Life Begins at 40

I’ve always heard that Life Begins at 40, and I must say, what I received on my 40th birthday certainly did breathe new life into me.

I just wanted to express my deepest thanks to all who have responded (and to those who are still responding!) to my husband’s sneaky request earlier this week.

How he pulled it off is still a mystery to me – I pride myself in being smarter than the average bear – but somehow, he pulled it off!!!

Anyway…

You know those really bad days, when you feel like nothing you do is meaningful, and your life feels like it’s one blundered mess, and no matter what you do or think, it seems impossible to pull out of it?

I have those days, too. (Law of Rhythm!) There’s a force that tries to prevent ALL of us from pressing forward with faith, and I, personally, am very well acquainted with it.

In fact, there were some days even earlier this month when I was overwhelmed with such heavy feelings of despair – that I wasn’t good enough, strong enough, or disciplined enough to achieve my own next goal.

So I hope you can picture this… on Wednesday, (my birthday) here’s what happened:

  1. My kids woke me up with breakfast in bed – YUM!
  2. I worked on some loose ends in my business that had been hovering over me for more than 6 months, and it was MY present to myself to just knock them out once and for all – WHEW!
  3. My friends took me to lunch – YUM!
  4. I spent a couple hours at a special place where I like to peacefully ponder the things that are most important to me – A GREAT way to spend a birthday 🙂
  5. My husband took me to dinner with some friends – YUM!
  6. Then he dragged me to their house so he could work on their computer (holding me up from going home to party with my kids) – GRRRR…
  7. …where I discovered a BIG surprise party for me… WITH my kids, extended family, and several dear friends – HOLY COW!!

Just when I thought the day was as perfect as it could be, I was blown away. But the BEST part was when he interrupted the festivities to tell me about the book he was compiling, and the letter he sent to you, and how overcome HE was by the response pouring in from all over the world.

That’s when I lost it. As we read some of the messages that had come in from my readers, I was undone, and wept like a baby. You have no idea how surprised and overwhelmed I was by your outpouring of love.

This book now sits on my nightstand. I do get warm feedback often enough – but this book is full of stories and experiences, even from people I’ve NEVER heard from before.

You have NO IDEA how much it means to me, to learn that something I’ve done has helped you in your life.

It is a treasured gift that I will turn to, anytime I forget why I do what I do, or when I feel like it’s just too hard to keep doing it.

THANK YOU – FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART! YOU MADE A DIFFERENCE.

I think we have no idea how much power is contained in a simple note, a simple expression of gratitude. I thought I understood that principle before, but now I “get it” on a whole new level.

I hope to express gratitude more freely to those who make a difference in my life, now that I have experienced first-hand how needed, and how appreciated, it really is.

If you think YOUR story is insignificant, think again. I cherish every single solitary story and expression of gratitude I receive, and will continue to lean on them when I feel weary. Even those coming in late are being saved and treasured. Thank you!

And if you feel weary in doing good, remember and believe: people need you to do what you do. Be not weary in well doing, for in due season you shall reap, if you faint not.

Very sincerely,

Leslie Householder
http://www.thoughtsalive.com

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The Story I Needed to Hear

I get emails forwarded to me just as much as anyone, and most of the time I don’t get to read them. But this one got my attention on a particularly tough day and really made a difference. That’s why I’ve decided to pull out the best parts and copy them for you below.

According to the email, it is a story written by a doctor who worked in Africa.

One night I had worked hard to help a mother in the labor ward; but in spite of all we could do, she died, leaving us with a tiny, premature baby and a crying two-year-old daughter. We would have difficulty keeping the baby alive; as we had no incubator (we had no electricity to run an incubator).

We also had no special feeding facilities.

Although we lived on the equator, nights were often chilly with treacherous drafts. One student midwife went for the box we had for such babies and the cotton wool that the baby would be wrapped in.

