How to KNOW if You’ll Reach the Goal

Setting and achieving a goal is as simple as placing an online order. If you perform each step in the order process, you can be certain that everything you need to accomplish the goal will come to you as long as you keep moving in the right direction.

For Example:

Suppose you’ve set a goal to sell 20 widgets during the month of February. I’ll compare the online bookstore (where I recently purchased an antique copy of “As a Man Thinketh”) to Life’s Distribution System.

1. Decide what you want.
Just as I can’t expect the bookstore to send me a book before submitting my request, neither should you expect clients who will support a vague sales goal. Pick the dollar figure you want to reach so that life can deliver the right clients.

2. Put it in Writing.
Before I could place the order for the book, I had to find the right order page for that book. However, before I could find the right order page, I had to type the right key terms into the search bar. Wouldn’t it have been absurd if I had entered “not Catcher in the Rye, not anything written by Poe…” in my search for “As a Man Thinketh?” Even if the search feature was smart enough to exclude all of that, how long would it take me to get to the book I want? Precision saves time. Write what you want, and be as precise as you can.

Don’t talk about “getting out of debt” when you really mean that you want “financial freedom.” We must choose our search terms carefully so that we can be taken to the right order page of life. You’re not looking for the “debt” order page, so quit using that term!

Vague orders bring vague results and so we never see the connection between our requests and what shows up. Too often we’re placing careless orders unknowingly, and then wonder why life doesn’t go the way we want it to go.

Now, commit to the thing you want by putting it in writing. It’s like entering it into an imaginary search box. It’s the fastest way to get to the right order page. Write it in present tense as though it has already happened. For a deeper explanation on this, read The Jackrabbit Factor.

So, maybe your written statement will say, “February 28th, 2008: I have now sold 20 widgets.” Getting it in writing takes you to Life’s “order page” . . . but you’re not done yet. Neither the book, nor the clients are on their way until you’ve completed the entire order process.

3. Add to Cart.
In my book buying experience, after entering “As a Man Thinketh” in the search tool, it took me to a long list of different books. Some were brand new reprints; some were from the 1980’s. I spent some time narrowing them down, until I found the one that I wanted which was more than 100 years old. Then, after identifying my specific choice, I clicked “Add to Cart.” This is a logical step; after all, I can’t expect the store to ship the book until I have told them precisely which one I want.

This step is comparable to adding detail to your goal statement. You need to spend time creating a more detailed description of the thing you desire. Instead of “February 28th, 2006: I have now sold 20 widgets,” you write, “February 28th, 2006: I am so happy and grateful now that I have sold 20 widgets. I am astounded at how easily the clients came into my life. I am grateful that I was able to provide them something of great value that will help them accomplish their objectives for a price that was fair. We are establishing a positive relationship and expect to do more business together in the future.”

Do this step, and you have just added your desired thing to the big Cart in the Sky.

4. Enter your shipping address.
After the book was in my shopping cart, I had to tell the store where to send it. This step assigns the book I want to the location where I am. It brings together two key pieces of information into one virtual place. Without this step, the bookstore cannot send me the book because they have no address for the package.

Goal setting is no different. Just as the book and my address had to merge into one database, the thing you want needs to be merged with your personal information, too. Notice that during this step, it isn’t the actual book that came together with my actual house; it is simply a representation of the book that came together with a representation of my house.

The same needs to happen with a representation of the victory you want, and a representation of you. How? Picture it done in your mind. See yourself signing those final contracts. With the power of disciplined thoughts, you merge the thing you want, with the person you are. Your mind is the virtual database where it all must come together before the order is filled.

5. Receive Confirmation.
After I filled in my shipping address, it asked for my credit card info. This is where I “pay the price” for the thing I want.

In setting a sales goal, to “pay the price” traditionally refers to “pounding the pavement,” “making the phone calls,” “pulling late nights,” “skipping lunches,” etc.

But that’s wrong. At least, it’s wrong if you really want to prosper.

