my prayer for all of us.

Originally published on December 18, 2013

Real Estate Investing Wealth Summit – Thursday, April 9th

April 9, 2015 – 5pm to 10pm – ONLY $20!!!

Salt Lake City Marriott Downtown at City Creek
75 South West Temple
Salt Lake City, Utah 84101
Phone: 818-618-1211

On Thursday, April 9, Strongbrook is going to be sponsoring their annual Wealth Summit for anyone interested in looking at real estate as a way to build a new income stream, or for creating a retirement income – only $20!

(I am the author of The Jackrabbit Factor, and one of Strongbrook’s approved Mentors, and if you’ve been looking for a way to leverage your resources for higher returns, you need to check this out…)

Find out how you can create rental income with a team of experienced experts. The Strongbrook team finds the right homes in the right markets, shops the auctions, rehabs the homes, rents, and manages the properties FOR you… and YOU get the cash flow.

If you’re not quite ready to invest, learn about their pre-investor program, which helps you earn money now while you get ready to invest.

When you click through to register for the Wealth Summit, select the “Wealth Summit” Ticket (prices range from $10-$20, depending on how many guests you bring with you).

Click here to register now

My husband will be there, so be sure to find him, and let him know that I sent you. Here’s a picture of him (with me) so you can more easily track him down:

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PS. The Wealth Summit takes place on the evening prior to the Strongbrook convention. Les Brown will be speaking there, along with many other powerhouse speakers. Convention is open to anyone, as long as there is still room. No membership required. For more about the rest of convention, click here.