Another went to stoke up the fire and fill a hot water bottle. She came back shortly in distress to tell me that in filling the bottle, it had burst (rubber perishes easily in tropical climates)… ‘And it is our last hot water bottle!’ she exclaimed. As in the West, it is no good crying over spilled milk, so in Central Africa it might be considered no good crying over burst water bottles. They do not grow on trees, and there are no drugstores down forest pathways.

‘All right,’ I said, ‘put the baby as near the fire as you safely can, and sleep between the baby and the door to keep it free from drafts Your job is to keep the baby warm.’

The following noon, as I did most days, I went to have prayers with any of the orphanage children who chose to gather with me. I gave the youngsters various suggestions of things to pray about and told them about the tiny baby. I explained our problem about keeping the baby warm enough, mentioning the hot water bottle, and that the baby could so easily die if it got chills. I also told them of the two-year-old sister, crying because her mother had died.

During prayer time, one ten -year-old girl, Ruth, prayed with the usual blunt conciseness of our African children. ‘Please, God’ she prayed, ‘Send us a hot water bottle today It’ll be no good tomorrow, God, as the baby will be dead, so please send it this afternoon.’

While I gasped inwardly at the audacity of the prayer, she added, ‘And while You are about it, would You please send a dolly for the little girl so she’ll know You really love her?’

As often with children’s prayers, I was put on the spot. Could I honestly say ‘Amen?’ I just did not believe that God could do this.

Oh, yes, I know that He can do everything; the Bible says so.. But there are limits, aren’t there? The only way God could answer this particular prayer would be by sending me a parcel from the homeland. I had been in Africa for almost four years at that time, and I had never, ever, received a parcel from home.

Anyway, if anyone did send me a parcel, who would put in a hot water bottle? I lived on the equator!

Halfway through the afternoon, while I was teaching in the nurses’ training school, a message was sent that there was a car at my front door. By the time I reached home, the car had gone, but there on the verandah was a large 22-pound parcel. I felt tears pricking my eyes. I could not open the parcel alone, so I sent for the orphanage children.. Together we pulled off the string, carefully undoing each knot. We folded the paper, taking care not to tear it unduly Excitement was mounting Some thirty or forty pairs of eyes were focused on the large cardboard box From the top, I lifted out brightly-colored, knitted jerseys. Eyes sparkled as I gave them out. Then there were the knitted bandages for the leprosy patients, and the children looked a little bored.. Then came a box of mixed raisins and sultanas – that would make a batch of buns for the weekend.

Then, as I put my hand in again, I felt the…..could it really be? I grasped it and pulled it out. Yes, a brand new, rubber hot water bottle. I cried. I had not asked God to send it; I had not truly believed that He could.

Ruth was in the front row of the children. She rushed forward, crying out, ‘If God has sent the bottle, He must have sent the dolly, too!’

Rummaging down to the bottom of the box, she pulled out the small, beautifully-dressed dolly. Her eyes shone! She had never doubted!

Looking up at me, she asked, ‘Can I go over with you and give this dolly to that little girl, so she’ll know that Jesus really loves her?’
‘Of course,’ I replied!

That parcel had been on the way for five whole months, packed up by my former Sunday school class, whose leader had heard and obeyed God’s prompting to send a hot water bottle, even to the equator.

And one of the girls had put in a dolly for an African child – five months before, in answer to the believing prayer of a ten-year-old to bring it ‘that afternoon.’

‘Before they call, I will answer.’ (Isaiah 65:24)

Prayer is one of the best free gifts we receive. There is no cost, but a lot of rewards. Let’s continue praying for one another.