The last thing required before you receive the order confirmation is to allow yourself to experience the feelings you expect to feel when the goal is reached. It isn’t easy to do, but you need to take your visualization exercise just one step further. Here’s an example:

You’re signing those final contracts, and shaking the customer’s hands, and having the warm exchange of good will. Then you feel the elation well up inside your chest, and you escort them out of the room and close the door after they leave, and feel the cool, metal doorknob in your hand, and hear the heavy wooden door click shut, and you walk to your desk and sit down with a big, huge grin on your face, and tip back for a moment, then reach for the phone to call your spouse, and you hear the dial tones, and then you hear he/she answering, “Hello?” and with tears in your eyes, you tell him/her, “I did it! It was a miracle, but I did it! Let’s go out for dinner tonight!” And your spouse screams on the other line and can hardly speak, and the kids are chattering in the background, “What? What’s going on??”

That’s your price. That’s it. (Don’t watch yourself doing it, BE yourself doing it. Don’t be an outsider looking in, be in it where all you see of yourself is your arms on your armrests and your lap in front of you, and your feet way down there.)

If you spend some time generating those kinds of images in your mind, and feel the exhilaration of success, you’ve done it. You’ve paid the price. And, as those feelings swell inside of you and as tears really well up in your eyes, that is your confirmation. Printing that receipt is optional by describing your assurance in this moment on paper, so you can look at it later as a hedge against doubt.

Trust Life to keep its promise, and go about your business in peace. No need for frantic rushing around, pushing, forcing; you’ve already paid the price. Go about your business with a calm assurance that it is already a done deal.

The right clients are on their way and will connect with you naturally as you go about your day to day activities. Spend time with your family. Enjoy a little recreation. Be at peace.

In the right time, you’ll have a thought to call so-n-so or follow up with someone else. Simply follow the thought. Do what it says.

This is the final step:

6. Expect it to Come, and Open the Door.
After I made the payment, and I received my confirmation, the book was on its way. I needed only to expect it, watch for it, refrain from canceling it, and answer the door when it arrived.

As for your goal to sell 20 widgets, if you’ve gone through the entire order process, and received confirmation, expect it, watch for it, refrain from canceling it with unbelief, and when opportunity knocks (because it will), answer the door.

By faith it comes to you; by action you receive it.

Keep in mind that you will still likely be required to perform many tasks and overcome many obstacles that get in the way. You’ll probably have ample evidence that it “isn’t going to work,” but your job is to remain at peace with a quiet confidence in your pending success. You may not know how it will work, but you must refuse to give up until there truly is nothing more that can be done.

Related: How to Know if You’ll Reach the Goal (podcast)

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Midnight Ramblings on the Law of Relativity

So… I’ve been out of town for a month, and we’ve finally caught up on laundry and cleaned out the trailer and so forth, and here I have a quiet moment to prepare another article.

Hmmm… what shall be my topic?

Well, I’m just going to start rambling, and let’s see what comes out. This could be interesting, as it is after midnight (that’s why I have a quiet moment) and you never know what might come out when I should probably be asleep.

So… let’s talk about the Law of Relativity.

I picked this topic because it is something we all employ every day, whether we know it or not. When we use it properly, life gets better. When we use it improperly (which is the default setting for most of us), life seems hard.

The Law of Relativity states that nothing we experience is fundamentally good nor bad. Just like the immutable fact that “Energy Is”, each life experience we have also “Just Is”.

Let me explain:

Our mind has three main components: the conscious mind (our “aware” mind), the sub-conscious mind (which keeps our life-sustaining functions operating automatically), and our body (the “tool” of the mind).

When we gather data with our five physical senses, the information comes in with no inherent significance. It is our conscious mind which attaches “meaning” to the data input. Our conscious mind decides whether the experience is good or bad, strongly influenced by “programs” running constantly in the background of our sub-consciousness.

For example, if an income check arrives in the mail for $4000, the figure “Just Is”.

It simply – is – what – it – is.

For a person who has a subconscious program running that says he is accustomed to receiving income checks for $1500 at a time, the $4000 check he sees is GOOD, and would probably initiate very positive feelings.