The story ended with a prayer, which I would like to share with you as well:

Heavenly Father, I ask you to bless my friends reading this. I ask You to minister to their spirit. Where there is pain, give them Your peace and mercy. Where there is self doubting, release a renewed confidence to work through them where there is tiredness or exhaustion, I ask You to give them understanding, guidance, and strength. Where there is fear, reveal Your love and release to them Your courage.. Bless their finances, give them greater vision, and raise up leaders and friends to support and encourage them. I ask You to do these things in Jesus’ name. Amen

It’s my hope that this message helps you as much as it has helped many, many other people. You’re not alone; you’ve got a multitude of friends in this online community.

If you have a question or want to read comments or conversations from other like-minded people, I encourage you to visit our forum.

All the best!

Leslie

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Got a Dilemma?

Positive Thinking Tip: Keep it Simple – and Trust the Process

Got a dilemma? What if you had absolute confidence, knowing exactly what to do next?

The hardest work you’ll ever do takes place inside your own mind. It’s the hardest work in the world, and most people will do anything they can to avoid it.

But when you know how to get your mind in a ready-state for inspired ideas, then you more easily recognize them when they come, and you learn to trust them to help you find the shortest distance between your dilemma and its resolution.

This is a very simple process, but it can be tough to do because it requires mental discipline.

How To Do It

  1. Picture what you want – see the outcome as though it has already happened. Literally take the time to put the image(s) on the screen of your mind and hold them there until you can…
  2. Create the emotional experience – allow yourself to answer the question, “how would it actually FEEL to have this dilemma solved?”
  3. Get to work solving the problem to the best of your ability, trusting that you are being guided by your higher power to achieve the success you envisioned.
  4. Never allow yourself to think for longer than a split second, “I’m not sure if this is actually working…”  You must CHOOSE to believe until the goal is achieved.  Believe that there is unseen help orchestrating all things necessary for your success.  As long as you believe it’s there and working for your good, you’ll qualify for the help.

Most people get stuck because they do step 1 and 2, but fail to do step 3 long enough because they allow doubt or discouragement to take over.

A lot of people get stuck because they fail to take step 1 and 2 seriously enough.  It requires a space – a positive environment and time to do the mental work.

That’s what we give you at Genius Bootcamp: the environment, the guidance, the time, and the space to do the work.

Do I make people do push-ups and bark at them if they don’t do them fast enough?

Well, I know, I do seem like the type of person to run things that way, don’t I? LOL

No, but the fact is, as Bertrand Russell put it, “Most people would rather die than think; [in fact], many do.”

Or as Henry Ford stated, “Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is… why so few engage in it.”

Wallace Wattles said, “There is no labor which most people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive thought.”

So, what happens at a Genius Bootcamp?

You THINK – and you think a LOT.

From this thinking in a certain way – which I coach you through, in a relatively small group setting – you will discover genius ideas.

In fact, while you’re at my bootcamp, you’ll wish you were doing push-ups instead!

But you’ll be glad you came. You’ll thank me for putting your brain to work like this, and you’ll take with you a skill that you’ll be able to use time and time again throughout your life.

Did you know?

There are people on the planet who are paid to just sit and think – and they are paid well for it – because they have learned how to tap into genius ideas, in the same way that I’ll show you how to find (and trust) the solutions to your own dilemmas.

Remember, the solution to every problem is only an idea away.

However, so often we remain stuck because we can’t seem to think of that one brilliant idea that tries to get our attention, oh so quietly.

When you go to a Genius Bootcamp, you MUST bring with you at least one perplexing dilemma. That’s the only pre-requisite.

Got a dilemma?

Perfect. That’s all you need to bring!

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The Bootcamp wakes you up and helps you see your dilemma from a whole new perspective… and from that ten-thousand-foot level, you begin to recognize your hidden resources, and just how to arrange them for your ultimate victory.

Victory is won in those single, shining moments when you make a quality decision in the face of apparent disaster.

This 2-day event will give you the environment, the information, the mental exercises, strategies, battle plans, and support to claim your victory NOW and return with extraordinary confidence to the battle field of Life where your decided win can play out.

Based on the principles contained in the Jackrabbit Factor sequel, Portal to Genius, The Genius Bootcampwill help you tap into those sparks of ideas that have the power to transform your life forever.

Join me for my 2-day Genius Bootcamp for an experience you’ll never forget with do-it-now, get it done application of the principles of success.

You’ll come away feeling like you’ve been str-e-e-tched and SHOT into the stratosphere, like a rubber band off of a toy gun!

It will be fun, enlightening, encouraging, and even mind-blowing. Bring a friend or family member!

You know the principles of success work – you’ve seen it happen. Maybe you look back at times in your life when things were really popping for you. But how do you get back in the groove on purpose? What if your old habits are getting in the way and sabotaging your every effort?

You’re on the front lines of an all-out war against mediocrity and it’s time to toughen you up for victory!

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"It Feels Like Flying"

Positive Thinking Tip: Rely on the laws of success to help you soar to greater heights

What’s it like to chase a big dream?

If someone ever asks me what it’s like to pursue a passion or chase a dream (a.k.a. catch a rabbit), I’ll just smile and say, “It feels like flying!”

For some, that means it’s exhilarating… and yes, that’s definitely true. But…

There’s another meaning.

See, I’ve flown in airplanes since I was nine, but it seems that the more I fly, the more it bothers me. I actually deal with an increasing fear of flying every time I step onto a plane.

Now, before you send me a litany of remedies for aviophobia, I want to clarify something:

It isn’t so bad that it keeps me from doing it; it’s just that I’m all too consciously aware of the fact that it’s only air supporting that massive chunk of metal… with me inside.  I regularly have to talk myself out of the fear and choose to be at peace.

The same is true for me with goal achievement.

Let me explain…

I recently set a big goal that’s going to stretch me out of my comfort zone in a significant way. After setting the goal, a strange feeling came over me, and it took me some time to identify where I had experienced that feeling before.

Then I remembered.

The feeling was absolutely identical to how I feel when I step onto an airplane.

In both cases, it’s just nervousness, combined with the thought that natural laws are about to be employed to accomplish something that seems physically impossible.

This connection between flying and goal setting helped me remember to not let the fear stop me.  In both cases, I can rely on natural laws that defy the gravitational pull of mediocrity that otherwise keeps me grounded.

I’ve learned to get on the plane in spite of fear, so I can also talk myself through the fear that comes with going for a big goal.

After all, if your goal doesn’t cause you some internal discomfort when you think about it, then you’re probably not setting a big enough goal.

As I’ve heard it quoted many times…

Make no small plans, for they have not the power to stir men’s souls. – Niccolò Machiavelli, 16th century

So, take the journey with me! Set a BIG goal, and then let me help you overcome the internal (and external) opposition that threatens to stop you.

Did you know that you can get started in the life-changing FTMF program for just $29.95? So, what are you waiting for? Learn more and get started now!

See you inside! 🙂

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Is Absent-Mindedness Affecting Your Success?

Positive Thinking Tip: De-clutter your life and you’ll more easily recognize the subtle, inspired indicators that will lead you to success

A couple years ago, my husband and I took our seven children to a neighboring state for a read-a-thon. On the way home, we stopped half-way and stayed with my sister for a night to break up the trip. The next morning, in our rush to be on the road again, we gathered our blankets and pillows, said our goodbyes, and loaded the van. My husband was at the wheel and I glanced back to ask the kids, “We got everybody?”

Nobody indicated otherwise, so I said, “Great!”

We had just begun to roll down the road when I looked back again and noticed my 15-year old missing.

Oh, no, I thought, not Nathan! He’s the one we forgot last time!

So I exclaimed, “Hurry! Back up and I’ll run in before he realizes we almost forgot him again!”

Within a minute I was back inside the house.  Hearing Nathan upstairs, I exhaled a sigh of relief. Whew! He didn’t notice.

My sister’s husband had a questioning look on his face, so I just said quietly, “We forgot Nathan… don’t say anything.”