However, for a person whose subconscious program says he is accustomed to receiving income checks for $22,000 at a time, the $4000 check will appear BAD and may initiate feelings of panic and despair.

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The truth? The $4000 check JUST IS.

 

Without conscious mind interception, the person who sees it as bad will begin to FEEL bad, and by law, his body will begin to move into a “negative” vibration. In this condition, he is cut off from his personal link to inspiration: the instinctive part of him that can lead him to the very solution he needs.

In order to keep the channels of inspirational guidance open, he must remember that the $4000 check is not good nor bad, it just IS; and his conscious mind has a God-given ABILITY to purposely assign a positive meaning to the data input. By assigning a positive meaning to it, and feeling good about it (even though it is not what was expected), by law his body will move into a positive vibration and open the way for the solution to eventually be discovered.

How does it happen?

Well, when he chooses a grateful and positive state, he not only keeps the channels open with God, but also prepares himself to make connections with the right people who will say or do the right things to trigger the ideas which will open the way for him to come out on top in the long run… without fail, so long as he perseveres in the positive, hopeful, and expectant state.

(People around him will be attracted to him and his purpose, and he will find the right help from the right people, just at the right time.)

The Law of Relativity can help this happen.

 

Here’s how:

Whatever life delivers, know this: it Just Is. It is not good nor bad, until you compare it to something else. If you constantly feel life has been beating you down, it is because you have conditioned yourself to expect it should have delivered something different.

You have decided that what has happened, should NOT have happened to you.

However, the truth is that what has happened in your life is perfect – providing you gifts disguised as hardships, delivered on schedule according to a combination of natural law, your thoughts/actions, and the grand design of things; so that you could have opportunity through your free agency to find the “seed of equal or greater benefit” (promised by Napoleon Hill), and become a better, happier, more fulfilled person in the long run.

What is… is perfect. That disappointment, that heartache, that pain, that burden, is perfect, and is actually a gift.

Why?

Without the hardship, the benefit attached (that exists, by law, though not generally obvious) could never be yours.

The problem is that if we fail to discover the treasure contained in the hardship, we are given the “privilege” of experiencing it time and time again, until the lesson and benefit it contains is finally learned and enjoyed.

As James Allen describes in “As a Man Thinketh”, when a man completely and genuinely alters his thoughts about his [problem], and discovers the true perspective that God intends for him to adopt, it will “become so out of harmony with his mentality that it falls out of his life as a garment is cast aside, and, with the growth of opportunities, which fit the scope of his expanding powers, he passes out of it forever.”

How, then, do we change the way we feel about our troubles? How can we possibly assign positive meaning to something that seems so intolerable?

Use the Law of Relativity:

Think about how it could be worse, and simply generate feelings of gratitude that it isn’t.

Instead of using the Law against yourself, by constantly comparing your situation to others who appear more happy, work WITH the law by comparing your situation to how much worse it was before (as the case may be) or to how much worse it could be.

You have much to be grateful for, and genuine gratitude never goes unrewarded.

Here is a true story to help you feel better about your situation, because I am confident that you are not financially worse off than this:

Success Magazine did a piece on one of the wealthiest men in the country, and it stated, “Not everything has gone his way, of course. In the early 1990s, for example, [he] struggled to stay in business during a deep slump in the commercial real estate market. Unable to make payments on $9.2 billion in debt, he writes… that a low point came when he passed a beggar on the street and realized the beggar ‘was worth $9.2 billion more than [him].’”

Wow. Here, at his low point, this man actually used the Law of Relativity against himself. How would you like to be financially worth nine billion dollars LESS than a beggar?

The good news is that he was smart enough to stop the negative thinking cycle, and consciously chose his focus. The article continues by saying he “recovered by concentrating on how to revive his business, and not panicking over its problems. ‘I focused on the solution, not the problems. I was steadfast in my positive approach. Sure I had a lot of big problems, but I regained my focus and just kept working at it, knowing it would work out.’”