Soon after, Nathan opened the door so I hollered nonchalantly, “Nathan… time to go!”

He ran downstairs, said his goodbyes and we climbed in the van. Just as we were getting ready to pull away, someone in the back said, “Where’s Nicholas?”

We gasped.  How did we miss Nicholas?

So I asked, “Nathan, will you go find Nicholas?”

“Sure.” Nathan said, and then ran to the house.

Pretty soon, out came – not Nathan – but my brother-in-law. Standing there in his robe with his hands out and eyes wide, he gestured, “What the –?”

Chuckling, we watched him disappear back into the home. Then suddenly, he stepped into the doorway again with a look of utter disbelief, and three fingers held high.

What’s that supposed to mean? We wondered.

Just then, Nathan emerged from the house with Nicholas…

…AND Bethany.

Okay, in my defense, I will say that we were driving a 15 passenger van full of blankets, pillows, and backpacks. Most of the time, you can’t see everyone in their seats even when they ARE there. When you rely on one child to let you know that their buddy is missing, but that child is missing, too… well, you see what can happen.

Did you know you can leave three children behind and not even realize it?

I do now.

It reminded me of the family who stopped at a gas station during a long road trip, and then hours later realized that the mother had left her prescription glasses there. Regretfully, they had to turn around and go back for them, costing them in a lot of extra time and gas.  When they arrived, they discovered their son waiting, too.

This kind of absent mindedness can get really expensive in terms of time, resources, and most importantly, damaged relationships.

I my case, I thought we were ready to go, but I was wrong. The added clutter in the van, and my hastiness, distracted me from the indicators (empty seats) that would have told us exactly what we needed to do next (find our children), before driving away. Had we proceeded anyway, without fixing the immediate problem, it could have cost us in extra time, gas, and again, most importantly, potentially damaged relationships.

So how can we avoid absent-mindedness?  Maybe it’s just a matter of addressing the clutter. Too much clutter in life can distract us from subtle indicators that would clearly tell us exactly what we really need to do next on our journey to the desired goal.

What are you trying to accomplish?

  • Financial freedom?
  • Stronger family relationships?
  • Better health?
  • Peace of mind?
  • A sense of fulfillment?

It could be that there’s something critical you aren’t even thinking about… something urgent and important that you must do first.

If life’s clutter is keeping you from recognizing it, then there may come a day when you have to turn around and go all the way back to this place to fix what was neglected right now. There are subtle indicators ready to get your attention, but you may need to slow down and clear up some clutter before you’ll notice them.

So… what kind of “clutter” can become a distraction from the subtle indicators?

“Clutter” might include:

  • Too many unnecessary activities filling your day (life is short – be selective about how you spend your time!)
  • Too many unnecessary things laying around your home or office (things were created to be utilized, to benefit people – if you no longer benefit from possessing an object, transfer it to someone who will put it to use.)
  • Too many meaningless conversations (do your discussions center on the topic of things, other people, or uplifting ideas?)
  • Too many meaningless non-family relationships (is there a positive exchange of service, knowledge, or value taking place… or not?)

If you get caught up in the clutter and miss the subtle (but otherwise oh-so-obvious) indicators that something else is an urgent priority (like a child left behind), at some point you may have to go back and make things right before you can arrive at your desired destination with all the right parts and pieces in tact.

So this is my invitation to you: take inventory of your life. Where are you trying to go?

Do your activities, conversations, things, and non-family relationships, truly make the necessary contribution to your journey? Clear what you can, and then take a look around. You might find a gaping hole right under your nose that requires your immediate attention now. Address it now, and you’ll get to your destination successfully a whole lot faster.

(And, if you’ve ever lost track of a child as we have, don’t feel too bad… it even happened to some of the most famous and well-respected parents in history: Joseph and Mary, when Jesus was 12, two thousand years ago.)

To your success!

Leslie

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