His $9.2 billion negative net worth turned into billions in a positive net worth through his commitment to disciplined thoughts and actions. (Law of Polarity in action, too! Hmmm… I wonder, where now is the beggar?)

He who thinks his lot is the hardest (financial, or otherwise) has the greatest opportunity for joy and accomplishment, but it requires re-learning his understanding of the way life works. He must be as humble as a child, choose to worry not what anyone thinks of him, turn to God and consider the possibility that if he learns how God wants him to think, life will finally begin to improve.

If, after changing his thinking a bit, life hasn’t improved, or if he does not have the peace of mind and fulfillment he se
eks, then the thinking-alteration process is not yet complete.

Too many people refuse to consider that the way they think could actually be completely wrong. Of those who consider the possibility, too many lack the determination to discover the truth, which can be an exciting and joyful journey, or it can also be a time-consuming and uncomfortable process.

Either way, he who submits to it until the process is complete will experience uncommon freedom and fulfillment, enjoying a degree of serenity and achievement that could never be comprehended before.

So, how can a person know if his thinking is off-kilter?

If he is unhappy, there is some new thinking that God wants him to learn.

(Perhaps he must begin by choosing to believe that the above statement is true – because it might not be his present way of thinking to believe so.)

YOU might be thinking, “No, he is unhappy because he needs to behave differently.” The fact is, that all behavior springs forth out of that person’s way of thinking.

If we want to change our behavior we must begin with changed thoughts. If the behavior must be changed radically, then there must be a radical change in our way of thinking.

If we are unhappy, it is the unhappiness that is also a gift; an internal guidance system that keeps us searching until we find the answer. When the answer is found, we can experience true happiness – the kind that is deep and abiding.

If the happiness has not been found, the search is simply not over.

All aspirations have one ultimate purpose: to find happiness.

Here is a nugget of truth that, even when spelled out plainly, will elude the understanding of many, but it is one of profound truth:

When we cease to wait for external factors to “cause us to be happy” and rather find happiness and peace of mind just as our external factors are, ironically, that is when our circumstances finally begin to change. However, you must not seek happiness now for the purpose of changing your circumstances, or the “happiness” you find will not be the real thing. Your intentions will trap or liberate you, depending on what they are.

When happiness cannot be found “as things are”, then the promise “seek and ye shall find” guarantees that if you seek happiness, and you intend to find it without any alteration of external factors, then God will nudge you this way or that, and give you suggested action steps, that if you follow, will assuredly lead the way. It’s a guidance system you were given at birth which members of the Mormon faith refer to as the “Light of Christ.”

Happiness is a natural byproduct of lawful living, and by “lawful” I mean, living by the Laws of God. These are not just the 7 laws of success discussed in my Hidden Treasures book, but they also encompass the 10 Commandments, and so forth.

God’s laws were established and given to show us the way to happiness. Living by law is not restrictive, but liberating.

A kite may appear to be held down by the string, when in reality it is the “restrictive” string that keeps it in the air. Otherwise, it would be tossed about, only to ultimately crash into the ground.

The same goes for the Laws of God. On the surface it may appear that the laws are restrictive, keeping us from being free to do whatever we want to do. But like a kite without a string, when we disregard the laws of God, we feel free for a time, but will eventually come crashing down; and the only way to return to the freedom of the skies, so to speak, is to re-adhere to His law and LET the winds of life blow our way!

Allow the hardships to be the wind that keeps you soaring!

THAT’S how to soar.

THAT’S the formula for success:

Adhere to Law and let the stormy winds of life blow!

Don’t wish for no wind; don’t wish for no hardships, because without them you can have no true joy.

However, just because there is a stormy wind does not automatically mean the kite will fly; it must adhere to the string (law) and face the wind head-on.

Ease will never compare to joy.

So what is your goal? An easy life? Or happiness no matter what comes your way?

Well, that’s all for now. It’s nearly 2:30… I think I’ve rambled enough. 🙂

To your success!

Leslie Householder

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